Im pregnant but im only 18 found out i was pregnant the other day my boyfriend doesnt no he proposed the other week and i said yes. But he doesnt know about the baby i dont know what to do i am CONFUSED!!! Help please!
2007-09-06 10:22:43 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
2 years we have been together were very stable and i dont know what we want i sort of work and he does.
2007-09-06 10:31:40 · update #1
Well the good thing is it sounds like you guys where on your way to being in a serious committed relationship before a baby came onto the scene.
I would sit him down and let him know that you are pregnant since he will obviously figure it out soon enough on his own. Whatever you do decide to do take care of yourself. Start your prenatal vitamins and schedule an appointment with your doctor.
2007-09-06 10:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by starfire978 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I too got pregnant at 18. Married at 20 and still married to the daddy of my kids. First things first. You need to talk with your BF about this. There are always options. I know it is hard, but you need to be secure, stable and financially able to take care of and raise a child.
DO you have family who might be helpful in childcare expenses etc (babysitting for free) so you can both work full time to make ends meet? DO you live with family or on your own? Have you and your BF ever discussed what you would do IF you got pregnant?
There are options, we all know them. Have the baby, Adopt the baby out or Abortion. There are lots of loving families wanting to adopt. I know it may seem a little far fetched right now, but ultimatly, if you do decide to place the baby for adoption, just be sure you pick a family who is open to keeping in contact with you and willing to let you see the child a few times/year if you so wish.
2007-09-06 17:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Discount K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well.. I guess now is the time to ask yourself whether you really want to be with him for the rest of your life. That's great that he proposed before you found out you were pregnant, that means he's in it for the long-haul and not just because you guys are having a baby.
You need to sit down and talk with him and figure out how he would feel if you were to have a baby so soon. I know he might not feel he is ready, but at least gauge how he feels about the subject. Then let him know that you found out that you were expecting, but make sure he understands it was AFTER he proposed.
I'm only 18, had been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we found out we were expecting last April. He proposed, but after we found out. We'd always talked about getting married, but it just threw me off having everything happen so fast. We had discussed getting married in our 20's, when we were done with school. Not after my freshman year of college.
We are working our way towards getting married sometime either just before our baby is born in December or shortly after. It's been a hard road, but it can be done.
Just be open and honest with yourself and with him. If you aren't, things just get messy (trust me.....). Congratulations and best of luck to all three of you!
2007-09-06 17:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by mums_the_word 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
another teen pregnancy...when will teens learn?Well your problems are just beginning and just like all other teens tell you that this is different..sure is..baby comes along,cries at night and needs looking after 24/7..wont be able to go out as much and when he goes out alone and you have had to stay in the old brain ticks over and jealousy starts sinking in then the next thing he is being accused of cheating,tempers start and then before you know it you have broke up and the poor kid is left to suffer//same boring rubbish we hear every day.If my daughter got pregnant at 18 i would go crazy..the whole life ahead and you throw it away on a few minutes excitement.well good luck and luckily enough the government will help you like mad..poor tax payer again.
Married?well you best see if you both can live together with a baby before you commit to getting married..life ain't easy so take your responsibility seriously
2007-09-06 17:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you need to do is tell him. afterallo you didnt get pregnant all by yourself lol and i wouldnt worry about the fact that your only 18 i was 15 and pregnant and i have raised a perfectly normal 3 year old girl and since then i now have an 18 month old girl and i am almost 5 weeks pregnant with #3 so just because your young doesnt mean you cant do it good luck xxx
2007-09-06 17:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by mum to 3 precious little girls!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm also 18 and got a 10week old baby son named James, me and my partner been together for over 2 years and been engaged for over 2years also, he was ever so happy about me being pregnant and has been there every step of the ay, just sit down and talk to your fiance about this, tell him what you want to happen and ask him to support you on your decisions, hopefully if he loves you as much as it seems he does he will support you thru this and will come out happy at the other end, and believe me there are worse things in life than a baby...
good luck
2007-09-06 17:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by mummy me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell ur man that u found out ur pregnant and then discuss what u will do next but to me 18 is fine to have a baby cause that happended 2 me also my man proposed 2 me then aweek after i found out i was pregnant(at age 18) now am not long turn 19 and had my son 10days ago and am glad i kept him hes great .
yea u may feel young but when u have ur baby growing and then with u .u will feel great.tired but great
good luck
2007-09-06 17:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you tell him it might help if you have a friend on stand by just in case. Please do you and baby a favor go to the doctor and have him go with you, like the other people said if he leaves you then it wasn't meant to be. I was 17 when i got pregnant with my daughter who is almost two, I told my mom and she was probably really upset but she was there for me. So if anything tell your mom and dad then tell him, stay calm and be rational about it, he might be stunded for a few minutes but give him a chance to register everything. It sounds like it was bound to happen if he proposed to you I wouldn't worry about it a whole lot. Just tell him as soon as possible if you aren't ready then you need to think about maybe giving the baby up for adoption. But be honest with him give him a fair chance to say whatever. I wish you luck and Congrats on baby and engagement
2007-09-06 17:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by CrazyGrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to get married? Where you live is a factor...Kentucky? they get married very young there...can you support yourselves...and a baby....do your folks know...would they help you out? School?
Go talk this out with your boyfriend and tell your folks if you think they would be understanding cause you are definately going to need their help and support..
Your lives will never be the same...you both are now responcible for bringing a innocent baby into this world... Get a job with insurance, save as much as you can and plan to put all your energy into making this work....Good luck to you both...it can be done.
2007-09-06 17:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by gr8ful_one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live with your parents then you need to tell them what's going on. No matter what you need your family's support and love. If you've only taken an at home pregnancy test then you need to make an appointment with your Ob/Gyn and get a 100% positive that you're pregnant. Inform your boyfriend/Fiancee of what's going on, he has the right to know. Take care of yourself, there's a littel person inside of you so be nice to it. :0) You'll be fine, congratulations!
2007-09-06 17:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by brownm1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋