There is this girl that was saying some very innaporpriate things to my husband. What do I say to her? Without being like, cuss word, after the F word, after the B word, blah blah blah. Lol... Thanks!
2007-09-06 08:38:46 · 62 answers · asked by Kathleen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shouldn't have to say anything, your husband should have been the one to tell her to buzz off.
2007-09-06 08:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 10⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her, "u know that is my husband and u are way out of line talking to him like that". You can say that in a # of different ways, just make sure that u let her know u do not appreciate her speaking that way to ur husband in front of you or at all for that matter. Also ur husband should have put her in her place. I know u cannot control what another person says out of their mouth, but if you entertain it and laugh at it that is the same as an open invitation. U don't have to be nasty or cuss her, but do let her know that he is ur husband and she is lucky u are such a lady. She could have ran across another kind of woman who would have busted her in her mouth or went upside her head and their husband's too for entertaining such nonsense. Just let her know how u feel, especially if you felt disrespected. All the best.
2007-09-06 08:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a real simple answer, because obviously there are a lot of details left out (for obvious reasons), but I think you need to speak to your husband about it first, in the most non-jealous way, (talk about how her flirtations are disrespectful to the committment you and him have, and how that upsets you) and find out what his thoughts on the situation are. For all you know she is just reciprocating his flirtations, and she just happens to be the one who got caught. All that aside, assuming your husband is not in the wrong, I think you have to think about about your feelings on the issue. Maybe even write them down so you can organize your thoughts and have a frame of reference to look over so you don't let your emotions get the best of you before you talk to her (don't have the list with you when you talk to her). But what you have to figure out, is what do you want your conversation to accomplish. Do you want to scare her, to where she thinks "if I ever flirt with him again she'll kick my *** and pull my hair", or do you want her to feel like "I shouldn't have flirted with him, he is a taken man, and I said things that are inappropriate for a married man, I wouldn't want someone to do that to my husband or boyfriend" I'm hoping you want to accomplish the latter, and if so, I think you should try to find an oppurtune time, or make a time that you can just have a word with her. Make it as non aggressive as possible, and try to get her to understand the things that you had listed before (how you feel, etc...) I would even approach it as if you are asking her to stop, instead of telling her to stop, I promise you the moment you get aggressive, she probably will as well so be careful. Depending on the type of girl she is, she should respond well to an educated discussion of something that she was doing that was upsetting you. If she doesn't respond to your effort to explain, the way you like then you might just have to put together a well planned speech full of expletives. Good luck
2007-09-06 09:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband first to say it made you uncomfortable that she was doing that, he should be able to stop her if she starts again. If she doesn't stop I'd just go over to him and ask him and say "hubby you haven't introduced us" and either hold his hand, put your arm around his waist and kiss him, or a combination of any of the above. With any luck you won't have to straight out call her out and tell her to cease and desist flirting with your husband. She should get the hint that he's been claimed and move on.
2007-09-06 09:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it only happened once, I wouldn't make it into an issue. He IS your husband, no tacky bimbo is going to change or even threaten that.
You might let him know that it upset you, so the two of you can figure out how he'll handle this sort of thing in the future. If she does it again, and he seems "stuck," then I'd smile sweetly at her, take his hand, and walk away with him.
2007-09-06 08:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her to back off and find somewhere else to go with herself. I would also ask my husband what he is doing to indicate to this girl that he is not intrested in her! Maybe your husband in someway is encouraging it and I would hold him responsible to put this woman in her place. I am sure that if he were to say something in not such a nice way to her about it it may encourage her to stop!! I would tell this girl that i am on to her and if she keeps up her innapropriate behavior toward your husband that he is going to get an exparte against her to make it stop. If your husband realizes what this girl is doing and wants her to stop he will stand behind your threat and I gurantee you this young woman will go away! If your husband is truly not flattered by this girl he will do what you ask in order to keep peace in his marriage because he would not want you dealing with the stress over it.
2007-09-06 09:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm.....not enough info. Was your husband enjoying this and/or encouraging this???? But what you should do is this... the next time, don't go searching her out, pull her aside at the first sign its uncomfortable and just let her know. If she is any kind of person she will stop. Side note....be sure she is the only one involved and not being encouraged...It does happen.
2007-09-06 09:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by twanieskies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly is should be your husband to put her in her place not you. He should tell her that her commits are inappropriate and that he is happily married. End of story. Then all you have to do is smile. If he doesn't say anything I would have a talk with him later. Good Luck
2007-09-06 08:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to say something, not you. If he's receiving the girl's advances favorably, anything you say will only make them laugh at you and will make you look pathetic.
If you have a problem with something someone says to your husband - then talk to your husband about it.
2007-09-06 08:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in a direct calm but firm manner that you did not appreciate the "things" she said to your husband (tell her exactly what she said that bothered you) and it was inappropriate because it was offensive and disrespectful to you as his wife . (It doesn't matter if she doesn't think she did anything wrong he is NOT her husband) he is YOUR husband. (Stand firm don't bicker or argue with her because this isn't an issue up for negotiation. If she doesn't mind other women speaking to he husband/boyfriend or whatever, that's fine, but she needs to respect YOUR boundaries, stand up for yourself and what you believe!
2007-09-06 09:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Do unto others 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've done this a few times with my b/f. I go walk right up and introduce myself!!
Example: Hi, I see you've already met my other half, Crash, my name is Mystry!! And you would be???
Usually get's them running right off. And you don't have to be a B*tch about it, be really nice and usually they will be so thrown off, they won't know what to do. But then again, it might be that my other half is a biker too??? (might be my tattoo's?)
2007-09-09 10:56:30 · answer #11 · answered by mystry72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋