I'm so stressed out?

Question

I am really stressed out, to the point I can't sleep and I feel like I'm totally ineffective. I'm 15 weeks pregnant, I have a 2 year old son in the middle of his terrible 2's, my husband has been deployed since June, my house is out of control and I have 2 pets that drive me up the wall.
I just can't seem to keep up with it all. I hate clutter but I don't even know where to start. It's not like I sit on my butt all day, surfing the internet or watching TV, I'm rarely doing either one. When my husband left we had our entire spare room filled with boxes that I now have to go through because we'll need it for the baby. The boxes in there are filled with clothes and I've gone through about half. So now i have tons of clothes to wash and get rid of. UGH!
I know there are hundreds of women out there who manage every day, I don't need to be reminded of that or how I'm not as good as them. I just need some tips or tricks.

Also, just wanted to add, my 2 year old won't nap. He hasn't taken a nap for over a month, but he does sleep 12 hours each night.

Answer 1

Ok...first step...breathe!!!!!!!

Second step--focus on one thing. If you have laundry to do--focus on that until it's done. Then move onto the next thing. If you try to do too much at once, it will drive you batty...and you need to stay healthy for the little one growing inside you.

Make a list of the things that need to get done---and then pick one. Finish it to completion, then cross it off. :) Pick something else, do the same thing.

Breathe, lady...it'll be ok!!!

Answer 2

Ask a friend for some assistance and once you are able to tackle most of it, you will feel 100% better. Try taking on one room or area at a time --looking at the whole situation is obviously very stressing. Also, consider getting rid of one or both of the pets --they are as much work as children.

• Organize your space. You need to see what's in there, throw away what you don't often use (or put it efficiently in storage) and give everything else a convenient and clearly designated space.
• Clean out your belongings before you think about organizing (organizational tools, furniture, etc.). Don't do it the other way around. You can only really accurately know what space you have when you've cleaned up. If you don't really take a hard look at what you're stuffing in your spaces, you'll waste time and money organizing stuff you don't need anyway.
• Observe how you use your things and work out how to use your space efficiently. If it's inconvenient to get to things (or to put them away), your organization system is more likely to fail. Make it easy to get to and put away the things you need most often.
• Do you have items in your house that just take up space? Be sure to de-clutter regularly. Good questions to ask yourself in deciding: Do I need this? Will I need this in a year? Do I really love it? Is there someone else who could use this more? Do I have more than I could reasonably use in foreseeable future? Will I miss this if I don't have it?
• Know what "organized" looks and feels like. Organized spaces are simple to use. They have enough room for the items there. It makes sense. Every item in your home has a location. Organized spaces also feel calm, open, and welcoming.
• Use timers. Set a timer for how long you think a cleaning organizing task should take then work like crazy to get it done in the allotted time.
• Put it back. Right now. Once you establish where everything belongs, you need to get in the habit of putting it back there as soon as you're finished using it. Don't put it on the kitchen table or on the couch and move onto something else, thinking to yourself that you'll put it away later. That's a big no-no.

Answer 3

Oh you poor sweetie!
Each day, take just one thing that you want to accomplish and get that done. Then, if you have the energy, try to start on the next thing. If not, save it for the next day. By the end of the week you'll have 5 things accomplished without knocking yourself out. Then take a day or two and relax with the kids.
If you look at the whole picture you will always feel down. Look at only the thing you are concentrating on and get that out of the way.
Like shoveling 2 feet of snow out of a 100 foot driveway. Don't look down the entire driveway, just shovel one foot at a time and you'll get it done. Hope this helps! :)

Answer 4

Little bites. Calm down. take time for yourself to breath and take stock in yourself. Yoga.
Ok... now for the real stuff. 2 year old naps. pick up a little, move to the kitchen tidy up plan for dinner. We are talking about 1 hour tops! so that leaves 30 mins... use this time to relax. Make a cup of tea or lemonade and just sit back.
The 2 year old needs play time with other kids, make play dates at your house. While the kids are playing, you and the other mom can go into the box room and start turing into the nursery.
make a schedule for your 2 year old. Times and what they are to do. So 9am breakfast- put a picture of his fav cereal. 10am, story time pic of his fav book. and so on. Need ideas. Call your local preschools and ask for thier cirriculum or schecule- don't tell them it's for you, pretend you are looking into a school for your little one. use it as a guide. Let him put stars next to the tasks. Include help mommy pick up, and feed the pets. and give big praise and small rewards go a long way.
I hope this helps a little. and tell hubby "Thank you" for serving our country. We owe him (and you for supporting him) a big THANKS!

Answer 5

right this is a itemizing of straight forward issues one million. Get lively exercising on a daily basis 2. No alcohol in any respect (yeah, i be attentive to you're 14) 3. No espresso/tea/cola/chocolate because of the fact they have caffeine 4. Write down a itemizing of your issues and ideas for them. 5. Self help books, such because of the fact the hot temper scientific care 6. rest innovations, alongside with meditation 7. terrific could be to have cognitive behaviour scientific care (CBT) 8. drugs and organic stuff (organic nonsence) are issues you're able to sidestep. rigidity is extremely treatable. in case you do no longer take care of it, that's depressing, has a tendency to persist and can end you doing besides as you pick for to. P.S. you do no longer even have intense blood rigidity.

Answer 6

Ok, so the best advice i have for u is just to do as much as u can. Little by little u can manage. I do know of a website u can join for free called flylady.com. She tries to send u reminders everyday on certain things to focus on and kind of keeps u motivated. The emails u recieve from her get to be overwhelming just remember u can only do so much in a day. She has helped me quite a bit.
Good luck to u!! A big thanks to your hubby for serving! Congrats on the new baby and my deepest sympathy for your terrible two little guy. I can relate mine is 18 months old and i think he is going thru it early!!

Answer 7

Stop looking at the forest babe, and focus on a tree. ONE tree. Make ONE thing your project for the day. For instance, wake up in the morning and say, "OK, today I'm going to do two loads of that extra laundry, and fold it away for the Goodwill (or whatever)"

Little pieces at a time and you WILL get it done, I promise!!

Answer 8

Call your sister, or mom, or a friend for a hand. I'm sure they won't mind, probably be glad to help. They may can use some of the things you can't.

Answer 9

Try this prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Memorize it and use it as often as you need too.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Ask a friend or family member to come and help you.