Do you appreciate relationships/friendships more when you go through hard times?

Question

Any kind of relationships - lovers or friends, if you go through REALLY bad, hard, and challenging times (to the point where you don't know what's going to happen) and OVERCOME it, do you value the relationship more? do you feel closer to the person and feel that your relationship has grown more?

I'm not talking about "oh we had a fight" (for like a week), i'm talking where it's dramatic...it's those hard times you just go through (like a blessing in disguise) - a big misunderstanding...

and w. "relationships", i mean you guys had to have been really close, have a great connection, and there's that mutual respect and understanding to fix things

GUYS, i would really appreciate your input: if someone you were close friends with (and somehow along the way you "crossed the friendship border - had months of awkward and misunderstandings - very messy), and you both have that mutual respect to be okay again, would you feel closer to this girl?

Answer 1

Yes, I definitely think you are right. Serious adversity in a relationship is a bridge to a closer, more emotionally bonded relationship if the two people can work it out together. Once you realize, you may lose something so important, it can really change your life and how you feel about those relationships.

Answer 2

One thing I have learned more than anything in a friendship is that no matter how long you've been a friendship...you wont the value or what it really means unless you go through some rough patches. It may sound cruel and dramatic but the most important lesson I learned is that everyone is human and in the end people, friends or not, are going to look out for their own welfare before all else. All you can do is hope that you can grow from it by learning that you have to keep a certain distance with everyone. When you cross a certain space with anyone...people take you for granted and often time forget everything youve done for them. In the end, there is never going to be a huge group of friends to help you and guide you through life, only a small handfull to "be there for you" Just be optimistic and hope that life and experiences with these people will help you to be a better human being....kindness is contagious...Ivee apreciated the experiences God has given me and I believe he puts me through trials with individuals for a reason............you should believe the same ....Good Luck...I hope this all made some sense =)

Answer 3

I am not a guy, but I wanted to share with you.

My husband and I nearly lost our teen daughter to a car accident in which she was a passenger.

She was in critical condition for weeks and on life support.

We worked together like bread and butter. He would fall apart and I would be strong, then I would fall apart and he would be Strong, God kept one of us together for the other.

Then while the daughter goes back into critical after starting to get better, another daughter's baby son dies shortly after birth.

This time we both lost it together and snapped at each other, but realized that it was stress and we gained our composure.

Moral of the story, if you start out with a great relationship that relationship can withstand all, but if you start the relationship wanting trauma to keep it together well forget it, it will not last!

Hoped that helped

Answer 4

Of course. I will feel closer to the one who I can share with when I am in a hard time of my life. That someone will be a special someone for me for sure. It is because I will appreciate so much to this person who care about me when I faced a hard time.

Answer 5

Hah! Amongst Canadians, a group of people quick to dash for the door when trouble arises because it upsets the thick layer of reserve and protocol? Because the boat cannot be rocked? Heaven forbid you hit the rapids, then they run. I have a few choice friends, often Native or European immigrants. The only group in this country who do not act this way is British Columbians. They refer to people east of the mountains as 'fake' and themselves as 'for real'. I agree. They at least have real relationships, are individualistic, honest, kind, helpful and do not interfere with the lives of others.

I do not get people so nosy as to intrude upon a personal life of a stranger with gossip, commentary, hostility, advice and such while ignoring one's family. I have an imperfect European immigrant family, but they are loyal, forgiving, honest, steadfast, patient, generous and helpful, qualities lacking in most of the people in this country.

Answer 6

I had some pretty hard times with my wife and I think our relationship got stronger from it. I had some troubles with my friends and we never got really close again. So, I don't know, may be this is just me, or it may work either way.

Answer 7

I'm starting to relize that friends dont really exist in this world. I've gone through tough times and can say they were never there for me. I had to do all the work of helping myself out. There only there for you when they want something from you.

Answer 8

i def say yes my relationship with my now husband is more better after having ups and downs.. You get to realize how to compromise and know each other through the hard time and how the hard time they will still be there for you or with you

Answer 9

Any 1 Who will stick wit you through all the B.S. DRAMA,
Or what ever it may be Is A TRUE FRIEND. THEY care what happens to you. The best thing is They due not expect you to put out for being their!

Answer 10

i appreciate all that and more, that what a true friend s
regardless if you are in a realtionship or not, that someone
that you know is a good person through good and the bad.
trust me those are rare. and if you have that kind of person
in your life, then you are truly blessed.