A little bit about me, I've been married for 4 years, just started college 2 weeks ago, SAHM to 2 wonderful boys one is almost 3 and the other 15 months. Things have slowly gotten worse over the years. He has been very controlling since the beginning, I wish I had seen the signs. On Monday he head butted me right in the nose, "because he was upset", and "having a bad day". I didn't bleed but it hurt really bad, and was a little swollen for the rest of the day. I for some reason can't get over it. I got to thinking if he did it in a bar they would press charges. Ok let me back up. I've been a little quiet lately, so he knew something was wrong. Finally after he found out it wasn't school he said... is it because I head butted you? I said yeah i'm a little upset about it. Well then he mocked me about it. And after I said that about pressing charges about it then he tried to tell me he didn't. This sucks I just wish I knew what to do....
2007-09-06 17:02:28 · 5 answers · asked by justall4ofus 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It sounds like things may be escalating. Listen to your instincts. If you think he's becoming more controlling, or you think he may be violent again, you need to start seriously thinking about whether or not this is a healthy environment for your children, and yourself.
2007-09-06 17:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would walk out before your little boys learn from him that it's all right to hit women. Head butting is not a result of being upset or having a bad day. He was taking his anger out on you and it will get worse.
2007-09-07 01:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by RoVale 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your story, it appears that this was an isolated incident and may remain that way. However, if it happens again, report him immediately. No one should ever have to put up with physical abuse. No matter how bad his day was, he shouldn't have taken it out on you, especially not that way.
But you also described him as "very controlling." If that becomes unbearable, even if he doesn't hurt you again, you could definitely use some marital counseling.
2007-09-07 00:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out i dont understand why u would stay in that relationship he doesnt love u find away to get away from him before he hurts u real bad or even kills u it has happened and if u cant find courage to do it for your self do it for your babies do u reallly want them to be raised thinking its ok for daddy to abuse mommy or what happens when your babies get older and they think is ok for them to abuse there wives like that so do what ever it takes but leave
2007-09-07 00:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurt you once co'z he was mad , what if he gets mad again ??? You already know what you like to do... Follow your gut instinct...It's not worth getting physically or emotionally hurt by anybody... I know you love him but you know that you love you too..
2007-09-07 00:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋