Asian Parents vs White Parents (double standard)?

Question

Growing up Asian I always wondered about how our parents raised us. Read below:

WHITE PARENT: Dad wants his son to be a Football jock , however, the son is interested in Ballet instead. So the dad gets angry at his son and yells at him. The son is forced to play football to please father and is unhappy with his decision. Although he is far more talented and loves Ballet, dad wants to raise a football jock and not a sissy Ballet dancer.

ASIAN PARENT: Parents want their child to be a doctor, engineer, or lawyer, however, the child is a talented artist offered a scholorship. The child dreams of a career in art and follow their passion. However, parents get angy and threaten to disown him and say "Do you want to be poor all you life?" So the asian kid pursues a career he is not interested in or skilled at.

Why is it that whites are considered to be abusive and psycho when they want their kids to be jocks.But Asian parents are praised for doing the same thing to their kid?

OK....Good answers here. However, I think some people misunderstood what I said when I wrote "Asian parents are praised".

What I meant was that, why are White parents considered to be abusive and out of control when they dictate their children's lives, but Asian parents are not held to that standard?

When Asian parents yell at their kids and force them into careers they don't want it is considered acceptable and nobody says anything about it. From my understanding it is basically the same thing.

What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

the idiot who posted this ,duh

Answer 2

Dad hopes to live vicariously through the actions of the son. There is nothing wrong with doing Ballet,,,especially if you are good at it. Try to realize that Both parents are the product of their own cultural background. They are trying to do what they hope is the right thing for the child. The poverty of Asia causes those that have suffered from it to want a better life for their kids. These choices of professions that make a lot of money tend to guarantee less suffering than the Asian parent grew up with. It should sway the thinking of the parents that there is a scholarship to be lost by this thinking of theirs.Maybe the child could remind the parents about OTHER kids that followed their hearts and did the thing that the parents thought was the wrong thing for that child.Give them examples of SUCCESSFUL people in the movies and great singers or musical groups ,or sports figures that have been able to overcome the odds and reach the goals that they set for their lives. BILLY JOEL,JOHN TRAVOLTA,ELVIS,THE BEATLES,JOHN WAYNE,MICHAEL JORDAN,,,,THE LIST IS LOOOOONG!!!!Research and prepare your point of view well before you present this to the parents. It may help you to show that you are not wishing to be a "failure". I say these things to you in the hope that you are living in AMERICA,,,and NOT in Asia.

Answer 3

I think it is only a "stereotype" that Asian parents are praised for this. I know some Asian kids, and my family has always thought the dad was way too harsh on the kids... they get yelled at for making B's and not A's, and when they make low A's, they get yelled at because they didn't make high A's.

The worst of it is how they expect the girls to be bone thin. They are already thin... but the dad keeps telling the teen that she is fat. Great way to send her into eating-disorder land.

No, I think that the majority of normal people think that ANY parent who acts like this, is crossing the emotional abuse line.

Answer 4

The reason for people praising these particular Asian parents is because most people don't know that their kids were forced to be doctors, engineers, or lawyers. I'll bet that the more 'Americanized' these Asian kids become, the more they will seek their individuality and rebel.

Answer 5

As parents, of course we will encourage our kids to not pursue paths which we feel will lead to hardship....i.e. either being a feminine man or a poor man. There is nothing wrong with this. It is abusive and psycho when the kid pursues the path of their choosing and the parent belittles them, disowns them, or otherwise makes the kid feel they are any less loved and accepted. And that applies to any parent of any race, nationality, or origin. I don't know much about Asian parenting....and in my neck of the woods there aren't boys that would be ballet dancers.....but my kids will always be loved and accepted regardless of the life they choose.

I don't think there is really a double standard....I just think perhaps one culture may not know much about the parenting of other cultures.

Answer 6

You're right, same problem, same situation. The difference is in the culture. Western, or American culture does not allow any parent to force their children to do something. It's against "human rights". Asian culture still allows parents to have control. So even if both children do not agree with their parents, Americans will complain, but Asians will not.

Answer 7

Stereotypes. They're killers.

Answer 8

i think your watching too many highschool movies.this isnt real life.

Answer 9

grow a backbone and be whatever the h3ll u wants and stop whinning.

Answer 10

!.

gay taylor, speaking this way is better than calling someone a bi*ch.... jealous HOMO...get over it....are all americans like you? no wonder they hate you

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