There is this this one girl at my school who intimadates the crap outta me. Seriously she really DOES. How can i stand up to her and let her know i waont take that, if i am scared to do so?? P.S plez dont tell me to just surround myself with friendz, becuz she picks on me when I am around them 2. What CAN I DO?? this girl has been picking on me ever since LAST year. Im not a person that usully lets people pick on me, im NOT. So why do i let her do it?? Shes REALLY little, i could probably take her, but why do iget so fearfull around this little girl??
2007-09-06 08:51:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all, it doesn't matter how big she is PHYSICALLY, it's how large she has become in your own mind. She could be a one armed midget, but if you allow yourself to think she is better and stronger and tougher, eventually you would be afraid of her.
Unfortunately, the only effective way for you to overcome your fear is to run straight at it. You're right, you don't need to surround yourself with people who will "make y ou feel better." That's a therapy group, and all that really does is make you feel better about your weakness, not overcome it. If she is doing you wrong, then confront her about it and stand your ground. Courage is not the absence of fear, but strength that is used in the face of fear. Just be strong. you can do it.
2007-09-06 09:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mr_Masks99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, no one and I mean NO ONE should intimidate you! I've had a lot of experience with that because I'm short and bigger people ALWAYS think they can intimidate by getting in your face and standing close and over you. My reaction is the same. A: I don't give any ground. I never step back but let them get as close as they want and quietly tell them I'd like them to back it up. B: I look them straight in the eye and whatever they have to say, I make sure I don't back down on my say on the subject. If you show fear people, animals too, will take advantage of that. You may be shaking inside but you can't show it. Guarantee it works. Been doing it since I was 13 and realized 5'1" was it for me. Even though she's the short one she's still trying to basically get in your face and make YOU the one who feels small. You can't allow that.
2007-09-06 16:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by scarlettrhett 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear about this cruel girl, she has no right to make you feel this way. What you have to think about is this girl is the one with the problems, not you!! She must be feeling rubbish or weak herself, to have to feel the need to intimidate some one else.
When i was at school ( many years ago now! ) a girl bullied me for almost 4 years, until one day i had enough and i retaliated, she never ever came near me again, i just wished i had done it sooner, cos 4 years of feeling so crap about going to school is no joke.
Please try and stand up to her honey, and even get pictures in your mind of her taking a dump, or picking her nose etc!! even if it just makes you smile!
good luck, and remember nobody else is any better than you are xx
2007-09-06 16:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by atlantis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out and ask her why she feels the need to pick on you. That question might start a fight but at least you would have stood up. She might want a reaction out of you for some reason. She also sounds aggressive and thats kind of intimidating but ya have to know that is how she is playing her stupid game that isnt much to play with so ask her whats up.
2007-09-06 16:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird, I've had a friend like that in 4th grade. She was big and tall, and very loud. But somehow this loud mouth who was short and skinny managed to get away with teasing her.
Maybe you think in the back of your mind that if you switch gears and bully her, that she'll play this victim role, and try to get people to gang up on you in her defense???
I dunno, just laugh at her and say "chill out, lil midget." Just mention something that might bother her like her height, weight, any acne, messed up teeth, etc.
And then ignore her afterwards, don't start torturing her, lol.
2007-09-06 16:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by ~Tiffany~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even tho you feel afraid of her, you know in your head that you don't need to be afraid of her. so start by telling yourself that you are not afraid of her. i know it sounds too easy, but this is a method that my husband has taught me and it works for me. obviously this girl has issues so you could tell yourself that something has happened to her that made her this way and that will help you feel sorry for her instead of afraid of her. believe me i'm not saying it's easy because when i was in school there was a girl who bullied me too and i didn't learn how to deal with it back in the day. i just tried to avoid her. but you're smart, you want to deal with it. i wish you the best of luck with this chick.
2007-09-06 16:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been very short. I have almost never been intimidated because I don't react to the attempts. Somebody says something stupid to me, I ignore it. It's no fun for the intimidator, but it doesn't make them mad either, so they give up.
2007-09-06 16:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to "take her".
One day just come back with something like,"Wow I had no idea that girls could have little man syndrome". And walk away and laugh.
2007-09-06 16:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Nic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't fight physically...it will get you in trouble..i normally just ignore people who say weird and rude things to me...sometimes if i have an idea of what their gonna say, i prepare some really good come backs to shut them up...dotn use physical violence
2007-09-06 16:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Julia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. Act like it doesn't bother you one bit.
2007-09-06 16:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by tx_gurl_n_fl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋