When my mother was dying, she told me, "You have got to stop being a martyr!"... I understand that it means "one who sacrifices themselves for others".
I find that I sometimes focus so much on doing for others, that I neglect ME....which I know is not healthy.
2007-09-06 14:55:06 · 7 answers · asked by 100% ♥Creole♥ 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She meant stop letting people abuse you. There is a difference between someone who endures abuse in silence to placate an abuser and someone who sacrifices themselves as a last resort to help others.
2007-09-08 11:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by TheNewCreationist 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. theres not too many people that are martyrs in fact if any at all. even those who seem to be the biggest are doing everything subconciuosly for themselves because anytime u help someone it usually is more to benefit urself and to say i did a good deed then to benefit the other
2007-09-06 22:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by dejvisc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it affecting your life? Your marriage? Your relationship with your kids? Your family? Martyrs will die for their beliefs-we are gonna die with or without beliefs, check and see if you say yes too much. And learn to say no and not feel guilty. It is your life, all the people you help won't be in the coffin with you. Besides the more you do for others the less they have to do for themselves.
2007-09-06 22:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me to. i feel i am a doormat a lot of the time.
but sometimes u meet friends who respect that and dont take advantage of that but other times u must be careful because there are a lot of self-serving people out there who will take advantage of this....
i know how u feel though
someone told me once that i can't carrry everyone on my shoulders all the time, or something like that...
i didnt realize thats what i was tryng to do until she told me that..
2007-09-06 22:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by yoohoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read about the Enneagram 2 type. You might find some ideas to help you.
2007-09-06 22:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I'm not and I refuse to be. For me it is a poor attempt for attention. Nothing to do with the service of others.
2007-09-06 22:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not even close.
2007-09-07 08:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ron B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋