okay im 17 and so is he and i just found out I'm 6 weeks pregnant (abortion isn't an option) my parents already know and are helping me our biggest problem is his parents. we know they won't be nice about it and hes freaked they'll kick him out. his parents are scary when mad. i want to be there when he tells them. they don;t like me already and its so nerve racking but its not like we can hide it. how should we tell them? should we be ready to run away from the house? whats better? a letter face to face a phone call? HELP!
2007-09-06 17:33:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well most parents would be upset because they know you aren't ready... try face to face it is the respectful thing to do. Don't prove them right by being cowardly or immature. YOU be the adult now. Stay calm and state the facts and admit you two were irresponsible, but that the situation is what it is. But remember these are his parents, and they probably love him a lot and just want what's best for him. You'd probably flip too if your baby hadn't even graduated and was expecting a baby.
2007-09-06 17:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by xuliganwhit 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Take his parents to a public place, a restaurant for dinner and tell them - that way you can be brave face to face and be safe (or feel safe) by being some where they will probably not start screaming and yelling.
It will be rough for both of you (him more so after you go home i imagine) but you re being very strong, courageous and you have the support of your parents, so just hope for the best that they will maybe do the same - parents tend to surprise people in situations like this.
Good luck
2007-09-07 00:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Finchy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy! My advice is to find the courage to do a face to face sit down talk with them. While a letter or phone call may be easier because you avoid eye contact, you need to be there in person to give the news. Pick a time when you can both be there, and when there are no other distractions. It might help to find out if his parents have had an already stressful day.
Hopefully, they will support you and him. But if they don't, just remember that there are many resources available to you! Please look into your states Medicaid and WIC program, if you qualify you should not feel guilty about receiving help for your unborn child.
2007-09-07 00:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Cara D 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you really want to do what is best you should let him tell his parents and you shouldn't be there at all. He needs to become a man and face the music himself and not hide behind you. They are going to have some things to get of their chest and it would be best if you were not there so that it gets of their chest if your there they might hold back and hold it in and it will come to show its ugly little pimple face later on. So it is best if you let him handle it and then they will be okay with you that you didn't come with him. If it were my child i would hate if he brought his girlfriend to tell me. I would like if he just came to me and told me and then let me handle it how ever i wanted to handle it. I can tell you this at the end your boyfriends parents will adore the baby. Give them the space and time they need with their son. I promise if you do this at the end it will work out real good for you. He really does not need you to protect him and he will love you that much more for giving him the time to deal with his parents. They are his parents and he should tell them about it and you told your parents. You have great parents to stand behind you and most parents are as great as your parents are.
2007-09-07 00:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, don't run away from home. You are still a minor which means lots of things that you do not want to deal with, especially while pregnant. Tell them face to face, that is their son you are speaking of and his life, as this may not seem to important to you guys right now, it will be very important very soon. Good luck!
2007-09-07 01:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Brooke S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have your parents with you also when you tell his. Since your parents are being supportive, it will be good to have some adults on your side so in case his don't react well, more mature adults can step in and try and make peace (or get you and him out safely).
Good luck.
2007-09-07 00:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just have both of you sit down with his parents and tell them. Face to face is always best. If you are really worried, I would have your parents go with you two over there to talk to them. I would not wait too long either. It is better to get the stress of that off of you and let them know so they have time to deal with it too.
2007-09-07 00:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by s g 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You need to do the grown up thing and face them. If you can't handle that thought, you never should have ope'd your lap. They have every right to be mad at both of you. You've screwed up your future. Do this baby a favor and give him or her up for adoption to someone who is already mature enough to handle it. You're spazzing about telling the grandparents, so obviously that's not you. You made your bed and you've lain in it, now it's time to face the morning sun.
2007-09-07 00:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by guildemasterstclare 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
if they really love there son they will support you two no matter what love is unconditional like you will be when your baby is born.at first they wont be happy but when they see that precious little life every thing will change trust me
2007-09-07 00:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by lip o 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, ya'll really messed up. Hope your child doesn't suffer because ya'll didn't even think about what your actions would cause. Why should your parents have to bear the burden of raising you and your kid and supporting you both? His parents should be mad, so should yours.
2007-09-07 00:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 6⤋