we've been together for 5 years, he communicates with me 24/7, he tells me where he goes and who he is with, he sees me exactly after he goes off from work, he visits me like 6 days a week, we go to church together, we're in the church band together... and then just one day... he doesn't show... won't answer my calls, etc... just left a message that he's breaking up with me.... and later a found out it's because he's with a new girl......
tell me how you cope with it? help me.... and pray for me....
no rude answers please..
2007-09-06 15:12:27 · 16 answers · asked by terra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know if there are any answers to this question. I do want to tell you that no matter what he did, you still are a beautiful woman and no person ever deserves this. I am so sorry for you. I will say prayers for you.
I hear stories like this and the hardest part is coping. He is a coward for leaving you a message obviously he can't face you because he is ashamed of himself. I think if you take a moment and not think about what your could have done wrong, think about what he did wrong. Sounds weird, I think that he must have had some fear and didn't know how to work his problems out. I wouldn't dare think for a moment that it was you. Sounds like he has some growing up to do and problems to face.
Keep going to church and stay in the band. Hold your head high and stay close contact with the support group you have at church. Take some time and help some others that are need. It is hard to do, I know, it's happened to me. I had to absorb myself in positive things and be grateful for what I have. It will take time but be strong. You can do it. You can and you will find happiness that you deserve.
Just keep telling yourself that over and over everyday.
2007-09-06 15:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by JW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No words, no thoughts. Just the sound of a meteor crashing into a country.
All you can do at this point is just sift through the rubble and try to put your life back together.
Your pain will last a long long time, I can tell you that! Heck, there are even some who just kill themselves because of this. But don't YOU do that, ok!
Let yourself feel the pain and learn from it - that will strengthen you.
Pain is nothing to be afraid of.
After the pain is gone, and that might take a few years, then explore your other emotions bravely and openly and honestly.
Drink and get drunk if you have to - the pain will be SO intense that you might want to.
And prepare yourself for the day that you WILL love once again. Love will come to you once again!!!! Yes, believe that!!
2007-09-06 15:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its tough, not just the fact that they left but that everything seemed to be going so well until the final minute, my ex did pretty much the same thing, walked down stairs one morning and goes I want a divorce, could have knocked me down with a feather.
Just remember that no matter what life goes on, family and friends and the church should be good start to at least have someone to talk to about it and one of the other things that people say works is to write a letter, telling them just how despicable and rotten they were/are but then don't send it, you write it to get it off your chest and then throw it out so as not to be like them.
2007-09-06 15:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation, although the relationship was not as long-term as yours was. The only advice I know to give to you is let your feelings out. It's ok to be sad for a while, but eventually you have to move on with your life. Take some time off from dating, then find someone new.
Hope this helps a little.
2007-09-06 15:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i will particularly pray for you. As for a thank you to administration, first enable your self a splash time to cry and grieve...it is organic and stable. yet do no longer do this for too long. After a short grieving era, i decide for to propose staying busy....pass out with pals, pass to kin, connect a club or perform a little volunteer artwork. Sitting around on my own will purely make you think of roughly him and be unhappy. purely keep in mind which you will recover from it....it purely takes time. i don't be attentive to if that's your previous love, yet as somebody who has lost at love various situations, i will assist you to be attentive to which you particularly will experience greater advantageous at last, even although you probable discover that tense to have confidence precise now.
2016-10-10 02:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweetie... that's real hard and many of us have been there. It makes it real hard to trust others in the future. The one thing that you should face is that he wasn't of good character. He didn't have enough guts to tell you or give you even a hint. It gets easier little by little. I will tell you this... a guy like that is likely to return, but you shouldn't take him back as he will do it again. These people go with the moment and think later.
Sorry... it's tough, I know. You got my prayers.
2007-09-06 15:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you one bit, Terra, for being shocked and hurt and even humiliated at his ...his betrayal!
The best thing would be for you to just do whatever you can to get through this awful time...it sounds like you have a good church group, so I'd try to invest my time there...keep busy if you can, until a little time has passed for you to at least start coping with this abrupt dissolution of what **was** a very important relationship.
God bless and keep you!
2007-09-06 15:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is always a shattering experience, and time and prayer are great healers. Will you hurt? Yes. Will you cry? Probably? But don't hold your emotions in. Vocalise them them. that is always a great healer too.
And take your hurts day by day and lay them at the cross. The Divine Exchange. "My burden is light".
I'm not going to judge him, God will take care of that. But you are a lovely girl , with a lovely heart. Don't loose that.
Just remember, forgive him, don't hold any bitterness. I know it's hard but have faith that God will send you someone who will love you even more. Pain is never forever, even if memories are. You are in my prayers. Bless you and let us know how you are going.
2007-09-06 18:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw, that's terrible.
*hugs*
Just try not to think about it, wrap yourself up in hobbies, do things that you enjoy (go to the spa, take a bubble bath, get a massage, etc.) and just keep busy.
Trust me, while now it seems like the world is coming to an end, the pain will fade away.
Good luck!
2007-09-06 15:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll pray for you. He wasn't good enough or strong enough to be your man. For someone who attends church regularly, he sure did not practice what he preached.
Pray for insight into this one. Blessing sometimes come in the oddest and most painful of circumstances.
2007-09-06 15:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tibbar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋