Am an Malaysian girl. My lover fixed a dating in a fantasy island. we spent a night out there. He drugged me and forced to share my virginity to his 3 friends. And they left me in unconscious stage in woods. Later I saved by some good hearts.
Now what can I do..? forgiving or making it as an issue..?
2007-09-06 05:29:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You may forgive, but don't forget. Also, just because you forgive him, does not mean you should not report him to the police.
What they did to you was criminally and morally wrong.
2007-09-06 05:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...
The first you should do is see a doctor and then report it to the womens desk at the nearest police precint in the area or you area. I'm sorry to be blunt, but what he did was wrong and is rape. Having sex without your consent and against your will is totally wrong and violates you, not only as a woman, but also as a human being.
To forgive him, without him being punished for his crime is, well, wrong. He must be taught a lesson, otherwise, if not he will repeat this again and again, until it is too late, or he could go on doing it to other people, thinking and believing it is okay and proper.
Have yourself tested for STD (Sexually transmitted disease) and ask for a pregnancy test.
If you don't report what had transpired, chances are, he will think its okay with you and... he'll end up doing it again.
Believe me, you are worth more than that and no man deserves to do those things to you.
Furthermore, try seeing or visiting a counselor. You may not feel the emotional stress right now, but you will, when it eventually sinks in.
God bless and Good luck.
2007-09-06 05:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by Gamay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the police. This is an unforgivable act that your lover forced on you. By the way, you say he was your lover, yet you say you were a virgin. Isn't a lover someone you love and have sex with? He is no good. Do not forgive him. Get some therapy for yourself.... FAST. And report him... FAST!!!
2007-09-06 05:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Granny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should definitely pay the appropriate legal price for what they did in malaysia even after you forgive them. You should forgive them, keeping bitterness and anger inside of you will only hurt you in the end. But they should be jailed for what they did. My best to you, what a terrible thing to have happen.
2007-09-06 06:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel and how hurt you are. Ask why he did this and give him chance to make up. Forgive him if he's truly sorry.
2007-09-06 05:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by ngltina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be like jesus and forgive him. Don't call the cops. Jesus wouldn't want you to do this. We are all sinners and we need to forgive each others mistakes.
2007-09-06 05:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Chuck Biscuits 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call.
The.
POLICE!!!
As to HOW to forgive him, my suggestion would be "one swing of a spiked mace at a time, until it stops hurting".
2007-09-06 05:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by Shamon C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can anybody look at "her" avatar, read "her" story and not understand that this is some dude messing around?
2007-09-06 05:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Andy S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I wanna know is...
DID you see the little guy shouting "De plane!" "De plane!"
2007-09-06 05:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! Are you kidding me?! Put him in jail.
2007-09-06 05:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋