A very close relative of mine started to act extremely abusive the last few years, she curses a lot more than she used to, she insults her daughter very much and for no real reason, she is stressed and looks for solutions for problems that ... other people have. She is very concerned on the problems of her close ones, that she is stressing them very much, always find silly solutions, she is trying to force them or blackmail them into doing what she thinks is right (though all those problems should not affect her in any way at all). She gets mad out of the blue, one time when we were on the phone she started to get angry while she was telling me someting, she was just talking, i was listening and she would get more and more angry.
She is 61 years old, divorced and suffered from cancer 10 years ago (she is now healed). I had to mention because she had a hard life, so maybe all the stress she had leaded to this.
Does anybody know what her behaviour means? What could help her?
2007-09-06 07:05:35 · 4 answers · asked by larissa 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I need to add that she is a highly educated woman, an intelectual (you can be tempted to believe otherwise because of the cursing)
2007-09-06 07:07:16 · update #1
Also i appologise for all the spelling mistakes (english is not my native tongue)
2007-09-06 07:08:21 · update #2
Darkcloud i would agree, but her behaviour is affecting me as well just like it affects other close people. When she is mad about something i do my best to keep away, but i can't keep away fro ever.... we are family and i care about her
2007-09-06 08:06:10 · update #3
Her behavior may be caused by physicological abnormalities; such as, thyroid problems - notorious for this type of behavior, hormonal imbalances, and many other biological reasons that I am not aware of.
Her behavior may also be cause by depression. A common symptom of depression is negativity and aggression. And frustration too.
So, I would suggest her seeing a medical doctor first. If all checks out, then seeking a psychiatrist would be the next step.
Good luck though, in trying to get these points across to her. She might be obstinant and refuse. If so, be consistent, tell her she'll feel calm and better. And always reassure her how much you care for her.
2007-09-06 08:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Marguerite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Cedaar - if this sudden personality change really had as quick and sudden of an onset as you describe, a trip to a medical doctor or family practitioner is a good place to start. At her age (and by no means am I implying that 61 is elderly), it is possible that the cause may be physiological, and a nice, friendly medical doctor or psychiatrist is more likely to look for physical irregularities. If nothing else, perhaps a simple mood stabilizer or other medication for a short period of time may help get her back on track.
2007-09-06 14:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Aria T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest If she were someone I knew , I'd just let her be her ,, She is to old to change , and all you will manage to do ,is upset her, she is probably greatfull to have you as a friend , at her age , with her temperment friends are probably few and far between , be a good friend and allow her to be herself ,,
2007-09-06 14:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get a complete physical, especially a brain scan to make sure she doesn't have a brain tumor or other physical problem.
2007-09-06 14:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cedaar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋