my x and i have been divorced for over 4 years and we have a doughter together, when i'm trying to arange pick up and drop off times for his weekends his new girlfriend can't controll herself, she ends up cousing me out and threatning me and it would be easier if i could just talk to him but she won't allow it.she insist that all arangements be made threw her. i'm trying to be nice and just make the arangements ang go our seperate ways but it seems she just loves to fight. i'd love to put her in her place but i just don't think she's that important.
2007-09-06 19:21:17 · 8 answers · asked by girlie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he wants to see his child, HE will contact you and make the arrangements/
2007-09-06 19:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call you attorney, it's part of the divorce proceedings. Let him know what's going on and, your going to cut your Ex off from your daughter due to the stability he has with this woman. Tell him you don't think she's going into a healthy atmosphere and, do it. Let your husband know, you'll no longer go through this women, she has no rights what so ever between you two and, you want her out of the picture if he wants to see his daughter. Other wise go for a "go between" IE: A friend of the court, per se, so he can see her at your house for several hours, without this woman.
There are ways to take care of this, have your attorney challenge him.
2007-09-07 00:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are correct --- she is not important... and a good way to handle this type of personality as she blows up in front of you is to ask her "Are you alright??? Do you need some help?" If she begins to threaten you with whatever, call off the pick up time, take your daughter back inside and simply tell her, " I'm sorry. This is not language I wish my child to hear, nor do I. Call when you feel better." Then leave. This type of language is call "extinguishing"... you do not rise to the bait, and you are setting the ground rules for future contact... It's a bit tricky, because you'd really just love to let her have it.
And actually, you ought not to have to deal with her at all... where are your ex's balls?? You can for sure simply tell him you refuse to deal with her, and her foul mouth, and that if he does not wish to come to get his child himself, your child won't be available... that you feel her behavior is out of line, and unacceptable..... Make him take you to court. As well, tape any interaction you have with her to prove your point.... that this lady and the environment she is creating is not in the best interest of the future development of your daughter.
No one, sweetie, needs to put up with foul mouth and cussing words.... no one, not you, and not your daughter... The poor lady is so insecure that she feels the only way she can control your ex and control you is to put "pointy" remarks on all four of her corners, so to speak... legally, you have a case against her to be the go-between between your daughter and your husband...Quite frankly, it is none of her business, and you can make that stick in court, if it gets to that. Better your ex grow some balls.... (and as an aside, if and when he does, he'll dump her....)
2007-09-06 19:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be talk to an attorney, or just go to the court house yourself and see if there is anything that can be done. Id say ignore the chick since shes being immature, but its hard to do when she wont let you talk to your ex. Best of luck to you!
2007-09-06 19:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by You can do it!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too nice here. Tell her off and put her in her place. Your daugther is between you and you ex she has nothing to do with it. Tell you ex that he had better get her under control and stop letting her interfere. You only want to deal with him and he had better make that happen. Stand up for your self or expect to get stepped on.
2007-09-06 19:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's got 2 children in his house (not just his daughter), and you should tell him so. If he's going to be too "wimpy" to set her straight, go back to court to arrange supervised visitation (w/o her being present). This should keep your daughter away from the bad language & the bad example!
2007-09-06 21:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously has issues with you taling to him (jealousy), so, you need to beat her at her own game...only talk with him...after all, it is not her child. call him at work, or whatever you need to do...if shes that psycho, i wouldnt let my child go near her!! call an attorney, and have it legally that the only communications are to bo between you and him...that will KILL her...
2007-09-06 23:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, get your ex husband to contact you every time.
2007-09-06 19:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋