My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 months now. I know that's not long and it was HIS idea to actually call each other a couple. I dont really know exactly what is going on with us or me or whatever, but he seems distant, and I dont know what to think and he has some sort of problem with talking about how he feels...as do many men I have heard. I cannot seem to feel relaxed around him. I like him a lot and I know he likes me as well but for some reason I'm just exhausting myself with the fear that he is going to break up with me, whether it be because I am not for him or cause he wants another girl or what. In the past I have been screwed with by guys and it's so hard not to think this way but I still am very gaurded with relationships and what they may end up as. I am nothing but nice to people, especially someone I'm dating, yet they seem to **** on me all the time! Why is this happening? I play things cool most of the time...I am a nice, smart, pretty girl.
2007-09-05 16:37:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your just not ready yet. Maybe due to the fact that you have had issues with a previous boyfriend who really screwed you over, you still haven't gotten to the point where you feel comfortable with yourself. And what your previous boyfriend did was make you feel a lot of self doubt. That is why you can't relax with you new one. You need to take a step back and "find yourself" before you can even relax and let yourself go with someone else. Take your time. You probably are a really smart wonderful girl, you just didn't give yourself enough time to heal from the first heartbreak.
Good luck to you.
2007-09-05 16:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want in a relationship? Focus on that and you won't be nervous. Whether it's always having a date for saturday nights, or someone you can call when you need help, keep that in mind instead of 'am I acting right?'
2007-09-05 16:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, he feels your tension and your angst. He is pulling away and your not imaging things. You will have to communicate with him the way he is comfortable communicating. And you have to communicate. But first go back to being the way you were with him in the beginning, play a little hard to get, bring the chase back into the relationship and have fun and stop worring.
2007-09-05 16:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think too much. You've only been together for 3 months. You're definitely going to ruin this relationship if you keep on thinking so negative all the time.
2007-09-05 16:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of them do like girls that treat them like ****, but not all of them. Just relax and let it flow, but stay true to yourself, don't start acting all emotional and insecure that will really run him off, just be you and if it is meant to be it will be and you will not have sacrificed Your pride or your dignity by looking all weak.
2007-09-05 16:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by leeg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋