I'm a teenager of 13 yrs. in 8th grade. There's a boy in my class who probably for no reason just calls me a gay. I've told him to shut up as it's not true but he wouldn't. He probably made jokes around my friends about me as well. If I told my teachers about it, they would probably just punish him and the problem will become worse. Please help me make him stop saying that and keep his mouth shut.
2007-09-06 03:36:40 · 12 answers · asked by TrueWOW 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
That is both bullying (verbal) and harrassment. Even if it were true, he cannot harrass you that way.
See the principal or counselor and tell them you are being harrassed and they will see to it that it stops. If they do not, you can sue them. But they will.
Most likely once they deal with him, you will not be harrassed anymore, but if you are he could actually be removed from the school at some point and your parents can take legal action against his, if it does not stop.
You have a right to an education free of harrassment.
2007-09-06 03:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People are weird. Why do they want to call names -- and why do they think "gay" is an insult?
Okay, the answer you need is basically some form of, "You wish!" and a shrug. Then ignore, if you can. If you hear it from others, explain that it's wishful thinking on his part, and go on to something else. Laugh. Don't appear to take it seriously.
Most 13 year olds can't do that, I know. But I tell you, there will -never- be an age at which you can get someone to keep his mouth shut. The best you can do is to ignore and de-fuse what he says.
2007-09-06 10:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by bonitakale 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to be bullied too, so I know what it feels like! The best thing you can do is talk to your friends, parents, teachers - but ask them to keep it confidential. This way you have someone to talk to who won't make this situation worse! The best way to stop the boy is to question why he calls you gay. Maybe he has some sexuality issues or he may just be insecure. The next time he calls you gay, just look at him and smile. He'll be completly taken aback by how calm you are. Even if the insults get worse, just keep smiling at him. He'll soon give up as it seems you don't care - soon enough you will find the comments amusing! Bullies are cowards, pathetic and insecure! Treat them that way!
2007-09-06 10:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by alliesdarkness 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents, your teacher(s) and the school principal. The more time that goes by, the more you are telling this person that it is okay to be a bully.
When you are older and in high school, you will be more emotionally able to deal with this type of behavior on your own.
When I was bullied when I was your age, a stop was put to it as soon as I went to my parents, and they went to the school.
A couple of the bullies ended up being suspended from school and that was enough to break the pattern, I ended up going back for a high school reunion many years later and these two people ended up apologizing to me in front of my husband, which was pretty telling of the fact that they knew that they were in the wrong all those years before.
Bullies will only bully people who allow it, if people call you names, ignore it and it will quickly fade into nothingness. Most bullies have a lot of problems in their own lives and only feel powerful and in control by pushing other people around.
If you do not react, do not argue, it is no fun for them and they will stop.
Your parents, teachers and other school staff do need to know when this kind of meanness goes on for the protection of all students. You do not need to be dealing with this while you are in school to learn and get decent grades.
Good luck and be strong, for yourself and your future.
2007-09-06 11:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I would suggest you to keep quiet and Ignore him if he is not abusing front of everyone. But if he tries doing so , please discuss the problem with your parents and try seeking their help. You meet your teachers and Principal tell the problem. If you dont want to do all these things then just call that boy ask whats his problem? Why he calls you like that? Still If he doesnt come on right track better go to your Principal take parents help and make his mouthshut
2007-09-06 11:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by kp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Junior High's tough eh? I'm 14, 9th grade, I'd still be considered JHS since I'm living in Indonesia. Well there's a lot of issues for that. Usually the guy's just trying to intimidate you and sorta see your reaction when he teases you. Don't take it seriously, because that's his way of having 'fun'. The more you react, the more he'll tease. Take it easy, don't take it personally, but think of it just as any other kind of joke. Remember that people are laughing WITH you NOT AT you. Laugh along with them and make up a joke similar to that....
Even though I'm a girl, i've learned lots through experience from friends. Hope this helps!
2007-09-06 11:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by Oishii Mangoz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Off school property get in conversation with several people about how he is embarrassed to come out of the closet and admit his sexual preferences.Especially if he is walking with or talking to another boy when you say "Poor ____ it is a shame he won't come out and be true to his sexual life style."
But because you are in the 8th grade I would guess the boy really likes you and does not want to admit it. Remember boys from 11--17 are jerks and very insecure, so they do the opposite of their true feelings if they even know them.Don't wear dykie clothes because that is part of his thinking.
2007-09-07 15:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Banderagal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your teachers to direct you to a school counselor if one is available. You don't even have to tell the teacher why. You also need to tell a parent or adult you can trust. You are being bullied and the fact that he's calling you gay and bullying you for such is illegal. My son is gay.. And it is illegal for him to be bullied because of it... I am NOT saying you are gay dear, just that it's the same as if someone were bullying someone because of their race. It's NOT right.. You have to tell someone and if they don't listen, TELL another person and then another... PLEASE be assertive and stand up for yourself with the teachers and such and keep complaining until someone does the right thing.. God Bless.... You DO NOT have to tolerate this!!! I wish you the best!! Tell someone and NOW.. You need to make it clear to the adults that this is affecting your grades and/or schooling and is causing you much trouble and grief.... Please talk to someone... anyone.....
2007-09-06 11:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mercedes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is serious ,
Very serious
you will have MANY PROBLEMS if he doesn't understand what he's saying .
( truth - he might be the gay one )
MORE HIGH LEVEL TRUTH - it doen't matter . You need to Complain to the PRINCIPAL AND UR PARENTS. Tell them it's affecting your mind . They will understand ,If they don't u need to be very careful AND not let it affect ur mind . Understand ? ? it's very important . if you do let it affect ur mind
then You will have to face many problems in the future , Does that make sense ?
anyway , Goodluck. Tell urparents and the principall
byye
2007-09-06 10:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to ignore the boy(know it would be hard). You could go to the principal after school when the kids are gone and confront him or her and just explain the problem. Or just hang out with more girls and maybe he will the idea.
2007-09-06 10:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by Holly C 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋