all the people i cut out of my life have moved on. Help!
2007-09-06 15:41:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That was your choice to do so. Now it has to be your choice to let people back in to your life. No one is going to be waiting at your door to let them in. You pushed them away, now you will have to ask them to excuse your behaviour and ask them to come back into your life, perhaps, depending on what happened, you may even have to ask for their forgiveness and patience. But it is up to you to make that move, no one on here can tell you anything that is going to "make it all better".
2007-09-11 13:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Unlike some of these other answers, I don't think you should start your journey back to a fuller life by just "going out and having fun." That's a simplistic answer to a complex question. You didn't get into your depression overnight so understand that coming out of it is not going to happen overnight. Slowly, but surely, start reaching out to people you know. Say "yes" the next time a casual acquaintance asks you if you want to get a cup of coffee. Accept an invitation to dinner with an old friend, even if you weren't really close. Think of it as "practice". Sometimes you have to really push yourself to connect to people. I'm going through the same thing and it's true that some people may "have moved on" so you have to make new friends. Volunteer somewhere a couple of times a month at an organization you believe in like Habitat for Humanity or the local dog pound. It will be a chance to meet people with similar interests who just might turn out to be a new friend. Just keep trying and, sometimes, step out of your comfort zone.
2007-09-06 15:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
so basically you realize that you don't know what you got till it's gone. i know how you feel, i have done this before too. i say you call these people that you shut out, and talk to them, explain how you feel, tell them your sorry, and you want to fix your relationships with them. tell them you didn't mean to shut them out but it was just a type of defense mechanism that your mind put in place while going through these hard times, a real friend will understand. promise not to shut them out again, and next time you are low in life, instead of shunning them, you will rely on them to help get you through it. thats what friends are for, and you can't just be a part time friend, when it's good for you. it's important that you mend these friendships now, or this will become an endless cycle, you make friends, get depressed, lose your friends, and start over with a new set of friends, and all the time your hurting a lot of people including yourself. then your reputation of being a bad friend will get around and soon you will find yourself all alone and nobody will care anymore because you will have burned all your bridges. good luck, and god bless.
2007-09-14 03:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friendly attracts friends. Talk to everyone you meet. There are plenty of other people out there. Those people are out of your life for a reason. Sometimes we have to have a period of letting go to make room for the new. I've been where you are - got scared, but then just starting trying to make new friends. It'll happen. You do have to get out and do things like volunteer work, strike up conversations with neighbors, people at the grocery store. Join a new organization or take a class in something you like.
2007-09-12 17:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by toots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure everyone is cut out of your life? Try calling a few people; maybe things have changed with time.
If that doesn't work, try volunteer work. It's really hard to stay depressed when you are doing something that truly helps others or something they could not do for themselves. You should be able to find something in your community and it's a great way to meet new people.
2007-09-14 09:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not uncommon, in fact most depressed people do this . You are not alone. You have made the first step by recognizing you have a problem and asking for help. I have have had severe Post Traumatic Syndrome(PTSD) for over 40 years so I am speaking from experience. You are not alone if you need to talk just ask.
Mike
2007-09-06 18:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mike R 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer
2007-09-11 02:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Susas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about your family or work colleagues? Join an online chat group that discusses some of you interests perhaps or go out and join a social group if you feel comfortable doing that. You can get back to creating a social circle but it might be a slow process.
2007-09-06 15:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by lizzie 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
So they left. It goes to show that in your hour of need, they didn't wait until you've surfaced from your low point. Now just go on being yourself with a new understanding of how your depression came about and avoid the pitfalls. People will come around and greet you when you show a cheery disposition.
2007-09-06 15:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by My Final Answer 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
not surprising. keep at it and you will be successful,it may take a little time. remember that anything worth attaining is worth going after.most people are fortunate to have one good friend in life,one that will stand behind you for support,one that will see the good in a person. look for new friends and and one day some old friends may come back, so all is not as bleak as one percieves it to be. well wishes and good fortune.
2007-09-06 15:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by meander 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋