My hubby oneday said, i don't want to be married, I want my freedom, I want no responsiblity of taking care of you are anybody else. He wants to be free and live his life. He moved out of the bedroom 3 weeks ago, out cell phone bill came higher then normal, so i checked our minutes, we were ok, but, then i looked at the text message and he had 20/30 text a day from two woman, he said "oh they are friends from work who like to send jokes. Well, one of the phone numbers was on there in the middle of the night.......friends hu, when i confronted him, he got pissed and said i was "sic" and hasn't came home since then. I don't want him back, i just want the pain to go away.......If you only knew me, I am a good woman and thought are marriage was the best ever. Never did we have major problems.....i feel there is another woman...why would he do this to us, broken heart in Las Vegas........
2007-09-06 18:34:27 · 19 answers · asked by Gonzo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is gonna hurt for awhile. He betrayed you, the one person that should've been there through thick and thin. It hurts, I know.
You just take it a day at a time. Days turn to weeks,and weeks to months. You will wake up one morning and realize that you don't miss him at all.
2007-09-06 19:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain and I'm sorry *hugs*
There is no way to explain why he would do this but it does happen and of course we end up with the broken hearts. If this is what he wants, let him have it. You can and deserve much better then him! As far as another woman, yeah there might be but if there is, he will do the same to her. In the end Karma will get him, he will realize the grass isn't greener on the other side.
Only time will heal the pain and hurt and broken heart. Try to write in a journal, hang out with friends, and do your thing.
Good luck with everything!
2007-09-07 02:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by You can do it!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one and only thing that can cure the pain of losing someone is time. Your situation is so hard to get through because with the loss of just the actual person comes a huge sense of inadequacy due to the infidelity. Thing is....wouldn't matter if you were the champion of all wives....if a man is going to cheat he is going to. It is not a direct hit on who you are as a woman. Like you said...you are a good woman. It is about him and his integrity. It really sucks knowing it will take time to heal. From where you are standing now it seems like forever from now. But trust me, one day you will look back and realize even just one more minute spent with a man who didn't cherish you completely was too long. Best wishes and stay strong. This is most likely merely a lesson to make you a stronger person and get you ready for the love of your life who is living through adversities himself and preparing for you.
2007-09-07 01:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry he did you this way!! Did you say Vegas? If so, there are lots of prospects he could of been looking at there!! Time will heal your pain. That's the only thing that will!!! If you would like, talk to someone like a male friend and maybe that will help get your mind off of him faster!!!
Marriages aren't forever now a days like they used to be!! Its crazy!! Til death do you part used to mean something!! I guess not to some people!! I wish you the best of luck and I bet, he did you a favor because you deserve more!!! I hope I made you feel a little better!!:)
2007-09-07 01:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you feel devastated, but hallelujah the jerk is gone. He just thinks he's going to have his freedom. When your head clears enough you will realize that he will never be free because he has an ex and kids to support. The joke is on him. Get a really, really, really good and expensive attorney and sue him for the costs!!! Take him the cleaners then let it go. Don't try to make his life miserable, be communicative and cooperative, but don't let him off the hook for all the financial support you can get. As the children grow, he will have to pay even more money. Not too many women are willing to put up with a man who pays so much money to ex and children or who quits his job or takes a lower paying job just to avoid his responsibilities. Oh, he has created quite a mess for himself!!
2007-09-07 01:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... and in vegas... if i didn't know any better i would say you're married to my ex husband..... after speaking with many of his mistresses... (some in person)... i filed for divorce in 2005.... what helped me out.... is that i knew i was the bigger person.... and i knew (hoped) that one day he would learn what he had and be sorry he did what he did... i just kept reminding myself that i was a good person and didn't deserve non-sense.... so if he wanted to be immature i was glad it was happening then and not later..... cause it would give me more time to get MY life back on track.... it didn't help that he didn't really even seem to care that he hurt me... but i knew that one day i would feel good about the way i handled myself.... well just to let you know how the story ended... the last girl that he cheated on me with did him absolutely DIRTY! she made my situation with him seem like a walk in the park.... and now in 2007.... i still get messages through friends, and sometimes when i see him how he would do anything to have me back, and how he screwed up because i was the best thing for him..... moral of the story is... count is as a blessing.... if the grass looks so green on the other side ..... get a gardner that is more loyal! you don't need him.
2007-09-07 02:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by chrysteena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never saw a problem in my relationship either.We never fought and we were together for 14yrs. We told each other we loved each other at least once per day. I threw her out when I found out. We tried to get back together but the trust was gone.Its been a year last month and I still think about her.I don't think that pain will go away for a long time and it affects my relationships now. I still miss her and I always will .
But life goes on and I will find the woman that was meant for me.
2007-09-07 02:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by jg6277 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take more time before settling down with anyone else. My fiancee & I have been seeing each other for 4 years, and I'm still not sure that it's something that will last. As for the pain, well ... my 3rd marriage ended in March of '02, and I can't honestly say I'm over it yet (probably why I'm not sure this time). You're not alone, sister.
2007-09-07 01:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the pain will last for quite some time. the best solution which is often difficult is to find someone else quickly to become involved with. the name of this "on the rebound" and often is not a lasting relationship but helps with the pain. middle of the night phone text or calls is a sure sign of other involvement he should not have called you sick when he is obviously cheating. I feel for you..........
2007-09-07 01:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by t_bone3003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing available to heal and it helps if you start by keeping occupied with a job or hobby and move on with your life. I lived on my own for 3 years before I was ready to start looking for another companion in life. Take your time and start thinking of yourself and what you want.
2007-09-07 01:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋