how do you teach a child to overcome being a victim to bullies?

Answer 1

Tell your child to outsmart them and to not react to what they say. Usually bullies pick on someone because the victims give a response back with regards to what they say or do, such as: facial expressions, screaming, sense of fear ect. Teach your child to stand up to them by outwitting them by what they say and to not react to fear. When you show emotion is gives them the reaction they want so they continue to pick on the child.

Answer 2

I think it depends on how old the child is. If it's at the elementary school level many schools have a zero tolerance program regarding bullies. I would go straight to the teacher/administration. You have to get it taken care of now before your child has self esteem problems. It makes me sick just thinking about the poor kids out there that have to put up with that crap. At home you just have to reassure the child that they are a great person and that you love them. Let them know that the bully is someone that tries to make himself look better by hurting others and it's the wring way to behave. True friends don't act like that. Good luck :)

Answer 3

If the child has already been victimized and has trouble dealing with then you should consult a therapist.
If you are anticipating an upcoming encounter then you need to teach your child to walk away. He/she needs to use his head before he uses his fists. A fight is a willing physical clash of two or more egos. Teach your child that fighting is not acceptable.
If your child is not given a choice to walk away then the situation has just escalate from a fight to an attack. In this scenario your child has no choice but to defend his or herself.
The only thing I can recommend for that is to get them into a good martial arts school.

Answer 4

You people are stone a$s dumb. It's not like the kid needs an education in fighting- like he doesn't know how to fight? Of course he does- you are talking about fighting a group of kids that are probably bigger than him. He's afraid you idiots!

OK, a lot of these people don't know what they are talking about. I was bullied in junior high, and it stopped in high school. I'm a very muscular, big guy now, I know how to dress, and I live in a tough town. So, once I was bullied, not anymore.

First of all, this kid has got to start making friends and travelling with them. Can you get this kid to join the football team? That's in season right now, and BAM, he will instantly have dozens of new friends who will not look too kindly on people who are not on the team pushing him around.

You don't say how old this kid is, or if it is a boy or a girl, or if the bullying is physical or not. I only count physical harrassment as bullying- if this is a girl that is being bullied, that is just disgusting to me.

Don't solve it with adults, unless this kid is extremely young. That will give him a bad reputation he may never shake. Is there anything he is wearing or doing that is calling attention to himself? Clothes that his aunty thinks are cute like bright yellow or pink shirts are no longer cutting it in his daily environment. Go for more baggy grays and navy blues- serious, masculine, rough colors- and baseball hats.

Try to think what the bullies are getting out of bullying (him?), and don't encourage or add to that. Bullies love when people back down- he doesn't have to escalate it, but dont' do anything that will make the bullies happy like running, crying, or anything like that.

This is a temporary time in his life. It was in mine. People steer clear of me now, and like I say I live in a very rough town. Believe me, one day this will all be over.

Answer 5

I tell my daughters to ignore it at first. If they still continue, I tell them to stand up for themselves. If the bully is saying mean things about them, say something back! I told my 10 year old if I ever find out that someone started a fight and she didn't finish it, she would have to deal with me. If it get too bad, I will go up to the school myself and have a talk with the teacher and the bully's parents. I was never bullied as a kid because I was never afraid to stand up for myself. I was always short and stout, and I made sure that everyone knew that dynamite comes in small packages, and the bigger you are the harder you fall. You have to toughen up kids in this day and age, or they will be miserable throughout childhood. Kids can be so cruel and judgmental, especially girls.

Answer 6

The only true way to overcome bullies is to go to an authoraty above them. When I was growing up, I never went to the teacher, because that was being a "tattle-tail." But I have coached my son to go to the adult in charge. As a grown up, I learned that the bullies need to learn that they can't treat people the way they do without facing the consequences of thier actions, and the only way to make sure they face the consequences is to go to an authority above them. It's amazing how well behaved they will get after that. Yes, maybe it does make me a tattle tail, but it also makes them learn that if they mess with me, they will have to own up to it. And that really is better in the end. And it worked well for my son. In 2nd grade he was having some problems with some 5th graders. I told him to go to the teacher, or the recess supervisor when it happened, that it was the adults responsibility to take care of that. He did, and it turned out he wasn't the only one who had had problems with them, but because he went to the teacher, the older boys got taken care of. And ya know what? Maybe those boys will end up being adults who AREN'T bullies. Most adults who are bullies were bullies in school too, but noone ever told on them, so they never learned any better.

Answer 7

There is no easy way to teach that. You can tell them to stand their ground and show no fear, because without the fear, the bully is powerless. You can tell them the reasons for bullying(lack of attention, bad home life, abuse, etc.) You can say treat others how you would like to be treated, but every child is different, and they will find their own way out. Just give them the options to take.

Answer 8

enroll them in self-defense classes (wrestling, martial arts) or track (teach them to run fast).

I was mercilessly taunted, teased, and bullied as a kid. I'd give anything to go back and re-play those scenarios, but this time stand up for myself (either verbally or physically). All I ever did at the time was to give evil wicked stares back at the big bully girls. That just seemed to make things worse.

Answer 9

Being a victim is something that is learned, usually from the child's parents.

Have the parents provide an example of how to NOT be a victim.

Answer 10

ive been through this so many times with my children, i allways tell them to ignore but ive learned the more they ignore the worse it gets, sometimes you gotta learn them to defend thereselves because usually when they do the bully sees there not gonna take it from them anymore and they will back off, i think sometimes it bothers us parents more than the kids i know it does me, hey theres also calling the school board on the bully too, that should stop it, hope everything works out! good luck