My stepson's mom hasn't spent more than an hour a week with her sons in 3 months. My husband (their dad) has full custody but he agreed to supervised visitations twice a week. She rarely shows up and when she does only sees the boys for a few minutes. Of course there's drugs involved and an abusive boyfriend so the fact she rarely sees the kids is OK with us. We just hate that the kids get their hopes up.
What's the next legal step we can take? Can her lack of complying with the current visitation schedule allow us to get a court order that will bar her from seeing the kids until she can prove she has cleaned up her life? What should be our next step?
2007-09-06 10:20:38 · 8 answers · asked by sleepywife 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I'm not trying to terminate her parental rights, but her family and we agree that she MUST go to rehab, and perhaps this could be a tool to prod her into going.
It's been a year now since she's truly been involved on any significant level with her children and we're just SICK at what her lack of involvement is doing to the kids. Temporary suspension of parental rights? (Until she gets it together.)
2007-09-06 10:33:36 · update #1
And by the way Professor C, the boys grandmother supervises the visitations, we have told the boys that their mom is ill, and I have been the only "real" mother they have known for FIVE years. I am not trying to hurt the boys, I am trying to PROTECT them. So take your sanctimomious bull somewhere else.
2007-09-06 10:35:44 · update #2
Her lack of complying with visitation is probably not enough to change anything, by itself.
Even if you could prove "drugs involved" and "abusive boyfriend", I don't see what difference that would make, as you already have a supervised visitation order to protect the children from danger.
Unfortunately, your hubby picked this winner as the mother of his children and now everyone is stuck with her. Your next step should be to support your stepchildren by not contributing to their emotional chaos. You can avoid getting their hopes up by not talking about the visits ahead of time. Just go. If she's there, great. If she's not, tell the kids you are sorry they are disappointed and then immediately involve them in a family activity to reinforce their feelings of being loved and wanted.
Good luck.
2007-09-06 10:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by raichasays 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is the boy nevertheless contained in the cage? How long did the mum abandon them for? If the male continues to be contained in the cage, take him out precise away. mom's do no longer spend each 2nd on their infants. The infants would be ok for a speedy time without mom. yet, now and lower back, the mothers WILL abandon the youngsters... certainly because of the fact she does not understand what to do (is it her first muddle?) or because of the fact she is conscious the youngsters are ill and could die besides (that is instict...they permit undesirable infants die). I dont' understand that there is the rest you're able to do. attempt to no longer touch the youngsters with your bare hands. some hamsters will kill their youthful in the event that they get human heady scent on them. heat up a washcloth (contained in the dryer or microwave) and line the nest with it to maintain them heat for somewhat. make advantageous that isn't any longer too warm nonetheless! call a reliable petstore and ask what form of formula to objective... yet while mom won't look after them, their possibility is very narrow. reliable success!
2016-10-04 02:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably could get an order, but I am not sure I would.
No matter her problems she is their mother and an hour a week is better than nothing, and if you interfere with that you are likely to be seen as the bad guy!
Things will get better or worse, then at an appropriate time you can make a decision. As long as she visits and is not under the influence when she does I would leave it alone.
Get your hopes up to be dashed is hurtful. To be cut off totally can create life long issues!
2007-09-06 10:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by cantcu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to get a more concrete visitation schedule so that you can ensure that she'll show up and the kids won't get their hopes up. I'm sure that it's heartbrteaking, but if drugs are involved, she's obviously sick, and the fact that she fails to show up sometimes doesn't constitute abandonment.
2007-09-06 10:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Hillary 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You certainly can go back to court, but be prepared to prove her as an unfit parent. Lack of visitation doesn't prove abandonment.
2007-09-06 10:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell the kids that their mommy is sick when she doesn't show. They will hate her on their own for what she has done to them when they are old enough to understand.
2007-09-06 10:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lavrenti Beria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever she is still their mom! Why would you want to harm those children. Their FATHER needs to tell them she is ill.
As for supervised visits, who is doing the supervising YOU? I wouldn't come either. Your necxt step should be to step aside.
2007-09-06 10:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by professorc 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
IMHO, you should work to get her parental rights taken away. She is a bad influence on those kids.
2007-09-06 10:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋