2007-09-06 07:39:36 · 25 answers · asked by dipndry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take her out for dinner, spend some time with her. At times of depression and loss family can be a great help.
2007-09-06 07:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Liam B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you plan a family gathering, a big dinner or something like that and talk ONLY about the good times and all the happy memories you've shared. Your mom is still going to be very sad but having her loved ones near will help take her mind off some of the grief. She will probably want some time to herself and you should make sure she has that too. I am very sorry for your loss I know that losing a parent leaves you with a very lonely feeling.
2007-09-14 10:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by red.taffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First anniversary's are hard. Nothing is going to make the ocasion "happy" but what you can do is suggest spending time together, it's good to be with your family at this time. Try and understand if she wants to have some time alone, she may not want to cry in front of her. Suggest dinner, a movie, something you can all enjoy and something your father would have wanted you to enjoy.
2007-09-06 14:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her a scrap book type photo book like this is your life, put in pictures of your dad from young to the end ,include any cards he may have given to your mum.And you both can look through it and have your private memories about him. This is a good thing foe every other year also as this way it feels like he is close by even after along time.
Do things that your mum and dad used to enjoy doing together like visit where they met ,favourite beach or place and talk of him share your thoughts with each other as this is good therapy for you both.
Visit where he is buried and look at the photo book together or even the whole family.
Make this a celebration of his life and times rather than a second funeral
2007-09-06 14:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough... If your mom is still grieving a lot, remember you can't "make" her happy. But, I would think it would mean a lot to your mom if you just acknowledge the day and ask how she's feeling and if there's anything you can do for her. Something like, "I can't believe it's already been a year since Dad died. How are you doing, Mom?" Then if she gets sad or weepy, maybe just a hug for her, and just be there to listen and share your own feelings about how much you miss him. Or maybe you could suggest visiting his gravesite to deliver flowers.
Maybe for the future, instead of focusing on his death date, you could propose an outing or something on his birth date -- something to celebrate and remember the great life he had. Maybe go out to one of his favorite restaurants or do an activity that he used to like to do.
Just some thoughts.... Best wishes to you and your family.
2007-09-06 14:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a nice intimate family dinner with photos of your dad and stories to go with some of the photos..make it fun but respectful in his honor..which I am sure you would do..
Did he like music, reading, wood work, art, sports, ect..incorporate those things into a nice album or projector and talk about what made him so special and why he would be missed.
My condolences to you and your family..i hope your dad's memorial activity will turn out great for your mom...
Wow, your mom should know that she has a extremely caring, kind, and thoughtful son...
May your life be eternal great!
2007-09-12 18:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by cherrypopsickle2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put an ad in the obituary page of your local newspaper commemorating the first anniversary of his death. Then visit your mother and see how she is doing. It's not necessary to do very much except talk. In future years your mother may not wish to mark this event.
2007-09-06 14:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by typre50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone make time to go see her don't be "to busy" for that. Take her out for a family luinch and light shopping afterwards, don't show up and expect mom to cook or dirty up her kitchen. No movies that are sad. Make it light and pleasant so she will not sit at home and dwell on it. So don't go to "there" favorite resturant or anything that brings back memories.
2007-09-06 14:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Thing 1& 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that happend to yall. Try to keep her mind off of it, or if yall want to remembr that day, say a prayr and evrythin for ur mom and the rest of ur family to b able to get thru that terrible day. God bless.
2007-09-13 20:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could plan and hold a gathering of closest family and friends and have a "Rememberance Circle" where each can talk about things you remember about him, things you laughed at, what he thought was important...maybe someone could write a poem...I think that each of you sharing your time and thoughts with her would be priceless to her.
2007-09-13 20:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by angieblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋