How do you teach a child to overcome being a victim to bullies?

Answer 1

To in-still Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem in children. Bullies seek out the timid and the weak for intimidation to gain their own self-esteem and confidence problems....

Teach children to stand up for themselves and protect and come to the aid of others in need. If you Teach children the values and morals of good character and reputation, then you shouldn't worry that they will become bullies themselves.

Answer 2

Enroll your child in a martial arts class. This will give the child self esteem and the sense of control. When you enroll the child make sure to let the instructor know the issues you child has had with bullies. This works!!

Answer 3

I like the Idea of martial arts and self defence classes , because if you can beat the bajezes out of them they will leave you alone , but in the meen time ,, the reason that bullies do their thing is because , they got a rise out of you in the first place,, and the wine or the screaming that went on is what their looking for ,, calm Quiet wit ,,will arest this bad behavior , sence of humor , and allthough it's hard to laugh it off , thats the answer , laugh it off , no matter how bad it herts ,,,{{{ then get even }}},, but getting even is only what I would do.. get some martial arts classes and just go beat him up ..

Answer 4

Why do we always leave this question up to the individual child or parents? Go to the principal and tell him to do his f****** job or to the parents of the bullies. Get support from other parents to do something about it. Every child has the right to be who they are: quiet, fat, read haired or just soft or kind and mostly you cannot or should not change that. Go get the bullies and make sure they change their behavior.

Answer 5

You probably won't like my answer, but here it is: Bullies do not respond to reason -- all they respond to is pain, so my solution would be to enroll my child in a martial arts class so he/she can learn to defend himself/herself in a setting where he/she will learn discipline and respect. As a parent, I would encourage my children to learn what they can and keep emphasizing the point that what they learn is to be used ONLY for defense -- NEVER for attack. I would also reinforce the idea that using violence is always a last resort, but if my child is ever backed into a corner and has to fight his/her way out I won't punish him/her for protecting himself/herself. I absolutely do not agree with the idea that fighting never accomplishes anything. Sometimes it's necessary to save your skin and sometimes a bully needs to get knocked down a notch or two.

Answer 6

I've asked myself the same thing. How do you balance not being a victim and being a bully themselves? I teach my girls to respect themselves and to insist that others respect them as well. But I sometimes wonder if I am raising little witches this way. You can't stand for any crap from people but there is an appropriate way of dealing with it. You can't fight agression with agression.

Answer 7

let the child know that he doesn't have to put up with it... that if he gets clubbed you won't think less of him... that if he fights back you won't be mad at him....that if he can find another way, that's wonderful.... but... as I told mine.... don't YOU ever throw that first punch, but if they do, then YOU FINISH IT.... or run like hell!!.... whichever is more prudent!....
my son walked a long distance around the neighborhood to avoid a little bully.... then we had the talk..... next time, he walked the short way to school.. the bully started on him, and he swung his lunchbox.... bang... bully ended up his best pal...??.... but it worked.....I think too many kids are bullied because they're afraid of the consequences at home for being picked on.... give them confidence that you're behind him no matter what.... and that martial arts idea ain't bad, either!!.....

Answer 8

Teach him/her some simple self-defence techniques; have your child and her class-teacher/course instructor sit and have a discussion on whats happening and then followup with the instructor on what is actually plaguing the child

Simple exercises go a long way in building self-confidence, beyond that maintain a peaceful and happy environment at home.

Answer 9

Consider enrolling him/her in a martial arts program for kids. It's not that you are encouraging fighting, its the self-confidence that the child gains in knowing he CAN defend himself if he needs to. In fact, one of the things the kids learn is to only fight when there are no other options. But frankly, if it comes down to it and the child does need to fight back, all the kid needs to do ONCE is place a well-deserved poke on the bully and they tend to back off permanently.

Answer 10

Bullying is wrong.....teach your child to live in the present and the subject of personal responsibility. He or she does not have to take responsibility for someone elses actions.