I'm a single mom and it irks me sooo bad that when my son and I are alone people always want to know... about the father. It's like 'oh how cute is your son! Is the dad involved?' I hate it! I want to tell them to mind their own business!!! I find it really rude. How about you single moms/dads? What's your reaction to that?
2007-09-06 05:22:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
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2007-09-06 05:42:19 · update #1
I would turn the question back around on them. In a nice voice I would ask "Why do you ask?" Most of the time they'll stumble on their words and wont press the issue. Dont be afraid to say it. Think of it as respect towards your child. There is nothing a loving parent wouldn't do to protect their children or their privacy..I for the life of me dont understand what would posess a perfect stranger to ask such a personal question......Dont feel you owe anyone an explenation.
2007-09-06 05:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Poptart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically we aren't married, but we are in a two-parent household. Honestly I haven't noticed so much that a child is from a two-parent or single-parent household. What I've noticed that if the father is active in the child's life they seem to be happier. There are two little girls in my daughter's day care class who always cry and won't play much and (while I shouldn't know this about them) one has a father who just went to jail, and the other's father works away from home. The one who's father works away from home doesn't give any money to his wife or two children (they were living in a van until the day care asked for donations anonymously and gave them enough money to move into a low-income home). So, while some kids come from homes where the parents are married it doesn't necessarily mean they are any better adjusted. My boyfriend and I aren't married. We're raising two girls (his 6 year old lives with us full time), and are expecting another. We have strong parenting beliefs and we're both very active in our children's lives. I volunteer at our 6 year old's school and our 4 month old's day care when I have time. He makes sure to read to them every night and we eat as a family every night. Even a single parent can make sure to do things "family oriented." So I don't think there's much of a difference. I live in the Southwest U.S.
2016-05-22 17:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Happens to me. It irritates the hell out of me. Do they not understand that it is really disrespectful? Just as a shocker to these idiots, I usually tell them the truth. My son's father is deceased. Put me in an akward position, I'll make you feel like a dumbass, you know? Maybe I'm taking it too far, but it's none of their business.
BTW - kudos to you!!! Single parents have it really hard. If you need a reminder that you're doing a good job, look to your kids. It helps me☺
2007-09-06 05:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
ten years as a single mom.. get used to it. people are rude.. just wait till school starts and the teachers ask about the dad.. but correct them once and they never say it again...
nowadays it is more common.. but people can still be rude...
now i am married and we have a toddler. and it feels different. i am so used to being the mom and dad. it is strange to share all of it. but also a relief too to share this experience.. and my now 13 yr old twin love their baby sis...
peoples rudeness may not end. be strong and live your life, and dont let them bother you...
2007-09-06 05:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by im a goonie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It bothers me, too.... especially since my son's father is nowhere around, in another state, and I have no way to get in touch with him.... Right now my son doesn't understand..he's only 18 months, but in a year or two... it will probably really bother him.
2007-09-06 05:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by AMANDA M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling you how cute he is , is one thing but asking is the dad/mom involved is another....My response would be that we take care of our child/children and give them everyhting they need, even if it isn't that way...it is still none of their business. If they are pushy and persistant, then get firm with them and say that it isn't any of their concern.....and Have a Nice Day!!!!! :)
2007-09-06 05:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by shortstuff68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea it makes me so mad. Especially when they ask in front of my kids. My 8 year old has told people "we moved here because my dad wants to kill us" Lovely! Then I feel obligated to explain my life story because of some nosy human being opening up wounds for me and my children!
2007-09-06 05:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jellicle Cat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a three year old and a one year old i tell them the father is a loser and that's all they really need to know unless they know a single guy with lots of money
2007-09-06 05:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by moringurl20 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I take it with a grain of salt. I just usually tell them he stays with me during the summer and lives in California with his mom during the school year.
2007-09-06 05:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's very rude. I've never had strangers ask me probably the only ones I can think of - is the daycare people or her doctor and I still think that is intrusive.
2007-09-06 05:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mya'sMommy♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋