My mate has a muslim name which she hates cos she doesn't even believe in god. She is so offended that people are always asking is she's a muslim..She's thinking of chnaging her name legally to something that sounds more english or christian and also wants to start wearing a crucifix so people won't think shes 'one of them' ( I quote)..
What do you think? I don't know how to advise her...
2007-09-05 22:40:43 · 23 answers · asked by Fluffy ♥ 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I wouldn't tell her to change it. She may not be proud of who she is now, but once done she can't go backwards once she realizes that who she is and is proud of it.
2007-09-06 03:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Raven75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your friend's choice at the end of the day but it may insult her family quite badly. She has a muslim name because that's the tradition of her family and the part of the world from which they originate.
We have Christian names such as Paul, Peter, Simon, Mary, Elizabeth etc .... Judith and Deborah are Biblical names too.
I am a born again Christian and never wear a crucifix. I won't even wear a cross because I don't see the cross as an item of jewellery, it's the central tenet of my faith.
A crucifix is seen as more religious and is mainly worn by catholics (a crucifix has a figure on it; a cross is bare), she may have to be prepared to have people ask her questions about that. I have worn the ichthus (the fish) from time to time and people do ask what it means, plus, it draws other Christians to you because it's like a badge of identity for evangelicals .... which is precisely what it started out as.
Many people don't like their names, I'm not struck on mine but that's because I've had it all my life and it's ordinary to me but it's how people think of me now, I did go through a phase of wanting to change it and didn't believe the hosility I received - not so much from my family but from friends, the Muslim community is even more family orientated and even if she doesn't believe in God, she may want to keep her culture and heritage intact.
2007-09-06 05:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by elflaeda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she should wear a crucifix because she would be doing it for a wrong reason.
She doesn't have to change her name legally.
She can choose to be known by any name she wishes, provided that she is not doing so for illegal reasons. But if she just changes the name by which she is known, she will still have to give her given name on most formal documents.
The people who really matter to her will accept her by whatever name she has.
Isn't that the main thing?
2007-09-06 05:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by nontarzaniccaulkhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shge can only do what she feels is right for her, and what makes her happy. It is very sad that she is judged by her name, or relgious background, and in no way should she change anything because other people preceive things about her hun. As a friend all you can do is advise her, and support her, She has to decide what is right for her and who she is, not base her descisons on other peoples judgments, after all she does not want to end up doing somthing she may regret later hun x Good luck
2007-09-06 05:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Maria S © 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your name is very personal. If your friend is not happy with hers, then it's easy to change it.
Wearing crucifixes can be a good discipline for Christians, but if she has no plans to become one, it will only get her a new lot of enemies.
2007-09-06 05:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would she want a crucifix if she doesn't believe in god? i'm imagining people ask her is she's muslim by what she looks like not her name, i don't see what difference that would make. but if it would make her happy i don't see why she can't change her name
2007-09-06 05:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her parents obviously gave her the name for a reason.
It doesn't really matter what other people think, she should be proud to be an individual and be proud of her roots.
My middle name is my Mothers maiden name and is German in origin but apart from from having anglicised the pronunciation i wouldn't change it.
My advice to her, is be proud and rise above the bigots who mock you.
Good Luck.
2007-09-06 05:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by freddiem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think everyone should be happy with their name before they can be happy with their self.
Tell her to go for it.
Not too sure about the crucifix though.
x
2007-09-06 05:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by spick&span 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open the bible at any page and choose the first female name that appears. Add Smith as a surname and that will be your friend's new name.
2007-09-06 05:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by Tony Mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advice her to believe in god and to be pround that she is muslim, and also to be proud of her name, cuz her name is a part of her personality...do this if you really care about her and even if u're not having the same religion :)
god protect you both
2007-09-06 06:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by ^Butterfly^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋