and my husband-to-be has left to go see his family for a week. I know he needs his space and some time alone with family and friends will be good for him. However, he neglected to mention before he left, that one of the 'friends' he will be visiting is his EX of 7 years. I don't know what to do with myself, please help....
could he fall back in love with what was the love of his life.
HELP
2007-09-05 20:35:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Calm down. How is the ex, I have exs and we are just friends. Like I would not do a thing with them. Sometimes he might need to see if there is going to be an issue. If he really still has feelings for her he needs to know and not a couple years down the road. You and her could become great friends. If he is around her and all he can think of is you then I think you are very safe. Without really knowing much about the fella you will have to trust him. Trust will make and break a relationship. Most people on here think my wife is retarded to trust me, but she does not tell the whole story on things. She knows no matter what she will be taken care of and that is just not with money. As long as he wants to make sure you are happy and in good condition then you need to trust him and not make things harder for him to decide. Him, "Do I want to be with someone who does not trust me or someone who trust me" let me tell you that is not a hard answer. If he proves he can not be trusted then it is up to you from there, but you have to let someone make the mistake before you are mad at him or her for it. Also what the person does to make up for it and how bad he or she feels and if you can forgive. I have had relationships which I would forgive just about anything as long as it did not hurt other people or animals.
2007-09-05 21:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 40 4 and single, so my answer comes from observing the lives of married friends and my brother. everybody has a brilliant style of issues, each sometimes minor, usually serious. usually it somewhat is as a results of the fact the spouse has a brilliant style of issues, each sometimes the toddlers have issues additionally. usually the spouse spends money that the relatives does not have, she is mentally volatile, or the two. lots of the married couples i understand are fairly happy and stay jointly. the main considerable questioning holding maximum couples jointly is the youngsters.
2016-11-14 08:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way:
If he falls for her again, then it just wasn't meant to be for you guys. It's hard, but do you want a man who would easily forget about you because he sees an old flame? No. You should just chill out, enjoy your alone time, and be happy for him that he can still be cool with someone who was apparently an important part of his life at one time.
But if he ends up hooking up with her, drop his sorry *** and find a faithful man! ;)
2007-09-05 20:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nika 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. Do you trust him? 2. Does he really love you? 3. Is he the type of guy who is capable of jumping in the sack with his ex; because it's one last fling before he gets married? these questions need real answers. And if you don't feel comfortable with the answers you get; I would post pone the wedding. It could be the best choice you ever made in your life.
2007-09-05 20:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by runner45 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should trust him. He wants to marry you. Men can be friends with their ex girlfriends with no risk of falling for them again. This guy asked you to marry him, so he isn't going to mess that up. If you don't trust your man now or you never will.
2007-09-05 20:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by sumfin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously you weren't important enough for him to "let ya know'. He isn't going to visit her, he's going to get a last "one" for good ole times sake.
Beware of this guy if you plan on marrying him. Sorry to hear that these types of games are starting so early for you. Marriage isnt what it used to be I guess.
2007-09-05 21:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if he REALLY loves you then no matter how many of his exes come over he will not fall for them. This is actually a good test to see if he really loves you.
2007-09-05 20:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly He might fall right back in Love with his EX or if he really really love you and wants to marry you then you souldn't be worried.
2007-09-05 20:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by tneva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
During the time that you have been together, was his ex an issue? or was she your issue? if no I wouldnt worry about it because he probably had plenty of opportunity to go back with her in the course of your relationship and chose not to because he loves you... when he comes back talk about it and go from there....
2007-09-05 22:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you going to marry him, if he went to see his X? Are you kidding? He is cheating already, leave him behind, find a single guy with no baggage.
2007-09-05 20:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋