I feel so down [Need help urgently]?

Question

It's been the second day back to school and it has been utter rubbish. I get bored so easily. I look around me and everyone is happy and got each other. When I look at myself I feel down and alone. I have amazing friends but they never seem to know when I'm down. We go out to lunch outside and they complain that they are bored and I'm like deep down 'yeah because I'm boring right?'.
Then some of my friends have these little comments that hurt me like 'you have no friends' as a joke and I don't know wether that she is telling the truth or joking and it hurts me. There's this other friend that is so sarcastic and rude, but she didn't use to be like that before the summer holidays, she's been there for me when it matters though, and she just talks to me like dirt-she says 'shut up' in a rude way, or 'skank' so I'm like what.
I feel like I'm going to explode either in crying, anger or hurting myself.
I need help..

Answer 1

If you know that what these people are saying to you is not meant to be hurtful, why let yourself get upset about it? You say your friends are amazing, that is wonderful for you. Everyone should be so lucky. Part of being friends with someone is that you can joke and poke fun at each other, and know it is in jest, and not meant to be taken seriously. There is no need for the sudden over-sensitivity you have developed with people you know, trust and consider amazing friends. I don't know why you think that the first, second or third day of school is supposed to be like - a movie? What ever your expectations were, you have to be realistic and focus on your studies and set yourself grounds for a good future. If you would prefer to not joke with your friends like that, you'll have to tell them, or else they have no way of knowing. People can not read your thoughts, and you are not the center of everyone's universe. So, unless you communicate your feelings with your friends, and work to treat each other with respect and kindness, you'll be alone in your sad sulking, and no one will know to help you. It's up to you!

Answer 2

Take it easy please. I think you're a sensible person, like myself. We all have bad and good days, but we have to react, it depends on us. I don't know if you read The Secret, I think it can helps you a lot. There are parts of the book teaching about relationships. Some kind of, if you think you're down, and concentrate on being down, you will bring more of being down to your life. You have to think positive, imagine you're happy and you'll begin to feel better. Try to find pleasure in small things, and stop waiting friends to help you, begin helping yourself instead, and then the others will do the same for you. Doing so you're taking the command and not depending only on your friends to feel happy. If some of your friends are rude and sarcastic, you have only two choices, stay away, or tell them you're not liking their behavior. If I were you I would start increasing the number of friends, searching for people that you feel them positives about you. Did you ever think that some of your friends can be the wrong persons to you? If this is the case, once more I would say, stay away and put your head on another shoulder. It's not wrong to stay away from those who are hurting us. I understand really friends have to exchange love and tenderness. Of course we can disagree, but not hurting each other.

Answer 3

Hi there, I feel for you and care about you...have you talked with anyone about how you're feeling? Is there someone in your life that maybe is older, a guidance counsellor, or older sibling or someone you look up to that you could discuss this with?

There are many times we all feel alone and "bored"...you say that you have amazing friends, but what makes them amazing? Just because someone is funny or smart doesn't make them a good friend. But you have to remember that friends also aren't mind readers...are you overlooking people in your life that may want to help or listen to you?

When your "friends" say hurtful things, then you should tell them that it hurts you, if they don't care, they aren't your friends anyway, just fair-weather "hang arounds". Distance yourself from them, there are always going to be bullies in life, even as adults, they don't go away. But YOU control if you let them get to you or not...and you control who has the power in your relationships.

I really think you should find someone to talk to...depending what country you are in, you could call the Kids Help Phone...go online and find the phone number for your area...the number in Canada is 1-800-668-6868, but it won't work outside of Canada...you should be able to find a number on the Internet somewhere.

The cool thing about the help lines, is that they are anonymous, so no one will know it's you calling.

Please talk to someone and I would suggest seeing a doctor as well, if you can. I am assuming you are a teenager, and there are so many things that go on at that time in our lives...but DON'T GIVE UP...it gets better. I promise.

Find someone to talk to, you're in my prayers.

Answer 4

Sounds like you need new friends! The best and quickest way to feel better is to cut the negativity out of your life. You need to tell your rude friends that they can't talk to you that way! Stand up for yourself! Remember a friend is supposed to be there during good and bad times.

Answer 5

Look,i know how this feels.i've been through it before myself.if you have got a best friend,share your thoughts with him/her.I'm sure he/she'll understand.don't go hurting yourself because that's not gonna help you at all.instead it'll make u feel more frustrated than ever when everyone comes to know about it.you must learn to understand that there are many people on this earth who really love you n u need to live for them.be optimistic.i know it'll be tough.but remember the saying "when the going gets tough,only the tough gets going".all this might sound sick but try it,it'll help... :-)

Answer 6

tell your parents.
ASAP.

seriously