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Question

I am 27 and she 23 (24 in month). We met through a mutual friend almost 2 years ago and have been together ever since. We both have had some LTR in the past. When we met each other we clicked and have had a wonderful time together. Little ups and downs but we both get a long very well and each do things on our own.

I know that she has commitment issues. We have talked about them a little bit in the past and this has caused some problems with her being able to express her emotions comfortably. But for the most part, we are fairly open in regards to how we feel about each other. We both love each others good and bad sides.

Recently in the last couple months, she first took a few days at her moms to "cool" off and she came back running to me. Then she decided to move out about 2 months ago. We slowed things down as she wanted to live on her own.

Things had been going very well up until about 3 weeks ago. We had taken a couple small trips, had our date nights, etc. Things I thought were rolling along smoothly. Then she dropped a bomb one night saying that she needed to be alone and wasnt sure about us. She said she needed to get her priorities in order for nursing school and didnt want any obligations during that time.

So after much thinking and some talking with her, I think that she has commitment issues. She has a hard time trusting her feelings so when confronted with these strong emotions, she focuses on a couple negative things in our relationship and runs with it. Now I found that she has met a guy that she talks to and he is the complete opposite of me and her. It is so unlike her character to be attracted to someone like him.

We have gone about 2 weeks little to NC with none of the conversation being about us (I think once but briefly we talked about it).

What can I do to help her with this transition? Let her do it on her own? Help her seek counseling or even offer it to her? I dont want to abandon her as I really think it is a commitment issue and she is scared of not knowing what to do.

Answer 1

Since you have been together for 2 years, I honestly doubt that it is a commitment issue.
She is confused maybe, but I think her having feelings/attraction for someone else, is what is causing the problems with her. She is probably more than attracted, I am willing to bet she is seeing this guy and is afraid to tell you.
I could be wrong, since I don't know your girlfriend.
I have just seen this so many times.

You need to have a sit down talk with her and straight out ask her if she is seeing someone else.
If it is commitment issues, then see if she is willing to see couples counseling with you.

Good Luck, faith