He comes tired from work n we hardly have sex once a week, i dont reach orgasm most of the times, ive told him many times but he does nothing for it. Both of us dont masturbate. Otherwise he is very loving and caring.
2007-09-05 20:24:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be honest if you want an orgasm, you will need to know your body. So a little self exploration will be needed. Once you are with him you could masturbate while you are having sex with him. Make sure he will be okay with this before you start doing it while with him. Some guys like watching a girl discover herself. Also figure out what causes the best orgasms, play on the outside or the inside. There are also things he can work on with himself. He could work on his PC muscle, the one when he is peeing and then stops peeing and starts again. That could help him last longer and working out the muscle will make him bigger. I hope this helps.
2007-09-05 20:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing I read in your article,"He is very loving and caring" I understand sexual frustration. Guys have it with their women all the time. There are some things not all women will do, and then the guy just feels like "OH Well" is it over yet. Maybe you ought to provide something new for him, and he might like it soooo much, he will return the favour to you. Know what I mean?
2007-09-05 20:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by runner45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes talking directly to ur mate about u don't reach ur orgasm is not the best way. try some fore play. or give him treatment to release his tired.
temporarely, put a side your tought of having sex with him. make him relax...or u could share stories. what important is to make him comfort.
while u do that, put on something fresh and sexy. something that ur man loves...it doesn't have to be a lingerie, his white cotton shirt might do just good (this has to be with his permit too of course) ...wear ur G-string and don't put on ur bra. let him see underneath it...let him see ur shaved leg when u sit next to him or while giving him massage. scented massage oil might help him relax and turn him on. or maybe u could give him a back scrub while u company him in bath. let him turns on first...when it happen, u just need to follow his game... :)
other tips: read magazine or book about sex, might do a great help for u, dear...
2007-09-05 21:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't masturbate, you're not going to get regular orgasms. You need to know your own body to be able to tell him how to please you!!
Don't just tell him you need 'more' explain to him what 'more' means and tell him exactly what you want. You can also try playing with your clitoris during sex or getting him to or using toys, using different positions and asking for plenty of foreplay or oral sex prior to sex.
Remember an orgasm is not only his responsibility, but yours too! Stop blaming him and get to it! Talk openly. Hints do not work!! Sex is intimate, but not so intimate that our partners can read our minds.
2007-09-05 21:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication and foreplay. You say you don't masturbate. Why not? Also try masturbating each other.. that can be really hot. Don't put too much pressure on him, he may suffer performance anxiety. just spend time exploring each others bodies. there are many educational websites that will help you learn to pleasure each other.
2007-09-05 23:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by sumfin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. My boyfriend wanted so bad for me to have an orgasm almost to the point of annoyance at times. Keep asking for one or take matters into your own hands.
2007-09-05 20:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what speed you go at, sometimes if I want a quick one I'm done in less that 5 mins, but if I want to make it last I just go slower and it can take up to 20 mins
2016-04-03 06:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
masturbate is the answer why dont you It is fun not as good as the real thing but will help till you get the sex thimg sorted aye
2007-09-05 20:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex life reminds me of a story of a man whose truck got stuck in the mud. He prayed and prayed to God to help him get out of the mud. Finally God sent him an answer. He told him God helps those who help themselves.
2007-09-05 20:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initiate sex. Reach over and start loving on him.
You should also buy yourself a vibrator. You can't put your needs on him, help yourself.
2007-09-05 20:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋