with her parent when they began to recount the events on the way to school the previous day. The school bus driver had instructed all the children to be quiet and sit back into their seats. The driver made a radio call to his dispatcher at the bus line. He was heard by the child to have said," I have to use the stick to slow the bus down" fear swept over the child and the child placed the blame for that fear upon the parent, with hitting, yelling and screaming, The child did not know how to express the fear to the parent and the incident was misunderstood to be a tantrum. The parent was not responsible for the brakes failing on the bus but the child could not understand.Who should the anger be directed to and how does this child have peace again, even a good breakfast will not let the child cope with that days fear.
2007-09-06 04:57:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
NOTE; The child did NOT mess with the driver!!!
2007-09-06 06:11:01 · update #1
It sounds like the child believed that he had no one to turn to when he felt fear on the bus. He realized that he shouldn't express his fear or anger toward the bus driver.
Additionally, he wasn't comfortable with expressing his true emotions to his parents.
Therefore, his only outlet was a burst of anger which released the emotional attachment that he had for the incident.
The child needs to know that he has an adult figure who will listen to his concerns and fears and will respond in an accepting and caring manner.
2007-09-06 06:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...hopefully this aint your child (gulp)
So let me speak freely ...it was ultimately the parents fault for not teaching their child how to react to fear. Because that line that the kid happened to overhear from the bus driver shouldn't have struck fear upon anybody ...that's how you know it's not the kids fault nor the bus drivers for that matter. People tend to not know how to raise their own children ...and the only way for the child to ever "heal" from this is to teach them what fear is and to direct them on how to react towards it.
i mean this way sound a lil un-orthadox ...but when you feel the child has conquered their uncanny reactions towards fear, the only way to really know is to test them ...i find it's easier to do that when sports are involved, be creative all you want ...what works for me is hitting a ball in the air and shouting out, "Heads Up!!!" ...if the kid panics in an unhealthy manner, then it's just going to get a lot worse when middle school or junior high starts ...with being laughed at, uneccessary name-calling, etc.
2007-09-07 01:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Poetik P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the childs fear needs to be acknowledged. "That must have been scary when the driver had to use the stick to slow the bus down. Everything is ok now. The bus is going to get fixed so that wont happen anymore."
2007-09-06 12:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Caroliness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the driver is not to be messed with, but parents can 'take it'... the child knew better than to be screamingly upset with the bus driver and get herself kicked off the bus or sent to detention at school, so held it all in until telling the parents, at home, where it was 'safe'..... she just transfered her anger and fear to where she knew it would be understood and accepted... she just didn't do a really good job of it.. she could have just screamed and cried, no hitting.....the parents need to accept her way of dealing with this and help her see what she did wasn't all right, but wasn't all wrong, either... help her find other ways of dealing with her fears and anger, too.....like, beat up a pillow, kick a beanbag, etc........something that is not hurtful to the people around her....
2007-09-06 12:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by meanolmaw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋