A couple a times and both times she said some really insulting and hurtful things about me, I argued with her but never said hurtful things about her to her (I could never have done this as she is one of my best friends, even if we were arguing) anyway I find it really hard now to not think of the things she said (trust me they were terribly hurtful!!) and think of her a close friend we have made up now and she apologised but I feel resentment and anger towards her still, these fights occured about 2 years ago... how can i get past this??? I dont want to have to bring it up to her again however .. ;0(
2007-09-06 14:46:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This must have been very painful for you and it's understandable that it's been a challenge.
Congratulations to you for choosing to take the high road in
trying to forgive and get past this.
The original interpretation of forgive means release.
Behind all of life's challenges, no matter how difficult, is a lesson, a gift.
How would it be to look beyond the human person(s) and see you and your friend as two souls?
What can you learn from this experience?
In healing ourselves we heal others.
I wish you the best and support your high intention to heal the situation.
2007-09-06 15:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have resentment for her, you are only hurting yourself in remaining close friends after two years. Forgive and forget dear Heart. If you can't do that, end your relationship in a peaceful way. You do not have to bring back the past. Just keep some distance from her and after a while, you will see if you feel the same way. Chances are you will have made another best friend and leave your anger and resentment behind you.
Best of luck and peace to you.
2007-09-06 22:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a pattern with her I could see why you carry resentment but if it was something she said 2 years ago and she apologized sincerely and stopped it then you have a problem with forgiveness. Instead of focusing on the negative start thinking about the things about her that makes you like having her for a best friend. Focus on the positive about her and I bet it outweighs the bad.
2007-09-06 22:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate hearing about these things and I'm no Dr. Phil but, if these arguments happen again i think you should ask her why you are fighting and why she is saying these insulting things to you. If shes going through some"bad times" then you should let her vent to get the anger or depression out. However, if she has a lame answer like "just because" I think you should cut her loose. That's all i have to say
2007-09-06 21:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by muffnman27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not be the bigger person and try to forgive her? It'll be better for both of you. People often say spiteful and mean things when they're angry and not thinking. Try to keep your mind thinking like that! Only, if this continues, talk to her about it or at the worst scenario, break off all contact with her.
2007-09-06 21:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by mareyys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through kind of the same thing. I ended up breaking off the friendship and have not regretted it since. That was 14 years ago.
2007-09-06 21:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋