my friend Mary (not my best friend or anything, jus a friend) is friends with this guy named Chris (who i dont talk to that much, and im not really friends with).i play a part in our school band,but i know that chris also wants to play that part. since me & chris dont talk to eachother or anythng (not that are enemies or anything) i have a feeling he asked Mary to ask ME whether or not i would mind giving up that part for him.
this would mean that im not in the band AT ALL. he would like to be in this band coz he wants to actually study music l8er in uni.( i feel awkward in whatever i will end up sayin to Mary b/c i dont want to seem like a b**ch, right?
but @ the same time its my last yr in hi skool an the last yr in the band. & if Chris really wanted this, wouldnt HE ask me himself insted of gettin sum1 else 2 do it 4 him?
all i can think of is 'sharing' the part which wud work, but guys wouldnt want to do that!
any ideas of what i shud do or say?
sorry about length, thanks tho
2007-09-06 12:34:37 · 8 answers · asked by Oops! 6 in Health ➔ Women's Health
thank you for all the answers so far...my spelling sucks in that question BECAUSE ITS LONG AND I HAD TO MAKE IT FIT! so i used "slang" words and such..duh!
and i do have a 90% average...im not stupid. and i am very focused on my school work
but anyways, it will be hard to choose a best answer!
thanks again to all
2007-09-06 13:38:06 · update #1
Well if you really want to be in the band don't give up your spot, im sure that you have worked hard and are a talented person, otherwise you wouldn't make it in the band right? so since it is your last year enjoy it don't.
Also you cant rely on just a feeling because if he didnt ask Mary or anything your gonna feel dumb because you put alot of thought into it and if you drop from the band it will be for nothing
and your right if this guy is really interested in music and wants you to drop so he can be in he should confront you and ask you himself, and if it so happens that you decide to drop for him that is also a wonderfully nice thing to do. But think to yourself would he have done the same for you, would he have dropped out the band so you can be in it?
but My answer remains the same if you worked hard, and enjoy being in the band then you shouldn't give it up considering it is your last year. your not gonna seem like a b**ch because you worked hard to get there right!
Put some more thought into it , don't feel guilt to say no and don't listen to your friends advice, she might try to convince you to do something that you will latter regret, think about if you really enjoy band and if it is something you want to do, would it be worth giving it up for some kid to take your spot?
2007-09-06 12:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep the part. If he is serious about a future in music, he will find his own path... This part is not going to make or break HIS future, but it will make a big difference to your final year in school...
Tell Mary how much you want to keep the part, and suggest that the dude check on-line for other informal bands that are looking for new members... Craigslist or something like that...
Have fun as a Senior!!!
Best,
Ed, RN
2007-09-06 12:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by RNcalledEd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey life is all about competition if he was good enough to get the part he would have gotten it. If he wants to study music and has to get a friend to talk someone into getting a part in the bang then he may be flunking out real early. Keep the part, you are not being a b**h you are enjoying something YOU EARNED.
2007-09-06 12:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by iain4rangers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have worked hard to gain the position you have in the band...I say GO4IT! Your friend should not expect you go give up your position for another friend, she is not acting like a friend to even suggest such a thing! You enjoy your last year in school and good luck in all your endeavors!
2007-09-06 12:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by ripsgracie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) He should ask you directly.
2) I think, you should remain in the band.
3) He should ask the Teacher, if he can play in the band.
4) He should ask someone else to switch with, you don't owe him anything...
2007-09-07 04:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 13:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by kobayashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are graduating this year and your grammar and spelling are *this* bad, I sincerely believe that you should concentrate on your school work and give up band! You must go to an (unconstitutional) government(AKA: public) school to be a high school senior and still be so illiterate!
2007-09-06 12:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by trebor namyl hcaeb 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
unless he comes to you and you come to a solution to share the part, i would just try your best to get it
2007-09-06 12:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋