im changing i went from good to bad..any help?

Question

i was a good kid never got in trouble never did anything bad..nothing really.. i played sports for the school im 15 almost 16 and im in 10th grade.. well NOW: i smoke..drink..party..get in trouble in school got arrested twice over the summer.. jsut got caught stealing ciggs from my mom dont play sports anymore. my parents think its my friends cause they arnt the ideal friends not really liek me i wear american eagle and abercrombie and stuff they all have pericings and tattoo's and wear punk stuff.. i like them tho i like hanging out with them they are cool i think but i also think about my life and realize it might be them that is causing me to change like this.. i know everythings my choice and i dont have to do anything i dont want to but i dont know why im doing this stuff now my best friend is mike and i was with him the 2 times i got arrested for being a lil drunk..is it their fault or mine and what should i do ditch the kids i love hanging out with or is there a way around that.

Answer 1

you had better get a grip on yourself....before it is too late

Answer 2

First of all I think you did the right thing by asking this question. You see that there is a problem and you would like to fix the problem, right? I am a mother of five so I give them advice all the time. Think about your life not about tomorrow. Put your school and family first. When you grow up and become someone the people you thought were your friends will be lower than you. It may seem fun now but doing good now will pay off in the long run. It is OK to talk to your friends but use you head and know when something is wrong. Your family will always be there for you, WILL YOUR FRIENDS??????? You are almost 16 your grades are really important now, and you have already had problems with the police, do you want this to be on your record for you life? Its OK to be cool, but please just do it the right way. Once your friends see that you have changed then maybe they will to. Talk to them about what they would like to be and going to collage all together. There is a way to be cool and still be good and make good grades. Good Luck and I hope you nothing but the BEST!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Pretty much all your fault, hon. I don't believe in the whole "victim of society" attitude. You are exactly where you put yourself. A criminal record is already going to prevent you from getting certain jobs. It's not like bad credit - police records stay with you for LIFE. Don't screw up your life because in a few short years you are going to look back at what you did and you are going to think, "Why was I such a stupid, immature kid and where are all my so-called friends now?" You think you're cool, but you sound uneducated, confused and way too concerned about your image. Those are all signs of immaturity. Hate to sound so harsh, but you are really messing up your life and if your parents aren't going to scream some sense into you, I guess I will. You are not an adult. Adults know that smoking kills you, getting drunk and puking is NOT fun or impressive to other people and getting arrested is throwing your future in the toilet. The solution is simple but you don't want to face it. You know what you have to do, so just do it. Grow up. Tell your friends you're going to change. If they're true friends, they'll stick by you and support you - maybe even change themselves. If they're not, then why bother with them?

Answer 4

First of all, you are responsible for your own actions and no one can make you do anything you don't want to do. However, its great that you've realized what you're doing is harmful and that you want to change; that's the first step in becoming a better person. You don't have to change your friends, just let them know you're going to change and refuse to join if they're doing something like drinking or drugs. It wouldn't help to make new friends too, so that when your punk friends are out getting in trouble you can hang out with people that are a good influence on you, people that you can have fun with in a healthy way. If you're friends don't support your decision to be health, it might be time to reevaluate who your true friends are. It might also help to get a hobby, or start playing sports again. You might just realize how much you missed your old life.

Answer 5

Your 15 (almost 16) It is ok to have a little fun. But there is a such thing as having to much fun. When it gets to the point where you are geting arrested, stealing from your parents, getting in trouble with your school then that is a little too much partying.

You seem like a good kid with good morals. With this being said, at some point (unlike some of the people you hang around) You will grow tired of your life and decide that its time to get back on track.

Well, you decide you want to get back on track with school but your past comes back to haunt you cause you got into trouble at school and all that has happened and will happen in the future will come back and bite you on the buttocks while you try and make up for classes or even worse, if you decided to quit school and instead of a diploma you have to get a GED which is a bad mark in itself...A GED in many peoples eye mean you was a hellraiser in your teens and most people do not repsect those who hold GED...A Diploma gets more respect so this will follow you for the rest of your life.

Good luck getting into any accredited colleges by the way.

And you might as well start gearing up for alcoholics anonymous classes cause your heading that way to which is another bad mark on you.

Most Jobs these days do background checks and your arrest will show up so forget about getting a good job. Only place who would even think about hiring you is Mac Donalds but I am sure you do not want to be working at Mac Donalds for the rest of your life.

In short, You are having to much fun. Whenever fun starts to affect your life and future then it is treading on dangerous ground. These people that you think are your freinds are ruining your life. The bad things against you that will hold you back later in life is piling up.

But it is not too late for you. You are only 15, almost 16.

You appear to have a good head on your shoulders to even be this far to be concerned.

You need to put the breaks on partying hard like you have been doing.

You are almost grown and you will soon find that life is tough and only the strong will succeed.

In 10 years from now do you want to be a bum loser at the corner waiting on the bus while you see your old highschool freinds pass buy and wave in their nice late model car with nice job or do you want to be the one driving buy in that nice car looking at one of your freinds you have now or someone similar at the bustop?

Answer 6

The path you are going on is wayy wrong so i would ditch the friends you have now. I mean i guess you can still talk to them but dont hang out with them outside of school or where you guys could get into trouble. I would quit smoking cause that is totally gross and no girl will want to date you. Just ditch the friends you have now if you dont want to be in jail before you get out of highschool then not be able to go to college and then you will get a bad job and stuff so yeah

Answer 7

Chris, the only time bad behavior is acceptable is if you're a celebrity and even then, after a while, it gets old. You've got two arrest under your belt and you're not even 16. Not cool, man. First you have to accept responsibilty for your own actions. YOU chose your new friends, YOU decided to participate in underage drinking. But the good news is that you're still young and YOU can start fresh. Get back into sports or find something that you like to do that keeps you out of trouble. You're probably disappointing your parents and that sucks but more than anything you're failing yourself. Sounds to me like your friends have their own issues they need to deal with. Don't let them drag you down. Hang out with some people who really care about themselves as well as caring about you. Hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 8

Uhhh the same thing used to happen to me, I always promised myself I'd be a great kid, but then in my mid teen years i started to drink,smoke,etc. well a lot of times it is the people you hang out with if they smoke or drink they want you to try and its not that easy to say no you'll be curious or afraid your friends will dump you if you dont. They still are your best friends so you dont want to stop being friends the best thing to do is probably if they call and are like oh ummm tonight we are gonna go out and have a smoke say your busy just try to avoid those times, but its still may not be enough like when you get arrested!!! There is really no way to absoulutley stop doing bad things by me just talking! I'm sorry but this is the best I've got

Answer 9

first, you are not bad - at least you know what you've been doing is wrong and now you want to change. There's no need to dump your friends and hang out with them all the time. If they ask you to do something 'bad', tell them you're not in and suggest something else. If they can influence you, you can also lead them back to the right track. Take responsibility for your life and blaming doesn't help. Personally I think sports dude are way cooler than punks who chain smoke!!

Answer 10

First, stop the drinking and stop the drugs, they won't lead to anything constructive. If Mike were really your "best friend" he wouldn't be doing things with you that would get you arrested. That's not a friend.

Truth of the matter is, you know right from wrong. Stop making excuses to hang out with people who are toxic to your other relationships and to your physical well being. You're a smart kid and I know this because you were smart enough to realize that you're doing bad things and smart enough to want to, and ask how to stop. You know what you need to do, so do it!

Best of luck!

Answer 11

Okay you know what you've done, now reverse it and break away from people and influences that have caused you to be this way.
Start a new live for yourself from today!
Throw the cigs in the bin, don't drink anymore and don't go to the parties where you think you'll stray.
See if you have any self will left before its too late and then there's no return.
Live a good life or the life of a "Crim" its up to you isn't it?