re :17 and pregnant?

Question

i want to be emancipated .my parents dont know i am pregnant and i am 5-6 months i havent seen a doctor yet or anything i dont want my babys father to go to jail or some **** adoption is out of the question i want my baby.i need to move out as soon as possible what can i do

Answer 1

If you live in the US…

Forget emancipation.

First, it’s RARELY granted in any state. And it’s even HARDER to be emancipated if you’re pregnant/have a child. In order to be emancipated, at a minimum, you would have to provide a valid reason that it would be in your best interest (you being pregnant and your parents not being happy about that are NOT valid reasons) and proof that you can fully support yourself and your child with *no help from anyone*. That means you have to have a job and earn enough to pay for rent, utilities, food, baby supplies, daycare (very expensive), medical expenses (again, very expensive just for the birth of the child), etc. No help from anyone means, your plan can’t be to move in with someone else and depend on them to provide help/assistance in paying these bills. It also means no help from the taxpayers at all. The only form of ‘help’ that would be considered legitimate would be a *reasonable amount* of child support from Dad (ie, you can’t say he’s going to pay you $1000 a month in child support unless under state guidelines that’s what he would have to pay).

Second, emancipation is a legal process and like all legal processes it takes times. It will not happen before this child is born.

You need to tell your parents and make an appointment to see a doctor.

You say that adoption is not an option, because you want this child. But, you haven’t seen a doctor (I'm assuming) because you’re afraid of the possible repercussions that Dad might face once it’s in the open that you’re pregnant. You’re putting your child in danger by not providing him/her with prenatal care. Why? Because your putting Dad ahead of the child’s well-being. When you become a parent, the child is FIRST before anyone (even yourself). If you’re not capable of putting this child’s well-being first, then you need to put the child up for adoption because you are not ready to become a parent.

Answer 2

Why do you need to be emancipated from your parents? Are you sure that they will disown you or something like that. You need to get pre-natal care ASAP that is the first thing. I'm guessing your baby's father is over 18 since you don't want him going to jail, you still need to seek his assistance. He is obligated by law to give you financial support, you will need it.

Why is adoption out of the question? You are only 17 and frankly too young to be having sex in the first place. Are you sure that you and only you can give the child the best possible life. Personally and I mean no offense but I think it is highly likely that someone else could better care for this baby. Look into the options of a private adoption. Don't keep the child if your reasons are purely selfish, and I'm not saying they are, but really examine them, and if they are then I think you have to do the right thing and give up your child.

Now listen to this, and it is important and often overlooked:
Just because you are pregnant does not mean you will automatically be a good mother. I know it is hard to hear. But having children and loving them, with all your heart even, is not enough! Being a good parent is more than that.

That you are in this situation in the first place does not speak well of your responsibility and decision making skills. Keeping the child might not be best for you and the child, you should at least entertain that idea.

Answer 3

You need both medical attention and the support of your parents during the pregnancy. It is for your own good and the well-being of your baby. I think it is highly unlikely that the alleged father will be arrested for statutory rape.

Quite frankly, there may be some motivation for you and him to even get married, however that is a decision you will have to make for yourself. Some young men who become fathers are reliable, and some are not. Marriage can be a long term commitment, and some young men are too scared or too immature to be good to that commitment. You must decide for yourself.

It is difficult to live as a single mother at age 17. You need the kind of "built in" support group your family could provide. It takes money for groceries, diapers, rent and medical care. Your opportunities to get a job and live as a single parent with a baby are limited. It is best if you can get both financial and emotional support from your family.

Answer 4

I would call or visit CPS and see who you can talk to. The father going to jail will be determined by what state you live in . Some states have made it mandatory reporting and they will pressure you to tell them who the father is.

You are the only one who can make decisions about your baby, you can not be forced by your parents to have an abortion or give it for adoption.

You need to tell your parents soon, perhaps a family friend , priest or school counsellor can help. You should be seen by a doctor for prenatal care. Its not essential but its a good idea. The doctor can not reveal to your parents that you are pregnant without your consent.

Answer 5

You are in a very nasty situation. You can't hide this forever from your parents. What makes you think moving out will do the trick? You also have to think on how you are going to cope without your parents. Just tell them - that's the "safest" way for you.

Answer 6

Wow. Tell your parents. They may be mad in the beginning but they'll get over it. You're not doing yourself, and more importantly the baby, any favors by what you propose.

Answer 7

Do you now want the taxpayer to have to support you and your spawn?