ok so i'm 13 and had my 1st kiss today but it was with a girl....i'm bi and we both like each other @ first i was happy & then i started thinking about it...i kissed her it was so sudden and random i just closed my eyes it was about 5sec and just touching lips then after she just smiled so did i but i didn't want my first kiss to b made by me i wanted some1 2 kiss me...&if thats not enough drama i have a b/f hes 15 (i'm 13) and the sweetest guy i've ever meet incase u were wondering hes a virgin and wants 2 wait till he finds some1 and gets to know them really well b4 he goes all the way) he trusted me enough 2 tell me about the horrible things that have happened 2 him and i trusted him to tell him about horrible things that people have done 2 me he said he really like me but after i kissed caitlin he called and said he has alot of drama & he promised it wasn't a line he really liked me but w/ all the stuff about hes mom he can't deal with more drama and he said he really really wants
2007-09-05 19:00:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
to stay friends untill things get back to normal & then we pick things back up but err i feel so depressed we were going to the movies saturday and i was really looking forward to it..hes going 2 call me tommorow but i can't stand to talk to him just hearing hes name makes me cry and talking to him...i just couldn't do it :'[
plz help what can i do 2 feel better or fix my problems with my love life and ok plz all of the people who think its bad to be bi or w.e. DON'T ******* COMMENT ok i'm so upset i need help i don't have a mom my dads a truck driver never home and my brother hates me i can't tell people about being bi cus ya don't want to ruin my rep but i just need nice people to help me out plz just help me :'[
2007-09-05 19:01:09 · update #1
The teen-age years are the most difficult of your life...this is true,no matter what anyone else says,remember this. They don't last forever. You are departing from your childhood,if it was stolen from you don't give up what's left without a fight. It is not your fault bad things happened to you and it is not your fault you don't have a concerned adult cheering you on and giving you guidance YOU ARE A WONDERFUL KID AND DESERVE IT. You are really lucky to have had a bf that doesn't lay the physical stuff on you or push you ...he must really like you and respect you;if you want to walk on the wild side just don't mess up your friend..think about it and if you are a friend to him let him go ,don't dangle him around thats messed up even if you cry while you do it. Get counseling
2007-09-05 19:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by nursepixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...this makes me remember how much i hated middleschool. Anyways, if you wanted to be kissed instead of making the kiss, the best way would be to wait for a guy, the guy will about 95% of the time make the move to kiss. As for being bi, whatever you want, its your buisness. What is stopping you from talking to "caitlin" about this? if you kissed her you should at least be friends right? Just remember a few things, your only 13, you still have highschool and college, life will go on. Try to stop the drama if you can, slow down, if you want a guy, focus on a guy, if you want a girl, just focus on the girl. Dont try for both at the same time, it will just make things more difficult. Just take a deep breathe, call your bf, or someone and talk to them about whatever is on your mind. It will be ok!
2007-09-06 02:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by applebeer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be afraid!
Life is great, but that doesn't mean you will be constantly happy. You will experience much worse problems in your life than you have now, but you also will have great pleasure through every single kiss you give or get, every person you love will make you feel more alive.
Your sexual orientation is your concern only. How you feel is dependant on what you believe to be important. If you love him, respect his decision and give him time. He might come back to you, he might not. If you show you hate him for leaving you, he definitely won't come back.
2007-09-06 02:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by baerchen80 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Erps, it sounds like things are getting complicated.
Of course there's nothing with being bi, or straight or lesbian/gay. Sometimes it's just a phase... Being from an all girls' school before, I know what you're talking about. Trust me, kissing a girl doesn't mean you are bisexual or lesbian.
You didn't really say whether your bf found out about you kissing a girl and that's why he is breaking up with you. If that's why, then you have to forgive him for feeling like it is drama. It kind of is cheating.
If he just broke up with you because like he said about his mom, then maybe that's just the plain fact. If he has to take care of his mom all the time, maybe he really doesn't want to have to take care of someone else. He is afterall still just a kid, like you. Have you been taking care of him more than he has been taking care of you? Being in a relationship is more than just being loved... Sometimes you need to make some contribution too.
I think you need to straighten out your thoughts before you talk to him. You need to consider if you are willing to support him throughout this dark period with no definite answer of him coming back to you. You also need to consider if you are too hurt by him to get back together. You may not think that you are too hurt, in fact you may be very eager to get back together with him. But the thing is, being hurt by someone means it will be hard to trust them.
When you decide that you will support him and that you will still trust him when you get back together, then I have no worry that your relationship will last if you get back together.
When you decide that you will support him but you won't trust him when you get back together, then you have realised that it is better to be friends.
When you decide that you won't support him, then it means your loss isn't so big - you didn't like him as much as you thought you did.
Feeling sad after breaking up with someone is natural. You feel sad because you are losing not only a bf but also a friend whom you share a lot of secrets with. But please don't let that depression affect you too much. I would say talk to someone so it doesn't stay bottled up for too long, but since you have your reasons for not talking to someone and it seems like you have no one to talk to at home, I think the best way is just to surround yourself with friends and keep yourself busy. Do small productive things... For me helping other people (even small things like just holding door open for elderly people), swimming, shopping and cleaning my room helps when I feel like my life is getting out of control.
As for the first kiss bit, don't worry about it. First times are overrated, it's the practice that counts ;)
I hope my advice kind of helps and that everything will be okay soon!
2007-09-06 02:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by kleinekatze 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi ya. its all common girl at this age. infatuations,crushes,first sigt love,afffairs, boyfrnds, confusion. just pull urself together.ur jst 13 . ther is a lot u wl learn abt life in years to cme . donot komit urself to marry anyone so soon. i kn understand ur depressed bt givin up is ntthe end. wel i too felt depressed at tat age bt was knstantly in touch wt my elder frends who helpd me to focus on my carrier. making love is nt the end .
2007-09-06 02:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by keru 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the feelin that you've got it's so natural.believe me it could be changed like the flow of waters. ask to your heart which side do you want.....she or he??if you've got decisions, make it opened to both of them and make it clear.don't be hopeless and trust yourself.there are so many ways and things in this world which could make yourself more matured.ok
2007-09-06 02:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I AM A PSYCHO
2007-09-06 02:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋