I over heard a private conversation with my mom and sister. that my sister friend was going to sleep over that night they were going to watch a movie. my sister mention to my mom that her friend sometimes wet the bed. my sister and her friend are real tight..there good friends my mom said thats not a problem. I left the house went out to the movies with friends.came back with my friend doug .I was arguing with my sister over something we are all in living room. my mother ask me and doug to go to the store to pick up some soda and milk for the house. Then i said while Im out there do you want me pick up some diapers for the bedwetter. In a nut shell the girl ran upstairs crying. I GOT SLAPPED IN THE FACE. my mom told me why would I say that knowing that i had the same problem wetting the bed when I was 13 years old. she told me to grow up your 16 not 2. the next day I went to bestbuy and bought the complete friends dvd collection for my friends sister as an apology. she wont except it.
2007-09-06 18:05:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I had the same problem when I was her age. when I said does she need diapers I MEANT AS A JOKE NOT TO BE MEAN!!!
2007-09-06 18:31:04 · update #1
my mom told me If someone said that to me back then that I needed to where diapers when I had that problem. I would be upset too. Maybe I would I dont know?
2007-09-06 18:48:49 · update #2
I'm sorry to tell you that even though you can look back and think what you said was a joke, it was extremely insensitive and unthinking. I would not accept the gift either. You humiliated her beyond comprehension, and a gift of something bought at the shop won't repair the embarassment she must have felt by your terrible and I believe, comment made with the inent to embarass. Try a heartfelt apology in a personally written letter.
2007-09-06 19:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bedwetting is a medical condition (in the UK it's known as eneurisis) and I myself suffered from it long after a child would have "grown out of it".
I don't think it's funny at all, even meant as a joke to you, your words have seriously hurt this girl. She must be so ashamed of her condition.
No wonder she won't accept the DVD boxset - you think you can do something wrong then straight away BUY something and everything will be forgotten. The world doesn't work like that......
You should write her a letter, sincerely apologise and tell her how bad you feel (if you do!!!) Then give it her/mail it, and leave her alone until she comes to see you (if she does!)
Your sister will probably be angry at you too - her friend may not come to the house anymore, and will also be wary of sleepovers ANYWHERE now!
Damn right, your mom is annoyed, maybe at 16 you're too old to be slapped, but it was her reaction at that time and she did it without thinking. You mom wants better for you than the person who you are/the bitchy person you were at that time.
Put yourself in the other girls shoes and look at the situation the other way round - how would you like it???
2007-09-06 19:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by Joyful97 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things are funny, others just cross the line. Hate to say it dude, but that crossed the line (especially if you had the same problem). She was obviously very nervous about the whole ordeal and, like someone else said, doesn't get the chance very often. You took a personal, embarrassing problem and rubbed it in her face. You deserved a lot more than being slapped in the face. I can't blame her, you really hurt her friend. Nothing much to do about it now. Personally, I would apologize to her friend. It will show you're a man and can own up to your mistakes. Then just put it behind you and keep a watch on your sharp tongue in the future.
2007-09-06 18:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by milan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How could you say that in front of the sister's friend? You're putting strain on their friendship because now the friend probably feels as if your sister betrayed her trust by telling her whole family about a personal problem. You've also probably made that girl feel completely humiliated and horribly uncomfortable.
I don't want to be mean, but you deserved more than a slap in the face.
You have some serious apologizing to do... and to a lot of people.
2007-09-06 18:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the truth hurts.
But it's not necessary, especially in a sarcastic, jokingly way.
Wetting the bed is a problem for some kids (like how it was for you).
Being slapped in the face, don't worry about it.. your mother was probably just shocked by what you said. Just apologise to your mum and tell her it was a bad joke.
Your sister's friend will get over it, if she doesn't want that dvd set. Just keep it. She'll get over it. And your apology intention is already there...she's just being stubborn now Or even embarrassed.
2007-09-06 18:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by k4talwayz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been rude and immature. utilizing something that individuals discover embarrassing and private (you eavesdropped, keep in mind???) as a comedian tale approximately somebody replaced into downright rude and humiliating. in case you think of identifying to purchase DVDs is going to make up for this, you're way off. A slap interior the face is the least you're able to are transforming into. experience fortunate you purchased off with that. you have touched a very mushy place in that woman's coronary heart and accomplished a brilliant form of harm. you have a brilliant form of explaining to do, and to better than purely that woman. i don't be attentive to what the component of your "question" is yet so a techniques as i'm in touch you purchased what you deserved-- and not adequate. purely an completely ignorant guy or woman does no longer have wide-unfold how horribly the girl might have taken that remark. shame on you. Get some manners, end eavesdropping, and strengthen UP.
2016-10-10 02:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by ciel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a t w a t. Do you think buying things will make up for the fact that you are an idoit? no it will not. Mom and sis should have kept things move confidential and made sure they were in private where you, the T W A T, could not over hear. You deserve to get punished. She has a medical issue. She has no control over this, her mind does not connect to her bladder so you need to be more respectful. I bet you are the type of person that will make fun of the mentally chalenged.
2007-09-06 19:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, what's your question? If you're asking us what you should do, my advice would be GROW UP!! How would you feel if you were humiliated like that? I really hope your sister does everything in her power to make your life H*LL for a little while.....you deserve it. Did you even try saying sorry to the girl? It seems like you bought a gift and expected instant forgiveness......I hope you feel really stupid.
The worst part is now the girl probably thinks your sister and mom told everyone about her problem since you OVERHEARD their conversation. You should probably stop listening in on private conversations as well.
2007-09-06 18:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well the comment you made was a bit uncalled for. try to remember how you felt about still doing that at that age and how you would react if someone made that comment to you. thats good you got her something as a apology but also talk to her and tell her that you are sorry and that it is not her fault. wetting the bed at that age plays a big role on their emotions and such. however, i dont think it warranted a smack in the face. grounding would have sufficed. good luck.
2007-09-07 09:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were a jerk for saying that, but you did make the attempt at an apology. Honestly, I wouldn't accept it either. You made her feel embarressed and uncomfortable. I'm sure you didn't mean to hurt her feelings, but you really did. Try apologizing again, but be prepared that it might not work.
2007-09-06 18:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by Raina 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋