Dammit, are you sick and tired of modern life?

Question

There must be a better way. I spend most of my time spending money paying bills, and shredding stuff to protect my identity. Is this what life is supposed to be about?

I'm so angry.

Answer 1

I totally understand! Everyday is the same, esp when I get home and their is yet ANOTHER bill or debt collector who wants some of my measly wages.
Washing, ironing, hoovering, cooking, bed, wake up and the cycle goes again.
No wonder there is so much crime. Everything is expensive and OTT. New iPod, new phone because your old one fell down the loo, new shoes because youve got a hole in your favourite pair, new washing machine because the one at home has flooded your kitchen. The list is endless and life is getting more tedious as the year goes on!
So many people feel like this and so many people are angry!

Good question. It wont change much but have a star!

Answer 2

Life is supposed to be about what you make it.

Don't waste time and energy being angry. Look around you. Think about the fact that there are people who are worse off than you are - no matter how badly off you are.

Life isn't about paying the bills - but paying the bills allows us to continue with life, with a roof over our heads. Once you have a roof over your head, and it's there to stay, start really living life.

Life is about a random hot day in October; the freedom to be able to go outside, breathe in the air and observe the world; all the people that you pass every day, who are living their own lives in their own worlds around us. Life is life. It is to be appreciated and used to the greatest extent.

Don't get weighed down by the mundane and the material.

There are lots of things in modern life that are rubbish. The tubes in London, for example! The pollution in Birmingham for another! The 8 year olds that are smoking and wear makeup and have mobile phones already!

But there are countless things in the modern world that are worth being grateful for. Emails and mobile phones that allow us to be closer to people, trains and planes that make impossible journeys possible, the fact that we do not have houses with bunkers because a war is going on. And if you live in England, America, or any other priveleged Western country, be thankful that you don't have to watch your family die of aids because there is no treatment, that you don't have to walk miles for dirty water and that you've got a way out of whatever situation you are in, unlike people who are born into 3rd world countries and have no escape.

You have to see the humour in it and look on the bright side, otherwise you are wasting your life. I think you would like this book - http://www.iseverythingshit.co.uk/

xx Emmie

EDIT - you know, I didn't even need to write this answer because I just read crossstichkelly's and it was spot on.

Answer 3

There is another way S Clause, the question is... are you willing to give up what you have now to go for it ? You say you are unhappy and Angry. Heres a tip. Sell everything you have, get out of your lease and commitments. Get all the money together that you can. Buy a plane ticket to Brazil, Manaus - look for Louiz Alberto Motta - an Amazon guide. He is in the Lonely planet guide. Ask him to take you into the jungle for 2 weeks.You will be hunting and gathering for your food- no bills- give your cash to Louiz . If you can do this and not long for home comforts - you have found your Utopia - if not you know where and how to get back to the life you have now. The worst that can happen is you return to your current life. You need to take risks in life in order to change it.

Answer 4

I know exactly what you mean.
I am fortunate in that I am retired and live in spendid isolation in the Highlands of Scotland so I am not surrounded by thousands of people though I do find myself becoming more and more withdrawn from society as a whole. I could very easily turn into a recluse.
Up here we can still go out and leave doors unlocked etc., though having lived in the South of England for 48 years until moving here in 1995, I always lock everything. Crime here is virtually nil but I still shred or burn everything with my details on. I trust NOBODY.
I am also fed up with the state of today's youth or should I say yobs. I find them frightening and I also find the prospect of coming down to England in about 3 weeks really scarey. Back to driving around with all my car doors locked.

Answer 5

Some aspects are good, like medicine, but things like money and government deaden the human spirit. There are so many things that we wish we could change but it is not possible, and there really is no where for people who yearn for a simpler life, even in the country you have to pay bills, and the government can still build a bypass through your house.

Answer 6

I agree with you, of course if modern has a couple of advantages (better medical care, telecommunications, and internet ; even if some pretty sick stuff is also done by these ways), it has so many disadvantages.. I wouldn't bother going back a couple of centuries early, even if i have to abandon my cosy home and all.. I would love to live in a community,w haring almost everything with people, sharing the values of genrosity, solidarity and mutual help.. Maybe I'm naive, but it does sound pretty attractive.. got to go, it's rainig outside, i'm having a walk !!

Answer 7

Not at all. I once read a piece that I've tried to remember ever since:

One day a philosophy professor walked into his classroom with a large jar and a bag. he set down the jar and said to his students, "This jar represents your life."

Then he put as many golf balls as he could into the jar. He asked his students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

After that, he pulled out a bag of pebbles. He poured them into the jar, filling up all the spaces between the golf balls. He asked again whether the jar was full. The students said yes.

Finally, he pulled out a bag of sand. He poured it into the jar, and it filled up the spaces between the pebbles. Again, he asked if the jar was full, and again the students said yes.

The professor then said, "The golf balls represent those things which make you what you are. They are your friends, family, pets, your home, you talents--the things you love and which you would feel true sorrow if you lost them.

"The pebbles are the other things which are important to you--your car, your job, important possessions. You would miss them, but you would be able to get over it.

"Finally, the sand is the everyday annoyances of life--paying bills, taking the kids to soccer, running thousands of errands throghout the day."

"As you can tell, you could easily fill this jar, your life, with sand. But don't forget the golf balls."

You have to remember that the things you are talking about are still sand.

Answer 8

Yeah ... I hear ya. Everybody seems to be out there to prove to everybody else that there life is better than yours. I mean what have we become - nobodies doing nothing except trying to sound that we really got it together. People see other people in so far as how associating with them will get them ahead. It's disgusting. Me ? I am going to celebrate all my inadequacies and be thankful that I can sift through some of the bs and still be a human.

Answer 9

I do not believe that life should have to be about living with the specter of constant insecurities dogging our every step. Nor should it be about the economic enslavement that modern society has subjected itself to. We live in a world where our rights and civil liberties are evaporating in the name of security. It seems to me that a malignancy is affecting society on every level and smashing society into little pieces that are easily intimidated and overpowered.

There are three basic things, which are fueling this change in our society fear, selfishness, and apathy.

In our modern world we fear every thing from terrorist attacks to identity theft. This leads us to mistrust of our neighbor and divides society.

Selfishness is a two pronged attack on society the first being that in our modern society we are first and foremost consumers stuffing our faces, buying new gadgets and seeking empty thrills to distract us from the ailments of the world around us. This divides society because we are to busy getting ours or just living to help build and bond society. The second being that elements of society are so self-consumed that they are willing to do anything to get what they want be it cut throat activities at work, identity theft or other crime. This divides and undermines society by feeding fear and mistrust.

Apathy is that overpowering giant that stops us from ever doing anything positive. We look at all the wrongness of the world around us and feel overwhelmed by the shear scope of it and come to the conclusion that there is nothing that can be done to make a difference. So we give up and allow the downward spiral to continue.

You asked for a better way. Well here it is. In the past patriots have risked their lives and the lives of their loved ones to obtain a worthwhile goal in throwing off oppressive regimes. It was a risk. Now today we must ask ourselves how do we throw off this oppression that is plaguing our society worldwide? Well I say we must take risks and change our views. Today an act of kindness is not just a feel good thing it is an act of defiance. Kindness is not an activity for the meek. It is a risk. Through kindness actively defy the wrongness of the world around you. Do not succumb to it! Get to know your neighbors, build trust and relationships. Do not let another young man walk through your neighborhood with his pants so low that the crack of his butt is showing without confronting him and letting him know it isn’t acceptable. Rebuild society from the ground up outside the establishments that have failed society by networking and coming together as communities that support each other outside of the political systems that are just another tool to divide. Adopt anew attitude, be defiant, be kind, and assist those in need where you can. We need a new kind of rebellion worldwide that spurns the things that divide. There is a better way but do we have the metal to take it up?

Answer 10

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