Well since i found out i was pregnant my partner has been supportive but at the same time angry about my decision. Some days he will be really happy about it an say how proud he is and he talks to the baby and loves feeling it move. But then other days he makes comments like it was your choice so stop complaining(i black out alot and still get sick), you wanted it i didnt and i never will!
Its really confusing! He has been drinking really heavily lately after he agreed that he would cut down. So i started riding him about that alot. We broke up the other day and then two days later i walked in on him in bed with another chick. I went and stayed at his house so i could get to work and we slept together after he said that he missed me and he loved me and he was sorry for being an jerk. I found out the next day that he had slept with 4 people since we split. We are now back together and its really weird but we are making the best with what we have.
2007-09-06 17:25:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I realized that the only reason we fought was when i was asking him to quit his drinking and adding stress onto him. I feel that i am entitled to do so because i am four months pregnant and i need his support as a straight person not an intoxicated idiot.
Anyway im not going to do that anymore because he must be having alot of emotions aswell and fear so im just going to let him be for a while.
So i was thinking about just not telling him about my doctors appointments or anything or about the baby unless he asks and wants to know. Do u think that aprouch would work and then he would be able to get involved in the pregnancy when he is ready and he can control how much he wants to be involved??
Plz help
2007-09-06 17:30:43 · update #1
I totally understand how you feel. My boyfriend was doing the same thing. One day he would be totally for it and the next saying he hated me pretty much. I did not want to give up on him because he is a great man so I stuck it out and around 7 months he completely changed and started to do everything for me and helped me so much. He loves his daughter so much. Some guys just need time to adjust. Its not easy especially sense our hormones are all crazy but I would give him more time. But sleeping with our people is not right whatsoever. You need to let him no that for sure. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-09-06 17:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We are not together and never will be again. Oh and when i walked in the room i had an envolope n all he said was is that mine and smiled his *** off." I am quoting you from one of your other posts a few days ago. it seems like you already made the choice of not being with him.
"so if i am pregnant how do i tell my bf, we have only been going out a month. We have had a brief talk about what we would do if i ever fell pregnant and he said he would stay with me but im only 15 and he's 19." I AM QUOTING YOU FROM ANOTHER POST 6 MONTHS AGO. IT IS AGAINST THE LAW FOR A 19 YR. OLD MALE TO HAVE SEX WITH A FEMALE UNDER THE AGE OF 18. HE NEEDS TO BE REPORTED TO THE AUTHORITIES.
your best bet now is to take care of yourself and your unborn child. seek support from your family and friends right now. Be sure to seek legal counsel as to how the child support should be handled. Also, get checked for STDS since he's been sleeping around. Certain sexually transmitted diseases will harm your child so get tested as soon as you can.
Seek counseling for yourself to figure things out. From what I've read on your many posts, you seem very confused, emotional, and lost. Talk to your parents about what you are feeling. Taking care of an infant at your age is a HUGE responsibility. Have you considered adoption? You can have an open adoption, you pick out the parents you want to care for your child, and have contact with them based upon legal arrangements made with them.
please really think this through. Don't drop out of high school either. Continue your education and really look into what is best for the baby.
2007-09-06 17:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if he takes that approach once the baby is born. Do you want him there one day then gone the next?? He's not ready to become a parent and I can see it coming. Making the best of this situation is not going to work because he's not ready!!! I don't know how old you guys are but you're not married so he's not committed. Find somewhere safe and stable for you to live and treat everything he says like bullsh!t.
Don't let him use you!! You're pregnant what if he brings you a disease or get one of those 4 girls he's SLEEPING with not slept pregnant cuz huney he's not done yet. He needs help w/ his drinking before he can become a father and a Man to you.
2007-09-06 17:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by Niinnaa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have one suggestion... start listening to Dr. Laura Schlezinger on the radio... if she heard something like that she would fall to the ground... is this really the guy your want to raise a child with? A child deserves a loving, stable home... with TWO parents who contribute their lives to him/her. I wouldn't look twice at a guy who turned around and slept with other women while I was pregnant... he's clearly not commited to you. He's got a drinking problem .... what do you think he'll do to your baby once its born and wont stop crying??? Dr. Laura would advise to leave his house, move in with your parents, and either rasie the child with your parents, or give it up for adoption.... I tend to agree.
2007-09-06 17:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Tootiefrootie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It seems that he is having alot of feelings too, but it is NEVER OK for him to make you feel like crap for keeping the baby. I personally would never stay with a man that treated me that way. I would let him go, cause if he is so committed to you he would have never had sex with 4 women. Granted you two "broke up" but that is not a man. A real man would be there for you and your baby. If he does not want to be a part of the baby's life.. let him just be a sperm donor....
2007-09-06 17:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by s g 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't want to tell you what to do, but I would have packed my **** and left him. What the hell are you doing with him? Do you want your child to put up with that same behaviour? Better yet, if you have a daughter, do you want her to go and sleep with a guy that treats HER like this? It's time YOU become a role model. Do what you would want your child to do. Oh sure, he's sorry, do you think he was sorry when he was lying in bed with those floozies?
2007-09-06 17:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by xuliganwhit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, he doesnt seem like a very good role model for a child.
But if you want him to be part of your baby's life he needs to be!
IF nothing else, he should definitly pay you child support.
Good Luck.
2007-09-06 17:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And you chose to have a baby with a drunk womanizing person? If he can't be good to you, what made you think he'd be good to a baby?
And yes, you chose this because you certainly could have prevented it.
2007-09-06 17:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave him and make sure you get him for child support.
2007-09-06 17:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋