I am trying to understand this... if you are attracted to different sexes then aren't you saying sex is a choice... or defined by your piers or are you homo trying to be hetro?
2007-09-06 01:38:35 · 18 answers · asked by sam.mygee g 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
bisexuality means you aren't put off by either sex, lesbians would reject advances from guys, gay people would reject advances from girls.
being bisexual doesn't mean you can pick and choose who you feel attracted to.
take this, i'm bisexual, i like both guys and girls, but i'm with a guy, despite the fact that i'll probably get flack for it, and it's going to make life in future difficult. theres only reason why.
i fell in love with him.
i'm not homosexual, i'm not heterosexual, i'm bisexual, but just as heterosexual people don't just sleep around with the opposite sex, and homosexual people don't just sleep around with the same sex, i don't just sleep around with either sex.
i'm Bi, Monogamous, and proud of it.
2007-09-06 01:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by §ilver 5 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Nobody can control who they're attracted to, and anyone who says they can is just lying to themselves. Most people are attracted solely to the opposite sex, but there are many more people (both willing and unwilling to admit it) that have some inclinations towards the same sex, as well.
Sometimes gay guys say they're bi because that's easier for their friends to accept then their being gay. These people may later tell others that they are gay, or may continue to say they're bi indefinitely.
When girls say they're bi, however, they may just be doing so to attract guys (since we all know how bizarrely fascinated guys are by 2 girls making out, etc.). Those who really are attracted to both sexes, therefore, may run into the problem of being mistaken for one of these sluts.
I know that the Kinsey scale is a bit outdated, but it's infinitely more accurate than how most people describe themselves (straight, bi, gay). I urge everyone to know the K scale* and talk to people about it, not just as a public service, but because you can have some very interesting conversations with people you thought you had pegged.
Those who believe that being bi is only a "stepping stone" to being gay obviously do not understand it, just as those who say homosexuality is purely choice do not understand it.
Some men like women, some like men, and some like both. The same holds true for women, and there's nothing anyone can do to change it.
*http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
2007-09-06 02:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by oldwhatshername 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Its not a stepping stone for being gay.
There are some people that use it as a stepping stone.
But there are people that are really bisexual. And there is no choice. They might fall in love with a man or they might fall in love with a woman.
Whatever your sexuality is, you have a choice with who you have sex with. Whether its same sex, opposite sex or both.
2007-09-06 08:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by sparkle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some actual bisexuals. There are also some frightened young gay bois who say they are bi -- but know they are actually gay -- because it protects them from some of the prejudice for a little while. They aren't trying to be hetero, they are trying to be safe in general -- or they are dealing with the issue inside themselves -- you know the self-hatred and self-disgust that is generated by the bigots for those who listen to them.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
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2007-09-06 05:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
True bisexuality is NOT a choice. Of course, you have the option of choosing which attractions to pursue and which to ignore. But you have no control over who you are really attracted to. I think bisexuality is actually more misunderstood than homosexuality because it's difficult for people who are solely attracted to one sex to comprehend it.
It becomes even more complex when you take into consideration the people (usually teenager- college aged girls) who go through a bisexual "phase." In a way, this kind of trivializes bisexuality and makes people think it's something that can just be turned on or off. Also, the fact that some girls pretend to be bisexual in an attempt to get attention from guys is detrimental to the understanding of the entire issue.
Many times people in the gay community are not accepting of bisexual people because they simply don't understand it. It's quite ironic when you think about it, but it is still unfair.
I think we all just need to stop analyzing our own and others sexuality. Just follow your natural attractions and do what feels right to you.
2007-09-06 01:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Miss D 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
As a lifelong bi I've never found it more acceptable anywhere, we tend to be discriminated against by both sides. All sexual activity is a choice. Even a pedophile has no control over to whom he/she is attracted, only on whether or not to act on it. I am defined by myself alone, and am neither heterosexual or homosexual, why do you assume it must be otherwise?
2007-09-06 04:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sexual attraction is NOT a choice. *Slaps forehead vigorously in frustration.*
If you are bi, you're attracted to both sexes, more or less, depending on whether you have a heterosexual or gay leaning. Just like straight people, bi people don't choose to be bi, it's just the way they are. Although, as Woody Allen noted, it doubles their chances!
2007-09-06 01:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by chris m 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I reckon it is cos many adult adult males get off on the seen 2 women jointly and it variety of feels to fee properly interior the media, as an occasion, huge Brother & women kissing one yet another interior the spa in front of the adult adult males. i understand the bible makes connection with adult adult males could desire to purely lie with women or something, yet so a procedures as i'm worried the bible is just one religious checklist and not the ideal instruction manual to the thank you to stay one's existence. residing honourably, fairly and lovingly is plenty greater of an considerable message to deliver out to human beings than who somebody sleeps with. i ask your self whether the bible mentions what it does interior the pursuit of procreation purely, which completely negates the the final option to looking THE existence companion for you, no count who they're - male or lady. i'm hoping your husband unearths the capability to not flow to counselling set up via his foster father and unearths his very own 'faith', and peace, interior. it is as quickly as we are fairly unfastened. :)
2016-11-14 08:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by kujala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gay just trying to be a hetro. and its not more socially acceptable than being gay...
2007-09-06 06:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is having a closed mind a choice? Why do you make judgments on people looking for happiness?
2007-09-06 02:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Big-Sur-runner 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋