I have been married for 2 years and the other week i kissed a girl while i was out at a club. Is it still cheating? even though if he was there he would have got us both, and enjoyed it??
2007-09-06 18:02:14 · 15 answers · asked by musicchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its cheating still
2007-09-06 22:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question depends on your definition of cheating. Would you get upset if your husband had kissed this girl instead of you? If you would, you may be setting yourself up to look like a hypocrite.
Is this a one time thing done on impulse that you don't have definite plans to do again or a pattern of behavior? Have you always wanted to pursue an actual sexual/romantic relationship with someone other than your husband (specifically another woman), or is this meaningless to you because there are no feelings involved on your part?
I am bisexual, but I'm personally only interested with being sexually involved with one person at a time because that's what I expect of my partners and I don't want to sub-divide my attention while in a relationship already or make anyone feel used only for sexual gratification. Plus, I tend to have difficulty separating sex and emotions...I would have trouble going around kissing other girls with out getting emotional and probably giving my husband reason to get jealous because I would start falling in love, which would in turn probably leave him feeling threatened/like he could lose me to someone else. I would just advise caution because my experiences with these type of situations have not been happy.
But I digress...to answer your question simply, I would say it's only not "cheating" if you're not lying/sneaking around and if your husband doesn't mind or even encourages the behavior...but that doesn't mean it couldn't cause some problems down the road...or not... it's your life of course and who's to say what will happen? I would just say you should be careful so you don't get burned.
Just my opinion...
2007-09-07 01:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Janineisacoolsouthernchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think every couple has different boundaries. If you're married you should know the boundaries by now, and you should be able to discuss it with your husband so you both know where you stand.
I've never been married but my main thing with cheating is I would think about how I would feel if my partner was doing the same thing, and also try to assume how he would feel about me doing it. If I wasnt sure about either of those I wouldnt do it.
I dont necessarily think that just because it was with a girl, it makes any difference, I mean it could still pose a threat to your relationship with your husband even though it may just seem like a bit of fun to you
2007-09-07 01:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by zimba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are the decent morals anymore.
They seem to have flown out the coop!
You should not be kissing anyone, your married.
Your husband should not be encouraging you to mess around with another female so he can get arouse.
That's just sick and wrong, pure and simple.
Your marriage will not last and 10 yrs from now, you will be wondering what went wrong.
Well I hope you remember this letter then.
right is right and wrong is wrong!
2007-09-07 01:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think in a sense it is probably... a freind of mine "walked into" his wife making out with a girl and now he has absolutely no interest in her.. he doesnt find her attractive anymore and doesnt even wehat to touch her.. he said he thought (beofre it happend) that it would have been a turn on but then when he actually did see it that he was so sickend and that it was jsut as bad as if it was a guy
your husband may be diff about it though.... so hard to say
2007-09-07 01:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by amandica82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is still cheating because you aren't telling your husband. if you approached him and openly talked about it befor it happened you would then know how he felt about it. seeing as you have already cheeted i think honesty is the best policy you never know he might ask you to invite her over for some threesome action hahaha...just be fragile with his emaotions you never know how people can react.
2007-09-07 01:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Meggie T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating regardless of whether you would or would not have had his permission. It does not matter whether it is another man or a woman. You took vows. It is a case of whether or not you have moral character.
2007-09-07 01:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where your mind and heart were when you were doing the kissing.
I'd say "Yes, it was still cheating."
Kev
2007-09-07 01:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Hobgoblin Kev 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's still cheating. Hopefully if you have a threesome your hubby will run off with the other chick.
2007-09-07 01:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i meann, if that's yo thing, then you do what you gotta do, but me, personally, i believe that uhh, that kinda sin was the reason for hurricane katrina. if you look at the bible, and you look at the facts, lesbians and gay people are the reason, well pretty much why all the bad things happen in this country. but ya know, you do what you gotta do, i mean, i saw lesbians on degrassi, and it was pretty hot. but ya know, like ya know, i dont need that in my life right now. i dont need to be hearin dis.
2007-09-07 01:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋