they where together for just under 3 years and where young but it was his first love- she botheres me yet he has nothing to do with her. its silly becuase my ex was also my first love but i dont have any feelings for him and have moved on -yet i always think he prefers his ex or would go talking to her if he saw her out - its so silly i know he has told me our relationship means more to him than anything but i still feel like this?
2007-09-06 00:17:37 · 9 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know exactly how you feel - although I am a confident bubbly person, when it comes to exes - i'm like the green eyed monster!! I don't know why it happens as I know they are the past and people need to move on but things just get into my head, buzz around and play on my mind. Be so careful of this though hun, it has cost me my marriage one way or another. This was not the only problem we had, but it was one I just couldn't get over. When I met my husband he had been married before, but only for 10 months, 12 years before we met. He was young and admits it was a mistake, but I could never get out of my head how he had done it all before. This always got to me and I would always bring it up and be nasty about it when we argued. I think I ground him down with it in the end. We had lots of other issues besides this, but I really don't think my behaviour about the whole thing helped.
If you love this guy and really want to be with him, please try and forget his past. Everyone has one - like you say, you do aswell, but if you can't leave it in the past where it belongs, then this relationship could well go the way mine did. People are in the past for a reason. If he wanted her, then surely he would be with her. He obviously doesn't and he has chosen to be with you. The way you feel about your ex is probably exactly the same way he feels about his. Try your hardest to forget and move on. Good luck xxx
2007-09-06 02:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by RachyC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us come with a romantic past. You say yourself that you had a love before him and that you have no feelings for your ex. You need to focus on the future with your husband, before you don't have one. The next time a thought pops into your head about his ex, you have to tell yourself it's silly and think about something else.
2007-09-06 07:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing his ex to get into your head.Grow up and move on.Know this,the things you fear most will happen to you.Something tells me his ex is hot eh?Come on looks are not everything.
2007-09-06 07:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen maybe the only reason why you are feeling like this is because he maybe talk to her more . and top of that u need to confront her saying thats your man and he dosent love u but if she is still doin g the same thing then its best to watch your boyfriend like see wat time he gets off and if hes late the way hes acting but if hes doin those things its time to let go
2007-09-06 07:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Nickalea A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have 2 choices.
1. move on and dont let it bother you
2. keep letting it get to you and possibly loose him.
2007-09-06 07:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by HeatherzFeatherz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's due to your insecurity with him, you don't really know where you stand in the relationship with him, do you?
2007-09-06 07:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue this way, you will destroy your relationship. Get over it!!!
2007-09-06 07:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur a control freak
2007-09-06 11:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by threecraws 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop letting this eat at you honey.....he's with YOU !!
2007-09-06 07:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋