I'm basically miserable. How do I get out of it?

Question

Here's the situation. I was with someone for over 2 years, lived together for almost 2 years, and we broke up. Not on awful terms but it was sad. So now I'm 23 and living with my parents. I got a job here, until they closed down. So I almost got back with my ex because we still love each other. But it didn't work. So I came back to my parents, depressed and lonely. Then I decided I was getting a job on Monday (It was Thursday when I came back all depressed). Monday came around and I was SICK. Like had a fever sick. While I'm sick my mom takes my car and it breaks down. Now over a week later we get a new battery in it and assume it will fix the problem. So when our other car dies, I go to get my mom. Then my car died again. So now I have No means of transportation, I'm pretty much heartbroken, I have no job, I live with my parents, and I haven't talked to my best and only friend since my car broke down last week. Who has any ideas as to how I can stop crying? Because I'm just at a loss

Answer 1

First step ----- Quit wallowing in self pity.

Next step----- Brush it off and do what it takes to get things going.

No Job?? ----- Go get one. Your parents are letting you live in their home. I'm sure they will lend you a way to go and look for a job. You got to keep yourself occupied.

Broken Heart---- Here's some duct tape. Fix it. In all honesty it will get better everyday. I've had a broken heart......each day it was a little better...til oneday it didn't hurt at all.

You gotta keep on keeping on.
Live give you lemons.......throw the lemons back at life. Have a mango if you choose.

Answer 2

I'm pretty blue myself right now - My car has been in the repair shop for about a month now - I don't have the $ to get it fixed (as they want $1100) and I broke up with one guy just to start dating another guy who broke up with me after about 1 1/2 months - when I thought everything was going just fine. I also live in my parents house, and have a 4 yr old and a puppy (I really should be shot). Some nights (like the last couple) I have cried myself to sleep, and find that I cry throughout the day at random times. But this will pass - it is just a matter of time, and I make it through each day thinking of the positive things that are happening and when I am really down, I try to send an email to a friend, or answer other peoples problems here on answers (always makes me feel better when I get picked as best answer) and talk to my friends on myspace. I am a very strong believer that things always happen for a purpose in life and that challenges like this will also make you a stronger person in the end. Try to surround yourself as much as you can with positive energy and remember it is ok to cry every once in awhile and it is even better to laugh. Things will turn around eventually.

Answer 3

it must seem like this is all too much right now. Try to tackle on problem @ a time. You need a job but can you get one w/no car? can you take the bus, get a ride w/parents, etc until you can fix your car. Can your parents fix the car for you? Being home @ 23 is not the end of the world. Try to look at it like this. You had a home to go back too, you actually had a car that broke down, you only have a cold, not cancer and you could call your friend. The test for yourself is, How tough are you????

Answer 4

Although it may sound awful it is a fact. At present things in your life do appear pretty rotten, but remember that things could always be worse. You could be living in a third world country with no parents, no means of transportation, no hopes or dreams of ever getting a good paying job and no ex-boyfriend to have as a friend today. Sure at the present moment these words may not seem fair or just to you but hopefully when your life does begin to brighten up a bit you may think about these words and realize how godfully truthful they are. Until that time try and keep yourself occupied, eat some sweets (don't OD on them though) and talk with your best friend on the phone or over the internet until your car is fixed and you can once again go and visit. Keep your chin up as things could always be worse but hopefully in a short period of time they will improve for you. Also remember also that these things may seem trivial to you in 6 or 12 months as you will have something else to worry about or going not in your favour. Life is like that sometimes and at times bad things happy to nice people.

Answer 5

This situation is another one of those "wait and see" scenarios. You won't see the light at the end of the tunnel till you open your eyes and count your blessings. More practically, though, set your priorities. You're probably sick due to stress, this should pass soon. You and your parents should preform routine (every few months) checks on your cars and have it checked when you change the oil. Be direct/honest with your employer and see what the two of you can work out. Forget the X (yes, even after 2 yrs!); you have other problems right now. Most importantly: Talk to your friends, they can be a source of great strength.

Answer 6

When you feel you've hit rock bottom always remember, there's no where to go but up... So, Get up, brush off the suck and start again, tackle getting that car fixed and get a new better job where you'll meet an awesome guy that makes you curl your toes just at the thought of him. Things WILL get better! Hang in there! =)

Answer 7

u have to fix the situation, u need to get a job and get your car fixed asap, even if its a crappy job u can work there and look around for a better one, call your friends and go out and all that jazz. but ur feelings down because u have nothing right now, and u gotta get out there and get it done

just thinking about a game plan on how everythings gunna work out will make you feel allitle better

Answer 8

Everybody goes through times of great misery. When problems compound, it even appears worse. When you remember the good times, you will find comfort. When you think of the good times yet to come, after these episodes pass, you will find comfort.

Answer 9

the best medicine is laughter!!! watch funny movies or read some jokes and eating chocolate really works oh and especially your favorite ice cream!!!

Answer 10

sorry your having bad luck but i'll be praying for u!! here my email address if u want to get to know a great guy!! [e-mail]