I asked her on Tuesday to have her things out by Friday because Saturday I am calling a charity to come pick these things up. BY LAW DO I HAVE TO HOLD ON TO HER THINGS LONGER OR BE LIABLE FOR WHAT HAPPENS TO THEM? She tells me I can not get rid of this things because I will be liable for them and she and her boyfriend will sue me. Why am I doing this because she tried to committ suicide and has been abusing my grandson and has been beaten up. All caused by a low life who is married and has been caught as a peeping tom pervert who does not have a job and is using her name, credit to get things. She swears she's in love with him and can not stay away from him. She needs professional help and I am trying to force her into counseling.
2007-09-06 04:39:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you not have room for her things? If so keep them there. By getting rid of all of her things you are telling her that she has no place there at your house and you are wanting to be rid of her. It sounds like she is going through the toughest time in her life and by leaving some things there at your home she knows that if she were to try to leave the very bad situation that she is in that she has your support. You cant force her to do anything unfortunally but you can let her know that you will always be there for her. It hurts watching somebody you love in a situation like she is in. Be there for her but don't enable her. You can help by talking to someone yourself like a priest or a theripest that way you know what you can do to help her when she has finally realized she has the strength to leave her situation.
2007-09-06 04:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by pookerangel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT GIVE THESE ITEMS TO CHARITY. You should give her a written notice to remove her items and a reasonalbe amount of time. Every state has different laws about when you can consider item abandoned. Generally there is a 14-30 day grace period for the owner of the items.I have been in a similar situation with a family member. I would contact the Lanlord/Tenant Department in your area. Crazy as it sounds these same laws often apply even in cases where someone was NOT paying rent or were a written agreement was in place, or in many instances in the case of family members. If this fails, contact your local police department.
I am sad to hear that your relationship with your daughter is so strained at this time. It sounds like it has been very painful for you, and understandably so. I would suggest that you consider the consequenses of your anger. It is normal to be angry and hurt, but how you express this could have long term detrimental effects for your relationship. If your daughter has tried to committ suicide she is obviously in a lot of pain, even if she only did it as an attention seeking action, this would still indicate someone who is really crying out for love.
It would seem your daughter could benefit from counseling but it would be futile to try to force her. Maybe she will soon recognize her pattern for making bad choices in her life and seek professional help on her own some day, but she is most likely to accept this solution only when she is really ready to do some serious work.It akes a lot of courage to seek help so try to be patient with her.
I wish you both the best.
2007-09-06 11:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mystic Renegade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First let's look at the initial question,--the items are in your possession, you have requested that they be removed, and given a time limit and consequence. Legally you are okay.
Now lets look at the ethics of what you are doing. This is your daughter, regardless of the mistakes that she is making, do you really want to make such an issue out of stuff in the garage?
You can't force someone into counseling, you can't force someone to do what is right for themselves. All you can do is let them know that you might hate what they are doing but you love them.
On the other hand, if that child is being abused, that is where you look at the legal system. Children need to protected. If you can't take him in, call social services so that they can find a safe home for him.
BTW, the more you nag and complain and act hateful about the idiot boyfriend, the more your daughter is going to stay just to spite you!
2007-09-06 11:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the sherriffs department about all the stuff in your garage but ....excuse me..who has your grandson? His mother? And She is abusing him? Look, I understand that you love your daughter because well...she is your daughter...but have you taken any action to get that child taken away from her? Have you tried to adopt him? The fact is if someone doesn't do something about an abused child then they are pretty much doing the abusing as well. And just to let you know Im not talking all big with no show I have custody of my niece and nephew and I am only 21 with my own child. hard yes, but I would much rather see these children taken care of then abused.
2007-09-06 11:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by darkwingedkanith 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that your daughter is being so disrespectful to you and your property. Send her a certified letter at her current address stating that she has a certian amount of days to come for her things. After those days, you have the right. Under your homeowners policy that is considered personal property of the policy holder and her name is no where on the policy is it? Let your daughter know that you are two steps ahead of the game. If she wants a storage lot let her pay for one.
2007-09-06 11:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Girl really needs some help. You need to take her some place with they can help her with her problems. Also you are her mother and should protect her from men like that. I don't know nothing bout law but that is your house with her stuff in there and you asked her to take it away. How on earth can she sue you for that. You need to knock some sense into that girl. Oh and I blame you for her problems because you are the parent of that girl.She is like that cuz of you. I don't know how to explain it to you but it your fault. You needed to be there for her advice her love her and discipline her in her childhood and maybe she won't have such a bad life.
2007-09-06 11:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U should speak to the police to find out about ur rights,but u need to do something asap about the child
2007-09-07 05:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by LucyLaLa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to give a certain amount of time. I would call the local police and be sure, just to keep yourself from any more drama.
2007-09-06 11:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sad, so sad......i believe there is a statute on that but it's far longer than a week, I think you gotta have it 30 days.....but I've also heard posession is 9/10ths of the law, whatever that means....I wish you...and your daughter the best! god bless
2007-09-06 11:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by ccstangfan2 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it to charity. If anyone ever asks - I'd say "What stuff?"
Call your local police department and ask them what rights you have - they'd know best!
2007-09-06 11:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋