You could be in a closet all of your life but why did you say you are gay to your friend or family? What was the reason?
I'm gay and going to come out tomorrow but I don't know why I want to say that I'm gay. I'm gonna tell it to only her and every else shouldn't know after she knows. Why? Do people want to tell secret?
2007-09-05 21:58:06 · 14 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Being brave doesn’t mean that you’re not scared. It means that if you are scared, you do the thing you’re afraid of anyway. Coming out and living openly as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or as a straight-supportive person is an act of bravery and authenticity. Whether it’s for the first time ever, or for the first time today – coming out may be most important thing you will do all day. Talk about it.
2007-09-06 14:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Because I was tired of pretending to be someone that I'm not. Most people assume that everyone else falls into the status quo of being straight. And while it's no one's business, people DO begin to wonder when one's life isn't following the "expected path" of coupling with the opposite sex, getting married and having children. I just wanted my friends and family to know the real me.
What you're feeling is known as the "pressure to disclose." You're aware that there is a disconnect in the way you feel as opposed to the way you behave socially. That's causing a fair amount of stress for you both mentally and emotionally. Pressure to disclose is the mind's way to impel you to reconcile your feelings and behavior.
How many people know is up to you though I might suggest that after you tell her, you may feel like telling the rest of the world. Trust me, it's very liberating when you've done it a couple of times and you will ultimately reach the point where you don't CARE if people know or not. It's YOUR life; don't let others put restrictions on it.
Good luck.
2007-09-06 00:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by HMFan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They want to tell their secret because it should not have to be a secret and you should be able to live your life openly as well as any straight person. Don't you want to be proud and show off the person you are with, regardless of whether you are gay or straight? Be proud of who or what you are!
2007-09-12 05:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Debi N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this answer sort of counts...
Instead of coming out to my family and friends I sounded out their reactions through just mentioning gay/lesbian stuff and seeing what their reactions were. This was pretty easy as one of our study modules for a subject at school was the GBLT community. This pretty much let me know who would be fine with it, and who would need time to adjust to the information or worse.
This led me to realise that I couldn't tell my family, and though most of my friends are comfortable with gays and lesbians, I've chosen not to tell them as these things have a habit of getting out, and I'm not yet comfortable with it being common knowledge among people who know me.
2007-09-05 23:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by AK Prince 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this predetermined society of straight you unconsciously feel like "circle-the-odd" type when you keep it hiding.
I could not bear the secret for more than 5 years the burden inside me was about to put me depression.
then i realized the best way to get out of this situation was to tell everyone. now this is me and thats it
pls tell before it is too late you will feel lighter when you reveal yourself
2007-09-05 22:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by Bobby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well coming out is something that you do for your self not other people thats a secret you tell because it makes life eiser being comfy in your own skin is very important you have to be open to be happy you dont have to sneak around
2007-09-13 06:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by fspade05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping it a secret wasn't so much as burning a hole in my hand. But it's apart of who I am, and I wasn't trying to hide. Because I wasn't not ashamed. My mother had a right to know, I mean everybody else did.
2007-09-06 04:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After years of denial, and years of sneaking around, I decided it was best just to live openly as who I really am. Why should I try to be someone I'm not? That's why I came out.
2007-09-06 04:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tim A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my sons father outed me to my dad, so i said f it. got tired of hiding it from my boyfriends. I'm bi sexual my man accepts that i love both sexes equally.( i would date women on a regular but the ones i meet are crazy) then i fell in love with him but that's not gonna stop how i feel about women.
2007-09-12 18:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should I hide who I am? I mean they kept telling me get a girlfriend, get a girlfriend. I had to eventually tell them I'm not interested in girls. It just makes sense.
2007-09-06 00:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋