So, thanks to the history being saved on our computer, I have seen that my husband visits internet chat rooms. There are "adult profiles" saved in the history file, but when I confronted him about it he said that the profiles don't have to be viewed. If a girl sends them to him in a chat, even if he doesn't look at the profile, it will save it to the computer just because it was a received file. Is this true, or is he looking up profiles?
2007-09-06
07:02:24
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Also, do you consider this cheating?
2007-09-06
07:49:18 ·
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He is trying to lie to you. You have to open a page in order for the cookies to be saved to your computer...and in return the page will be saved in histories which makes it possible to view later...because your computer remembers the cookies and keeps them on the computer.
Time to confront him again....or you can buy a key logger as stated above...which would be evidence in court if you did get a divorce. Then you can see what he is really doing. Good luck. You deserve better!
EDIT: YES! This is cheating. I hate it when people try to sugar coat situations like this. Just because it was over the internet doesn't mean it wasn't cheating. If he is talking to women online then what is next? Obviously meeting in person...and not for muffins and coffee.
2007-09-06 07:19:56
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm going through a similar situation....so I feel your pain. And no, what he said is NOT true. History files show what sites have been VISITED. He went to those profiles.....if a girl sent him a link to her profile, and he didn't click on it to view it, it wouldn't be in the history. Because it IS in your history file, he at least looked at the profile. I am 99% sure of this. It sounds like he was hoping that a technical-sounding response would convince you that he was behaving. And as for "received files" every type of chat/IM i have ever seen, you have to OK the download to receive a file.
So I would say YES he is looking up profiles. Just be firm and say you KNOW he is looking at them and that honesty is what you deserve. You two cannot go forward in solving any problems without honesty and communication. GOOD LUCK.
2007-09-06 14:13:40
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answered by mommakat 1
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if you are talking about the history saved in Internet Explorer, then yes IE only saves the history for every site visited, including profiles. Well he is probably misbehaving on line chatting...lol If you confront him, he will only lie about it. You can either let it go or take his computer privileges away. You can also install a key logger, which will save everything his is typing in the chat rooms. What a dumb @ss.
2007-09-06 14:17:13
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answered by jimmy.parker06 5
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Your husband is lying... =(... he is clicking on the link to their profiles... next he will tell you, "everyone looks" no, everyone does not look... especially purposely! if everyone jumped off the freakin' bridge would he do it too??? Remind him that he is married, and he should not be in the chat rooms. He should be talking to you, and only you, not some random lady on the freakin' internet! What chat rooms is he in? Single and Looking? HMMM... Well, he already has admitted that he has been getting messages from girls... why is he not getting messages from men? because he is in the wrong type of room girl! You need to give him an ultimatum... chats w/ these ladies, or chats w/ you... or it's divorce... it's cheating...and that's the darned honest truth =(... ok I know you didn't ask for opinions but that is my 2 cents, lol!
2007-09-06 14:38:30
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answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6
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I have no clue if thats true or not, but i don't believe he should be chatting in those rooms, he has you to talk to and chat with, and if he isn't hiding anything from you then it shouldn't be a promblem if you look at his profiles and what he's been doing on there, i'd have a talk with him and let him know this is bothering you and try getting him to spend more time with you than on the computer....if he loves you and wants to make this work he'll give it up, i sure wouldn't be comfterable with my hubby being in chat rooms, there is no need for it when he has me.
2007-09-06 14:10:26
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answered by Nita and Michael 7
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HaHa, he is lying...He would have to view or save them for that to happen...You should make a fake profile yourself with various pictures and send it to his account and see if he responds.
2007-09-06 14:10:37
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answered by Anonymous
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Tell him "o.k., I believe you."
Then go out and get a really good internet tracking program from a computer store. Get one that keeps track of everything someone does on the computer. Install it without him knowing, and then check on it later. Don't let him know you did it. If it comes up clean, then uninstall the program and throw it away. If it comes up dirty, well, then you know the truth.
2007-09-06 14:09:06
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answered by Anonymous
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I don't know what chats he is in, but usually you have to open them for them to be saved.
2007-09-06 14:06:41
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answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7
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Confront him about and see what is really up. People don't have to be so rude to you on here. Sweetie, just ask him about it...
2007-09-06 14:07:47
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answered by Buttafli 3
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I would confront him again and then see what files they are that soesn't sound right to me
2007-09-06 14:06:08
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answered by oh_jo123 7
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