We have a 3 year old and are thinking of having another. The funny thing is it wan't our idea, originally. Our 3 year old started asking us if she can please have a baby to take home like her cousin does.
Now she keeps saying she's doing to have a baby brother.
Should we have a second child?
I never had any brothers, and am a little scared that i really will have a boy...
2007-09-06 11:25:11 · 10 answers · asked by violet_selky 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
All of our families live at least four hours from us and we don't really have any friends with kids.
We want to have another child, I just want to know how much harder it is than having one.
2007-09-06 12:00:48 · update #1
Can you love your second Child as much as your first? I love my little girl so much! I don't want a bitter second child that one day looks at me and says "you don't love me as much as her!"
How does it work? I don't want to love her any less, either...
2007-09-06 13:30:13 · update #2
There's no reason to be scared of having a boy. There are ups and downs on both sides. As for the very subject of having a second child:
Are you financially stable enough to be able to provide for a second child, or two if there are twins in your family? Do you have enough energy to run after two children? Will your daughter want to help out, or will she get jealous once the baby is actually born?
If you decide to conceive, make sure you explain to your daughter that she won't be the only child anymore and that she won't be able to have your undivided attention anymore. And make sure she knows that you will love her just the same, and that when she was a baby, she got all of the attention that the new baby will get. Also, it's a good idea to buy her a present for the baby shower or hospital so that she feels she isn't being forgotten.
Happy baby-making! :)
2007-09-06 11:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kati S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like I did, except the first two were only 2 1/2 years apart. Boys are great and just as fun as girls. They play together better if they're within 4 years apart. The main thing is your marriage. How is your marriage. Would this help it or not? Make sure you know how your spouse feels.
2007-09-06 11:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jeannie Welsch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only have a child if you and your partner can handle another child right now, if not have your daughter try and spend more time with the new baby...
It doesn't matter what you have if you decide to have another one you will learn how to take care of him or her to the best of your ability!!!!
2007-09-06 11:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by ablockgurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's always a good idea to have two children. that way when you and your husband are gone, they have each other. I have two girls who are 3 years apart, they fight sometimes, but they love each other and have a special bond only sisters can have. Also, I have two sisters and they are my best friends. yes you may have a boy, but brothers and sisters are a unique blend as well. So yes, if you are ready, and your hubby is ready. Have a baby!!!
2007-09-06 11:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by julie A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids are expensive can you afford another? Are you emotionally prepared? If you answer yes to the 2 questions above then yes go work on another one. Working is the fun part.
2007-09-06 11:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is definitely a decision for you and your spouse. If you are wanting to have another child to please your daughter I would think that is not a good reason to have a baby. If you are financially ready for another baby and you truly want another baby then go for it! Good luck
2007-09-06 11:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy or girl... what's the difference? You'll be happy either way, I'm sure.
It's really your decision.
Good luck.
2007-09-06 11:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Edith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a question for yourself and spouse. not us. we dont know your situation. if you feel you want another one and your ready then go ahead but otherwise we wouldnt know
2007-09-06 11:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sara S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u think u are prepared to take on more responsibilty and can handle it yeah
2007-09-06 11:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by hilllizdante 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more the merrier
2007-09-06 11:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋