My husband and I have been married a month and a half and we have sex 2-3 sometimes 4-5 times a day... yet he still masterbates... I dont know why I have such a huge problem with it but I cant help but get get angry about it. I feel like hes cheating, and whats worse is that he knows it hurts me and knows how I feel but does it and then hides and lies about it. Plus he braggs about how amazing our sex life is- if its so good why does he still masturbate??? Help!!!
2007-09-06 09:09:35 · 24 answers · asked by Sarah bear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think his masterbation is any of your business... unless you want to join him... It has nothing to do with you or your sex life with him.
I don't understand why some of the people that answered say... "men do it", human beings of both sexes do it.
It's just a normal human thing.,,, no big deal.
2007-09-06 16:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with what he is doing and there is nothing wrong with the way you are feeling.
For him it may be more habit (like smoking) and it is hard to break the habit.
For you, you are thinking that you are not good enough to please him. On the contrary. It sounds like you are both enjoying it.
I would encourage him to continue with it instead of hiding it because once he hides this he may feel that he needs to hide the bigger things.
He may be at work and get turned on by thoughts of you and can't wait so a little hand pulling in the bathroom relieves his mind and allows him to get back to work.
Enjoy that you are having sex as often as you are.
If the sex decreases as a result of the masturbation then it becomes an issue.
For now, let it go and perhaps join him in a mutual masturbating marathon.
2007-09-06 09:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a natural thing that some men do. Just try to understand that he has a high sex-drive and just needs to take care of himself sometimes. Try to focus on not getting so upset over it. He isn't cheating. He knows how mad you get about it is exactly why he lies about it. He is probably doing it to release stress more than anything, I'm sure he isn't trying to hurt you. Sounds like your sex life is great, don't spoil it by getting into arguments over this. If it's something you are just not going to be able to deal with maybe you should go to a therapist before it's too late. Good luck.
2007-09-06 09:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, let me explain something to you, in all sincerity and honesty.
Masturbation is NOT an inferior form of sexual pleasure. Both men AND women who have very, very healthy sexual lives masturbate (both privately and together) no matter HOW much other sex (intercourse and oral) they enjoy together.
What's really going on here (whether you choose to admit it or not) is that you feel that ALL of his sexual pleasure must come from YOU.
Don't feel bad, there are men out there that feel the same way. God...if they were to see their partner masturbating with a vibrator or dildo, their world would just come crashing down.
That's too bad. They have some personal issues to deal with.
In the mean time, please understand what I said; that both men and women masturbate, and you should not take it personally.
2007-09-06 12:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's highly likely that he mastUrbates in order to have a simple sexual release without having to go to the time and effort to get you worked up and off. MastUrbation involves no seducing, talking, romancing, nor any effort whatsoever beyond the person's own orgasm. It's easy and satisfying. It's not as good as sex, but if you just want to get off in the shortest time possible, it works great for that purpose.
You should try it yourself sometime. This may surprise you, but lots of women do it too!
2007-09-06 09:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwe....how cute the newly weds. You don't pleasure yourself? Well I'd imagine not! 2-5 times a day!!!! Your little hoo-hoo must be sore.
You need to grow up and get over that...masturbation isn't about YOU! You would be better off accepting the fact that he may still masturbate on occasion and putting your feelings toward something more worthwhile within your marriage. Learn to pick your battles.
2007-09-06 09:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
they say this is a natural thing for a man to do.... even if he's getting it from his wife/significant other, so, I would TRY to not get too upset about it. Girl, if you're giving it to him that much, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you have to pick your battles, at least be thankful he's not taking his needs elsewhere. If he knows its hurting you, and he won't stop, you have to decide whether you can handle it or not.. need to decide now, since ya'll are only married 1.5 months. On the brighter side, sounds like you're in for a lifetime of good sex..... alot of people would die for that..
2007-09-06 09:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, aside from the concern of such a high number of times he is needy, you can still meet his needs.
It does not have to always be "sex". Meeting your partners needs involves many aspects which include non-intercourse.
Openly discuss these with your hubby. :)
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2007-09-06 09:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad that he is masturbating and not cheating on you. Masturbation is completely normal. Why don't you try joining in with him when he is masturbating? He shouldn't have to hide it from you either. I think you are over reacting on this one.
2007-09-06 09:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jay's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish women would understand this.
It is natural for a man to do this. We was born with our play thing, we was doing it ever since we could reach it.
Sometimes it is nice just to take the edge off. Like scratching an itch.
2007-09-06 09:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by David G 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋