iam in love with one guy who is 3yrs younger then me he also loves me a looot bt the problem is that after 5-6 yrs we want to marry each other &onother problem is that as he is 3yrs younger then me my parents will not agree 4 our relation&they will get hurt one side i dnt want to hurt my parents on the other hand we both cant live without each other so plz advice me whether i should continue this relationship with him or not
2007-09-06 04:08:27 · 12 answers · asked by bhuvaneswari i 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The two of you are just dating now and it is common for a girl to date an older guy. There is no reason for you to do the opposite.
As far as your parents go, tell them that you are just dating. Your parents cannot determine who you marry, so if in five years or more the two of you get married so be it.
My wife is 15 years older than I am and we have a great relationship. I am all for the two of you dating and marrying when you are both a bit older. It would be a good idea to wait until you are both over 21. That gives you some time to understand the world and really prepare to be a married couple.
Take care,
Troy
2007-09-06 04:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello again,
You worry me a bit. If this 'relationship' you want to end or continue includes the sort of thing that it certainly would in most places, then you are asking the question too late. And when you say you 'can't live without each other', does this mean that all the sighing and crying has started to interfere with Introduction to World History, quadratic equations, and Business Skills 101?!
I have already told you what I would say if I were there with you, perhaps as your brother or your uncle. In the name of God, you ALREADY have someone so devoted to you that he sincerely believes he's going to marry you! That must make you feel wonderful; it should. Do you realize why it does? Will it always? Picture him now, raising your children.
So, 'should you continue this relationship'? If you are double-d!!!ed sure that you can stay chaste until your possible future marriage (after at least some usable college training...), why not? Why do you think you might better not? Is this cutting into your home-work time? Are you skipping other basic things you need to learn for your future life as a human being -er, I mean, an adult? You are in school, are evidently healthy and energetic (...), and it is still possible for you to become the sort of person who has the power and freedom to make her own choices throughout her life. Now, suno, beTii, you don't have to choose between this opportunity and your possible future marriage, with this boy or anyone. You don't have to choose between jilting your Wunderkind and hurting your parents. There is no solution to that false problem.
Grow up, learn about affection and intimate comraderie along with the other life skills, stay chaste so that you don't get your psyches all mangled and tangled together, and when you are both in full possession of your lives, do as you see fit. No one gets hurt at any time.
2007-09-06 08:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by hindisikhnewaalaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many girls your age feel that way, believe me, i have been through it and i still face time when i feel like that as well. However, you have to be strong, you will NEVER become anything if you do not face your fears. You will never gain confidence if you do not decide to put your problems right this minute aside and think "what come next?". Do you want to live tomorrow, the next day, in general the future, thinking "i could have done this, or i should have that" NO! that is the worse, and it will destroy you and you'll never develop a personality. Take a risk, what do you have to lose? seriously? FACE YOUR FEARS. it is the only way. i felt the same exact way freshman year, always missing out on opportunities because i was shy, or didn't know enough people, regretting not doing something for myself, it's a horrible feeling. To this day i do feel like i am not as pretty, and i let go of go of chances with guys because am insecure. But i have faced my fears and little by little i am changing and developing. I joined soccer and faces my fears of sports and learned how to be around new people, joined all the clubs i didn't join because i was shy AND even though i may not be a good actress like you or great on stage, i forced myself to join the school play! i was shy and nervous and miserable because i didnt have friends there and was afraid of messing up. But then i started making friends, talking to people i never did, and i had an awesome time! ever since, even though i dont get a big role and that i am always an extra [lol] i have been doing the play ever since. Step out of your box or time will pass you by. I hope you make the right choice! :]
2016-04-03 06:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not matter! my mother is 36 and her boyfriend is 30!! there is no problem!!! If you are still together after 5-6 years then by all means get married. im getting married in 2009 and im not tellin my dad! its what you feel about each other what matters!! but what you gotta ask yourself is, is it rele love??? you are young!!! i have been in love with 3 people. well i fort i was.... one when i was 14, one when i was 16-17 and im in love with the person i am with now
2007-09-06 05:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mikaela J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your parents say goes, whether you like it or not. If you ignore this advice there's nothing more I can say. And you will not be able to marry until he's 18, so it's pointless to try and do it now. God bless.
2007-09-06 04:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
y do u think so that ur parents wont allow this relation to happen? if u love him then u will have to continue ur relationship. tell ur family member , any one of them with whom u r comfortable with . u'll get support in future. believe me, i m goin through same condition.
2007-09-06 04:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by ROHAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind and what I observed in your case,you can't love each other for the whole life,reason is age. do love each as friend but don't think for marriage.Further it is your choice.
2007-09-06 05:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u two are just datin, maybe in the near future it would be different but who knows right. do wat ur parents say but if u two really love each other then stay together?
2007-09-06 04:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by honey + biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the boy
2007-09-06 19:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by vladimire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never continue it.
2007-09-06 04:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋