Guys, do u prefere a wife who works or a wife who doesnt n take care of her house, husband and children...
i myself work now, but i'm planing not to when i get married n have children, cuz i wanna give my family the 1st priority in my life then comes everything else next...so many guys get surprised when they hear me saying this...but it's my choice n no one will force me to do something which i dont like to do...
wanna know your opinions...
2007-09-05 23:14:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
I prefer an educated wife who doesn't work. because she will raise good kids and we will have good communication.
BUT, at some stage the kids will be old enough to take care of themselvs , and she may want to work part time, I have absolutely no problem with that.
The basic concept is, wife should not work to earn money and spend on the family. she shouldnt be under the same pressure as man, it will cause big problems in the family.
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2007-09-06 02:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sultan Shalfat the Adventurer 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I actually have this conversation with my girlfriend a bit and she and I are in agreement which was how my mother and father raised me. When I was born (I am the oldest of my siblings) I would like and she would like it if she leaves the labor force to watch the kids while they are little. As the eldest gets old enough and mature enough to handle the responsibility of unlocking the door and letting his/her younger siblings into the house (I was 12 at the time when my parents gave me that responsibility) my mother went into the workforce. While my mother was a stay at home mom she was also taking courses part-time to get her MS in Accounting (became a CPA and is now a CFO of a foundation). That worked well for us and hopefully I will be married some day and have kids I too will have such a situation.
I think it makes much more sense for my future wife to stay at home and we struggle only on my salary a little bit than put the kids into a day care situation. I teach many kids who come from situations with one parent or two parent homes where both parents are forced to work and I find from my observations the kids who do best are the ones where the mother stays home at least during the kids elementry education years to take care of the kids. I would also suggest to women that they don't stay at home after the kids are old enough to be on their own because I have seen to many unhappy, bored women (empty nest syndrome) because they have nothing to fill their days with out work or taking care of the kids. This doesn't have to be a paying job, but the ladies should do something whether it be volunteer work at the local religious and/or community organization.
I don't know if this is what you are looking for - but its my honest answer on the issue of stay-at-home moms.
Good Luck!!!
2007-09-06 00:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
The best situation for me would be, that i have a high enough paying job that my wife doesnt need to work. She can stay at home and take care of the family, mostly because any woman I would marry would be able to care for children better then I. But if I couldnt get a high paying job, I would have no objection to her wanting to work, so long as we could find proper care for the kids.
2007-09-05 23:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by applebeer 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
i find that working mothers and wives are more lively, broad minded, and flexible than others.
a wife and mother who stays at home , serving and doing her best to make her family comfortable, isnt exactly getting what she wants.
she is over protective, too sensitive with the family that no one is really happy.
ive seen it in front of my eyes. a mother spending her precious hours teaching her children and supervising their homework. she becomes irritable , her husband is bored to death, and her children are dependent on her .
if you can work , say half the day. if you can have a part time maid . if you learn how to cook fast by putting the ingredients in a pyrex bowl and place it in the oven, you will be the winner.
if you can have a car to take you and your kids to school and work, you will feel alive.
if you have a mother or a mother in law who can help you with the babies till they go to the nursery, you will be lucky.
BUT IT AL DEPENDS ON YOU . DO YOU FEEL YOU WOULD BE MORE COMFORTABLE IF YOU DONT WORK , NOBODY CAN FORCE YOU TO DO OTHERWISE>
GOOD LUCK IN WHATEVER CHOICE YOU TAKE>
2007-09-06 10:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Moonrise 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
every persons situation is unique to them. no one can make this choice without being married and having children. Then the situation will decide, Ive been both a stay at home mama and a work outside the home mama. its hard work to be a working mother but its also hard work staying home with children.
How long would a marriage stay happy if a husband couldnt afford for you to stay home, would you stay home if you knew the long working hours and the suffering was too much for your man?
If you ever want to make god laugh go tell him your plans.
2007-09-06 02:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no i would work
all the old women that left thier work regret it
my friends mother toldus how she regrett leaving her work that she en3azelt 3n el 3alem kolo ....also i read ppl proplems and some woman after 25 years of marriage she found that her husband was very baad and he cheated on her ....etc and that she left work for him and now if she left him where to gooo????? how she is going to spend on her self and kids..????????
and i see that a man should help his wife in home raising children ....etc
in mu opinion i love the man that dont have anyproplem to accept his wife to work and also i respect the man that helps his wife in home
anyway i wont leave my job ( i am studing now but i wont leave my jooob NEVER(
2007-09-06 04:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...it's like you said...priority number one to family..but if a woman can balance comfortably...between both then why not work...
i want to work a part time job when i get married..cuz i want to be at home when my husband comes back and having enough energy to receive him and enjoy MY OWN SELF with him :D
2007-09-06 01:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I will work
Im still a student but in the future I will be a doctor & I cant lose all these years of studying & not work
It is difficult , I know , but my mam is working
& I think we r having a happy family
2007-09-06 02:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by sra2fat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on girl some go crazy at home,the great ones realize the difference they are making in their childs(husbands life) It truly is what god intended.
2007-09-08 15:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your going to ask me, i will prefer the woman to stay in the house if they have kids, but if they don't, then work, because there's nothing to do in the house, but if they have kids then FOR ME it would be better if one should stay in the house to take care of their child/ren so that the parents can teach the child/ren well wther about life, moral, or other subjects, and being a house mom is the most noble job, no pay but 24 hour job. hehe :)
2007-09-05 23:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by sciolism 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋