Why is it bad to marry young??

Question

why do people think bein a teen and wanting to get married is a bad thing? if you know you love the person then why not im only 16 and i love my gf more than anythig in the world?? and i want to ask her to marry me but everyone says im too young to ask!! i need some advice so please help!!!!

Answer 1

When i was a young girl i could not wait to shave my legs. It was a very grown up but yet attainable goal. I begged and begged. Finally my mother conceded, and only then did i realize how much work would go into it. If i could have taken back the committment and put it off a few more years i would have. As a teen you are still too young to realize all that marriage entails. You probably look at your parents, or other adults and think how easy marriage is. Unfortunately it takes alot of work to get a marriage to that point. You will probably not put forth the effort to make it work because you have (1) had no real life experience to stick with something not matter how bad it gets, and (2) you will not be mature enough to completely put someone's needs before your own. And you should not have to. Marriage and family is a blessing, but it is also alot of work. Enjoy your youth. If you and your girl love each other then enjoy your youth together, but grow up enough to be able to really commit 110% to each other when you say I DO! Don't you think you both deserve that. It's not like shaving your legs, you can't just wear jeans today! Good Luck and God Bless You in whatever you decide.

Answer 2

Because you are young. This is puppy love. What will happen if you get married now and later on down the road you meet this other great girl but you wont be able to get to know her or see what could have been b/c you married to soon. Give yourself time to explore. Graduate go to college, Marriage can wait there are plenty of girls out there. What if you get married now she will end up pregnant drop out of school date for a while but dont jump the gun. You need to give yourself time to really know her before making such a big committment. You both have a future to look forward to but marrying this young could put big plans on hold you dont want to be young married w/ a child no further education to get a good job,take some time date a while please graduate first. Get a good job so if you do get married your both taken care of. Think about it if she loves you she will wait no need to rush good luck!

Answer 3

surely you will in no way particularly understand until you certainly do it. particularly there is not any problem with getting married youthful. Doing the deed is the straightforward section. that is what happens afterwards. Being at the same time while you're infants skill no longer something. you do no longer understand how commited your boy buddy would be after he marries you,has infants,gets fed up in intercourse with you and thinks he's lacking out on different women human beings. i'm no longer asserting it is going to ensue yet being 19 you particularly have not matured into the guy you would be at 25-28. that isn't any longer all approximately you there is yet somebody else in contact in this and you have not got any thought how he would be 5 years from now.i could say end college and revisit the assumption. universal the suitable age is 25-28.adult males particularly need alot greater time to mature than women human beings.

Answer 4

When I was 16 I thought I knew what it was to be in love. I thought I knew everything. Same thing when I was 18, 21, 24...I finally got married when I was 26...divorced at 33 because I still didn't know any better. At 16 you still have a ton of living to do. Even if you believe in your heart that you are old enough, your girlfriend might not be and having someone cheat on you because they never got the chance to sew their wild oats is very painful. If it is meant to be, it will last whether you are married or not. Please, at least wait until you have both had a chance to be young, go out and have fun, and know for sure what you want.

Answer 5

The reason people should wait until they are older is because there are things in life that you need to experience ..before you make that kind of commitment. People change as they get older....they want different things, view the world differently, love changes as time goes on, and not always for the better. How a 16 year old views relationships now will not be the same as when you are 26. And honestly, if she is your first love.....you won't remember much about her except possibly her name when you are 26. I was 18 my first marriage it lasted less than a year .Sorry I am not trying to hurt your feelings.

Answer 6

I married at 20. Im still married after 2 years. Of course we have our problems like every marriage, but we love each other unconditionally. I've grown and changed so much over these past 2 years and its been beneficial. You need to make sure not marrying her because u want to "play house". Seriously, so many couples do that and later realize it was a mistake. I'm a strong believer in living together before marriage!!!! Some people have horrible habits, and thats not something you want to find out about after "i do".

Be sure you're marrying her for the right reasons, and not because you want to jump your future, let things evolve, things happen for a reason, don't force it. Embrace Love, dont push it.

Answer 7

Hi friend,
Their concern is valid. Can you support a family? Do have a stable job if and when you start to have children? Believe me, as we all said "money ain't everything"..but "money is something" and if you don't have enough to sustain your basic needs, your marriage will simply crumble and love will just fall by the wayside. My advise is this..Look for a job 1st, if you find one, then go get married if you want to. After all, what might be "wrong" now, just might turn out to be the "rightest" thing you've ever done years from now. Just to encourage you, I have some friends (old classmates) who were condemned for marrying early. Now 25 years later, while my eldest is just 12 and we're just in the middle stage of family life, their kids are already in their 20s and working, thus helping out with the family finances..Heck, some of them even have grandchildren already. So who's to say what's "right" or what's "wrong"?Anyway before we close this conversation..Please find a job 1st.

Answer 8

Hi. Well this is the problem with teenagers. They THINK they love someone. How do you know she is "the one"....you have only been alive for 16 years! Enjoy high school, go to college, get a good job and then if the two of you are still sweethearts....have a big hootin wedding! But don't get married at 16. Legally, you cannot get married at your age. Well, I guess you can with your PARENT'S PERMISSION! Doesn't that tell you something! Give it time and enjoy your teen years.

Answer 9

Probably because at the age of 16 you really haven't even started out in life. Yes you love your girlfriend, but can you support her? Or better yet, get a job with only a 10th or 11th grade level? How about when a baby comes? You will have to have medical benifits or better yet the cash to pay off that bill which can run anywhere from $5,000 on up.
It's not that people think you are "dumb" for loving someone so much that it hurts. It's those people who care about you so much that they want to see you achieve your goal with the best possible outlook on your future. Finish High School and get your diploma go on to colleage and get your degree. Think of the wonderful life that you and your beautiful girlfriend can share in without the massive struggle of living from hand to mouth.
Good luck to both of you!

Answer 10

seriously at 16 you may be in love, and you might feel the same thing for your gf 10 years down the road but what happens if it all changes? i assume you both still live at home. trust me, i live with my bf im in my late 20's and he is in his 30's and it is a challenge! things change when your environment changes. wait until you graduate, move in together and see how compatable you both are in more of a domestic setting. you may not be able to handle being together 24 hours a day, or she might not be able to handle all of your habits. it is early and you dont have to have that peice of paper to prove your love to each other. Stay together and let things progress naturally, and when the time is right get married. divorce is hard and dont put yourself in the position to deal with it this young. you both have many many many years to grow. trust me i am so different at 27 then i was at 16. and the guys i thought i wanted to marry then i realize now would have been a disaster. i know it is hard to beleive but your personality is still developing and changing everyday. Your ideals and beleifs may be different 10 years from now and same thing with your girlfriend, so wait until you have both developed into individuals before you get together. honestly how many couples do you know that have stayed married when they tied the not at a young age?