2007-09-06 14:31:36 · 9 answers · asked by Compromise it will ya pls? :) 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You have to realize that holding on to grudges only hurts you. It doesnt do anything to the person you can't forgive it just hurts you emotionally, and physically.
You cannot live with bitterness and hate in your heart, it will destroy you and ruin your life. People will always do things to hurt you but its up to you how you react. If you have to, pray every night for peace and it will help you.
2007-09-06 14:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness means that you will, over the course of your life, always be finding a way to forgive every person in your life.
I found it is far more productive to avoid judging others. The moment that you judge someone as having done wrong, you are in a position of having to forgive them. Stop judging them and you won't need to forgive them.
Another approach is that if you do something wrong, would you rather be punished or forgiven. If you wish to be forgiven for lapses in your judgment and for your actions, it stands to reason that you could also treat others in the same way.
A third option that I find helpful is to categorize "wrongs". A friend cheating with your partner is different than someone who lies about why they didn't call you back. Determining which wrongs are forgiveable and which aren't can also be helpful.
Forgiveness is, essentially, when we stop holding the past against someone -- be it someone else or the self. The past happened. We cannot change that. We can carry the resentment through to our deaths and suffer, or we can let go of what happened in the past.
2007-09-06 15:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness can be complicated, I believe there is one sure thread that forgiveness indeed helps the forgiver. You can forgive and forget (move on) and 'close the door', depending upon the situation, don't keep allowing someone to hurt you, be it a parent, a lover or a 'friend'. Write down your feelings and over time watch yourself grow, keep a blessings book. Keep a blessings book with a trusted friend and exchange them on special occasions, I do this with my hubbs.....
Best of Blessings To You!!
2007-09-06 14:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by anonOmiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you didn't say what it is you are supposed to be forgiving, let me tell you the most important person to forgive. YOURSELF! Sometimes people fly under the radar. Trusting souls are usually easy targets. Be who you were before, because so many need good people to be there for them. Realize though, even when you are there for them, you may never get back what you have put in or sacrificed for others.
Good Luck, Sweetie!
2007-09-06 14:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by MOI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes read the book The Journey by Brandon Bays. It gives the process very nicely how to forgive on all levels. Easy reading and step by step instructions. Try google. also read Bhagavad Gita as it is by Bhaktivedanta Prbhuapda asitis.com you can read it on line. It tells the purpose and meaning of life, that makes life so nice and situations easy to forgive.
2007-09-06 14:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.... Forgiving is acknoledging the past as has been done, and you can't change it and that you stop trying/wishing you could.
But your problem seems to be different than you think o_O. You are trying to do something ACTIVE when I think you should try something passive :O. Instead of TRYING to do something, you should LET GO. If thoughts about the past enter your mind, just let them pass. They will pass naturaly, no need for you to exercise more thoughts over them or even to try to force them out of your head. Letting go also helps you live in the moment and not the past.
2007-09-06 14:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by lufiabuu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To forgive is inside your heart , you have to reach for it and hold it in your hands , you forgive when you decide to accept the way things are , and you accept the fact you can 't change what it is and what has happened , when you accept the givens you can move on, give it time to grieve and then decide this is it ,set a date and say no more ... and move on .
2007-09-06 14:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by young old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what you mean on "Forgive". I'm going to assume you mean something like a breakup. If I'm correct you just need time, so don't rush anything. When you feel ready for something you'll know.
2007-09-06 14:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness is a decision. it is not a feeling. not at first anyway. decide to forgive and act out as if you truly do. it will come.
2007-09-07 13:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋