Why is masculinity considered a bad thing?

Question

It seems that the things men value in themselves are constantly being belittled. And I am curious who decided maleness was wrong? Men are told to embrace their feminine side but should we be forced or coerced into ignoreing our masculine side?

I keep hearing that men should embrace there emotions and care how we look and so on but those are female wants not male ones. If men likes old clothes are dosn't like to talk about emotions then why are we told to embrace a mythical feminine side? Why isn't men being masculine enough for women?

Again I am hearing that women want men to share their emotions to so women can feel closer to their men. Men aren't comfortable with this women call it macho but it is simply men being men. What I guess I am trying to get at is why is it that women feel men must become emotional when men don't like it? If equality is a factor then wouldn't it be sexist for women to be on about men being more feminine when we don't want to be?

Wow ladies thanks for all the hateful remarks that helps alot. Thanks for your snide remarks while telling me I am a brute and most of all thanks for trying to switch everything around so it benefits your ego. Those of you women who have posted negatively trying to make men look bad have given me the best answer to that question. If you are examples of femininity then I am glad I don't have a feminine side. Men these are prime examples of the hatred women show men while claiming they don't hate. Also men stay away from your feminine side as you may become like them and besides the things that make men feel like men are fine while they claim it is a product of our culture or whatever I notice they aren't talking about female flaws. So I for one will offer these ladies two dinners so each face won't go hungry.

Answer 1

Who decided maleness was wrong? Well, it's certainly true to note that feminists have been the most vocal at bashing men (we're all abusers, rapists, sexists, etc.) so I'm going to have go with that for my Answer.
It's worth noting though, that feminism has manipulated the government, with the use of fraudulent studies and bias research, to the point where being male is almost a crime - as Bill maher notes.
If the idea of "embrace your feminine side" isn't about sexism or trying to turn men into 'girly men', as some seem to believe, then why the complete omission of masculinity in the statement that is so often repeated by feminists?
I've never heard "Embrace your feminine side along with your masculinity"... not once! So, to suggest it was about 'balancing' seems lie.
There is nothing wrong with masculinity, nothing at all. We should be free to embrace our masculinity without being told we're sexist, ignorant, neanderthal, knuckle-draggers, small-penised, abused as children, etc. etc. - you know, the usual feminist shaming tactics.
I believe women should be free to embrace their femininity (it's a shame some of the scarier looking feminists don't practise that) and men should be free to embrace their masculinity. I think it's wrong to go shoving ideology down one sex's throats while not allowing that sex to respond likewise.
How would women feel if in almost every other magazine they picked up they were confronted with a man trying to define them by using shaming language: "This is how a 'real woman' should be..." or the like? Well, we know - because a question on this forum asked about one such instance about a man's mag talking about women... she was offended ... by one article. Try it on a near daily basis, luv... then you'll know what being offended means.

Answer 2

Women are incredibly insecure. Now that they want complete independent from men and relationships with men, they have to find a way to lower men, make men weak, destroy our self-esteem, so they can feel big. They don't want men to help them achieve anything, as we've had to do for so long, due to the fact that women by nature are so cowardly, weak and insecure. And I love how they mask these issues by saying that we held them back all this time, when in fact it was women that held themselves back.

And now, they have to resort to cheap tactics like psychologically bringing men down to heel with guilt and shame.

Mark my words, any woman who seeks to compete and possibly conquer men are the most petty creatures ever to walk this Earth.

Answer 3

You can't say, on the one hand, that there is nothing wrong with being masculine, and on the other hand, that all men are brutes and potential rapists. That attitude alone shows that our culture thinks men are bad.

Answer 4

Masculinity = good, machismo = bad. One is a sign of confidence, the other is a sign of immaturity and having too much to prove.

Women communicate more verbally than men. When women are asking a man to embrace his emotions, they're mostly talking about communication. In order to feel close to their man, they want him to share his life and thoughts in words.

Assuming it's an equal partnership, he's then free to say, well, doing this or that would make ME feel closer to YOU. When people care about each other, they generally are willing to make a little effort.

EDIT: So, there's no room for give and take? Just because a woman is asking for something doesn't mean a man can't also ask. I don't get it...it sounds like a man should just do what he wants, if you ask for anything you are rejecting him. I assume I'm not perfect and that my partner may need to let me know when he's looking for something he's not getting...this is my idea of equality, it goes both ways...

Answer 5

The thing is, most people aren't all masculine or all feminine but actually more of a mixture of both. There are people who are more feminine while others are more masculine. What's wrong is when those people are coerced into conforming into rigid sex roles and told how to think and behave based on their gender, not on their personalities or even their interests.

Answer 6

Just be the best man you can be. God didn't put you here to kiss anyone's backside (including your S.O.) Be yourself but be your BEST self- Being a man doesn't mean bullying, belittling, or beschmoozing anyone. Happy, contented people DO NOT go around making everyone else miserable.

Answer 7

All I can say is... WOW. The degree of misinterpretation of these answers on your part is astounding. I highly, highly suggest that you take a deep breath, calm down, open your mind, and read RoVale, kj, and Franzia's answers, and ABSORB THEM. No one thinks (Western) "masculinity" is a bad thing - it's perhaps the most revered thing in this culture. The other ladies said everything I wanted to say, but better. Seriously, read their answers.

Answer 8

Not to me.
But Y all the good answers that clearly address the question in a thoughtful way have many thumbs down and the most lame inarticulate stoopid answers have the most thumbs???


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Gender and Wiener Studies

Answer 9

because this is where feminism has brought us in there so called quest for equality. it has made the trend that boys are bad and girls are good and that is how we are now raised do to there crap. if they are so up on equality then why is it they delight in guys being abused and attacked by women? ask your self why are they so one sided and when any thing happens to a man they say and look only at it as being some thing he did to deserve it.

good question chevalair

fact is they cant except us for who we are and have to say crap like caring and our ability to love is are feminine side, they just don't want to see that we are in-fact able to be all those things and every thing in-between so they have to claim credit for it by saying it is our feminine side what **** that is.

very well put mathewassh, i was waiting for your answer on this bro and you bring to the table hard cold facts that only a fool would ignore.

look at kelly M answer, her answer is the very point i am trying to make here to. it is not derected at us guys ladies but to you all. listen to what she is saying. here is a wonderful peace by her give it a listen, http://odeo.com/audio/16472233/view

Answer 10

Apparently, and I'm only going on the "data" presented in this forum, masculinity is only a bad thing if it is contained in a woman.